Post # 1
Wanted to see if there are any bees out there who are in a relationship/engaged/married to someone younger or older than you? I have always been into older men, but when I met my now husband he was 5 years younger than me! I tried to friend zone him at first but he was so persistent and I finally gave into a dinner dae.. and as they say, the rest is history!
We definitely had our share of people saying it wouldn’t work and that I’d end up hurting him because he’s young.. but we have proved everyone otherwise and now they all say we’re perfect together.
Has anyone else had that kind of experience? Please share!
Post # 2
- Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.
I am 9 years younger than FH. His mother still doesn’t like our age difference and is old-school when it comes to what is expected & how I should be. My family never had an issue with our age difference, except, for a few friends & cousins who thought he was too old for me. Even when we were 20 and 29. Otherwise…people think we’re great together.
Post # 3
There’s a 9-year age difference between FI and I. I was 20 when we met (for about a month), and we had a lot of people tell us it wouldn’t work, or ask him what he was doing wasting time with a 20 year old. Now here we are, almost 6 years later, planning our wedding! We still get weird looks or remarks when people find out our age difference (mostly from women who happen to be around FI’s age, interestingly enough), but he looks young for his age so it’s not readily apparent that there’s a big age difference. He also acts like a big kid, so that helps. We notice it most when we talk about pop culture from our respective generations, or he mentions some show or actor I’ve never heard of. I love that I get to tease him because he was born in the ’70s, even if it was ’78. I also like to make crude jokes about the fact that I was in 4th grade while he was shotgunning beers in college. But it’s all in fun, and our ages have never caused any real issues in our relationship. 🙂
Post # 4
bpenisson: My FI is 6 years older than me, and no one has ever mentioned anything about the age difference to either of us. I don’t think it’s a huge age difference and once you’re a few years into your twenties, like I was when we started dating, age difference doesn’t mean much anymore. It’s different if you’re 16-19 and date someone 6 years older… because in terms of maturity and where you are in life you can be worlds apart. Or at least I hope people would be! Sadly there are a few who are 22 still act and live like they are 16.
Most of my dating history is dating those older than myself, whether it be a year or two more than myself or up to 11 years older than myself. I think it has a lot to do with where the other person is in their life compared to where you are, what things you both like and goals you share. That and men mature slower than women.
Post # 5
I am about two and a half years older than my FI. The age difference has never been a problem for either of us. For a while I could tell that certain people like my mother or his mother wouldn’t take us seriously because he was “younger” but now we have been together three years and are getting married, so it’s somewhat forced everyone else to get over it.
Post # 6
My FH (not quite FI) is 12 years my senior. It’s a lot, but for the most part, we don’t really notice. We’re extremely compatible, and I’ve always felt way older and more mature than my age. We met when I was 21 and he was 33. It’s worked out just fine for us 🙂
Post # 7
FI is 9 years older than me. His family didnt like it at first.. in all fairness. But they didnt hold it against me, and got past it quick. Still make the odd joke here and there. My older sister and Dad frowned about it for a bit until they got to know him too. We proved cleary we are in this for the long run and or love.
We did have lots of people questioning how long we would last, and question alot of things. High fiving the older dude being with the young chick. it was super annoying, but we didn tlet it get to us
Post # 8
My husband is 13 years older than me. In general, everyone has been great about it. However, I think part of that was because his ex was 16 years older than him, so when we meet it was wonderful news to my in-laws – as they felt like they had a shot at grandkids. Had that not been the case I think his mum would have questioned it more. As for my parents, age wasn’t the big issue – it was the long hair and the fact that he wasn’t from Sweden. Well, the long hair is gone but he can’t very well change that he’s Canadian so that “problem” still exist.
Post # 9
FI is a couple months younger than me. all of my exes were older than me though. i don’t think it’s weird, and i don’t know why other people think age differences are weird.
Post # 10
We have a 9 years age gap. I don’t think it’s really an issue, we’re 28 and 37 so it doesn’t show much. The only obvious difference is most likely related to pop culture. I was in elementary school when he first entered college, so we’ve grown up watching different TV shows, having different idols, listening to different music, etc. That’s pretty much it. We have similar interests now as adults, similar goals and we agree on pretty much everything. That’s what matters the most !
Post # 11
My husband is 17 years older than me. We both want the same things in life and agreed on a drama free life. We just got married 3 days ago. We were dating for 3 years. Life is amazing and I wouldn’t want it any other way!!
Post # 12
He’s 8 years older than me. My parents were concerned at first as we got together at 19 & 27. And well, at first even I was wondering why the hell he would bother with someone like me who is in a different place in life. But we were friends first for quite a while, and then fell in love, so that removed some of the initial barriers.
Since we’ve been together though we haven’t had any more comments. I think most of his friends and colleagues first thought I wasn’t that much younger. And now the age difference doesn’t seem as big, and it will only continue to be less and less of a big deal.
Post # 13
SO is five years older than me. It works for us because he took a little longer to decide on his college major, graduate and get his career going. I have dated guys younger than me who wanted to grow up too fast and guys much older (10-11 years) who never wanted to settle down. Cheers to finding someone on the same page!
Post # 14
I’m 9 years older than my husband! I think it’s different when the woman is older. You get all the “cougar” jokes (hence my screen name). But once that was out of the way, my family sees him as older, and his family forgets I’m older than all his siblings!! He’s actually younger than my youngest sister too.
It’s only a problem if you let it. What’s mostly my problem… is the whole age/pregnancy thing. I feel guilty we have so little time because of my age. But thats a whole different story. Although, nothing is garaunteed in this life so why not grab happiness in whatever package it comes in.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2013 - Our backyard
My husband is 15 years older than me. The in-laws absolutely do not have a problem with it but my parents do. To us, it matters what we feel about each other and not what others think. All of our friends have questioned us what we are doing with each other because of the age difference and we usually make a joke about i!