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I'm 27 and my FI is 36 . I never saw this as an issue but lately I get a lot of comments ... Saying that is too large of an age gap. Any of you bees have this experience ... What are some of you age differences
I don't see a huge issue at your age as long as you're In the same life stage more or less. We're 4 years apart and it's sometimes just enough that he talks about things and I'm like "yeah... Before my time" but mostly just funny.
Not too much of a difference at all. My grandma after she divorced my grandfather years ago married a guy 17 years younger than her they have been married now a little over 20 years and are still in love. Age is just a number. My mom just recently married a man that is about 9 years younger than her he was 34 and she was 43 when they married. No big deal.
@JustMarried51912: thanks for the comment ...thats wonderful to hear ...
I'm 27 & there is 16yrs between my SO & I. It was a minor issue in the beginning - he felt it paranoid that he was too old for me, as he'd been married before & has teenage kids. But I have never felt it be an issue & it didn't take very long for it to be a non-issue. Though his workmates have had a lot of fun ribbing him about having a younger woman.
My parents are 9 years apart also! My mom was 21 my dad was 30. They've been married for 27(?) years now! I think like a 20 year age difference would be a little shocking but 9 years doesnt seem like any kind of problem...
25 years between hubby and me! Age is irrelevant; it is attitude, personality and what you both want out of life that counts. I like to tell people that he might be older but I am more mature! I've never met anyone so perfect for me! 9 years is not so much if you are in a similar place with regards to your aims for house and family- and if you make each other incredibly happy, which I assume you do!
@Melp2017: My FI is only 6 weeks older than me, but Iwince dated someone who was 12 years older than me. I didn't find anything wrong with it since we got along fine. I don't think you should worry about it.
My FI is 17 years older than me.
Funny story. I met some of his brothers and spoke with his mom over the phone before. I finally went to meet them at a family reunion. Now, I do not look 35 at all. I got carded not to long ago at the movie theater. Well we went to church and as we were standing outside his brothers that I had already met came over and spoke to me and his sisters came over and introduced themselves to me. Then over came Aunt Cookie which is his aunt by his father's side. She hugged me and said are you FI's daughter? He has a 22 year old daughter. I just stood there in shock and didn't answer her. She then turned to FI and ask is this your lil girl? He said No, Aunt Cookie that's mrsjjohnson2b. She said Oops and walked away. It was so funny.
People make reference all the time about him being my daddy, which he is only 3 years younger than my parents, and we wouldn't say anything then start kissing or something and they are look OH. Age is just a number.
@Melp2017: My parents were those exact ages when they got married. 27+ years later, they are still happily married. I think as long as you can relate to one another, than there's no problem.
My gma got married at 19 to my gpa who was 36, they were together 20ish years. Shes been with her current husband for 20ish years and he is also 15ish years older. And my gpa (above gma's ex-husband) remarried a woman who is a couple years older than my parents, I think theres 30 years between them. And they had a kid right after they got married who is a year younger than my youngest sib. I think some people have an age gap preference, whether its conscious or not.
Age is just a number. I'm 21 and SO is 33. I only notice when other people point it out.
People are in relationships because they share common interests; but some people thnk that you can't have common interests with someone who is <insert number here> years older. I think they're wrong.
Age is irrelevant as long as the maturity levels, expectations and life goals are similar. No worries. I dated someone who was 10 years my senior when I was 23, and someone 8 years older when I was in college. It's not as taboo and uncommon as people may think.
My DH is 12 years older than me. It doesn't bother us in the slightest, and most people don't notice. They probably think he's 6 years or so older. He looks pretty young, and we act the same age. Don't listen to what others are saying about the difference. If it doesn't bother you, it shouldn't bother them.
That's not a big deal at all! I'm actually 2 years older than Danny and we joke about it all the time because obviously, 2 years isn't a huge deal, but if you're at the same point in your life and you're happy, I don't see the problem with an age gap, even if it's a large one (which, yours isn't too big.) don't worry about it. Even if he was 40 years older than you, as long as you're happy, who cares? :)
Age doesn't matter, maturity and compatibility do. My dad is 20 years older than my stepmother, met her when she was 22 (and I was 16 1/2). Everyone predicted she was in it "for the money", "for the greencard" (she's Czech), it wouldn't last, everything they could make up was said...that was 27 years ago. I couldn't WISH for a better stepmom. She loves him so much, takes great care of him, is way more compatible with him than my mom was (they divorced a couple years before my dad met stepmom, my dad loves skiing, golf, traveling--my mom hates all that), they are happy and still in love. As he's aging I am thankful all the time that she is there to take care of him and watch his health. She has been a great friend to me throughout it all. So ignore the age difference and enjoy yourselves!
Ha! well, my fiance and I are 18 years apart. Age isn't anything but a number. My fiance acts much younger than he is and I act much older, we are perfect for each other. I get the 'is this your father' all the time, quite annoying.
Nine and a half. I'm 21 and he's going to be 31 in May. People who only know one of us thinks it's weird, but people who are both of are friends are like, 'you two are like the same person! Of course you should be together forever!"
That's our age gap, about nine years. It raised some eyebrows when we started dating, but that was about it. FI got teased sometimes for being the "old guy".
But I'm fine with it. The only rough patch was when I hit my mid 20s, and did a whole bunch of changing which compounded some problems we were already having. We worked through it.
My husband is 11yrs older than me and the only time we notice is when he brings up a "remember when" and I say something along the lines of "Yeeaah... I was 5." He hates that, but having the demented sense-of-humor that I do, I find it funny. He's been a great source of patience and perspective during difficult times, which I credit not only to his maturity, but to his personality. He'd have had that same patience and insight at 20. If it works between you, I think it would work even if you'd met at different ages.
I agree that it's all about maturity, stage in life, and personality/attitudes. I hope you don't take the comments too seriously!
Age only really factors into babies, retirement planning, and end of life planning, in my opinion. Not into how well you get on, or what's "appropriate". If you two are cool with it and all that it entails, than that's awesome! My husband and I are 7 years apart, (I'm 28, he's 34), so we're pretty much in the same boat. Nobody has ever batted an eye!
My soon-to-be husband is 33 years older than I - and I love him more than anything. We've been together 5 years and are happier than ever. Like other's have said - it's all about the maturity level as well as likes and dislikes. We have so much in common, surprisingly. Our energy levels are on par with each other and we have similar hobbies. At first, our age gap was a little strange, but we (as well as people close to us) don't even notice it anymore. Sure, sometimes we get those weird looks from other people sometimes, but I am proud of our relationship and I never hesitate to say we are an item. And, there is no 'money' to speak of, so skeptics back off!
I have no desire for children, so that is not a factor either.
13 years here. Age is nothing. Your relationship is not based on a number, it is based on maturity level and finding someone on the same level as you to share your life with.
I tried younger guys and they were never in the same headspace as me. My older man makes a lot more sense!!!
My aunt and uncle are close to 9 years apart, and they've been together for over 30 years. I think that as long as the relationship is healthy and you are both happy, don't worry about what other people think. Enjoy being in a great relationship!
FI is 5 years older than me. Not a huge amount at all, but I had an ex somehow find out and go nuts about it...that was pretty strange.
Like everyone else said though, as long as your views and goals match up- age is just a number.
Our gap is just about 10 years. We faced some opposition at first from my family but now that they know FI they love him. Really no one notices, including us.
That's not a big difference at all. My fiancé and I are 11 years apart, as are his parents.
My aunt and uncle are 10 years apart. No issues at all. They have 2 kids and have been happily married for 29 years. If it works for you, that's all that matters!
Manfriend is 45, I'll be 27 next week. I have very few friends my own age, and he has plenty of younger friends. We are perfect together and everyone who knows us thinks so too. It's about the individuals, not the number :)
I'm 28 and my fiance (husband in 3 days!!) is 7 years older than I.
Who cares what people think! If you are happy then so be it. You are the one marrying him...not your critics!
10 years ago that might have been an issue (when you were 17 and he was 26) But now-- you're both mature consenting adults, I don't see where people's concerns are coming from???
There is actually research that shows couples with a bit of an age gap are more successful than those who are the same age. Obviously this is a generalization, but the idea behind it is that women mature faster than men, so often times women are happier with a man who is a bit older than them. My husband-to-be is 3.5 years older than me, the first time we met, when he was 17/18 I thought he was a childish jerk-- a few years later when we reconnected and he had some time to grow up, we hit it off. It's not about the numbers, it's about what works for YOU.
My parents were 10 years appart (marrying when my mom was 23 & my dad was 33) and they were happily married for almost 30 years before my father passed.
Are you kidding? FI is 12 years my senior and i LOVE IT 
..the experience, the charme, the knowledge, the know how.....
We're 21 years apart. I look older (in a good way) and he looks younger. He's less than 2 years younger than my mother and I'm 8 years older than his daughter. And you know what? It works because we communicate well together, love each other completely, have similar life goals, share many personality traits, hobbies, and interests, and encourage each other to be better people.
The stigma of a May-December relationship is still out there but it's slowly becoming more commonplace. Don't stress about what others say regarding your age difference; age is a useless factoid in a relationship. What matters is the compatibility, love, trust, and respect in your relationship.
@Melp2017: We have a 12 year gap, I'm slightly younger than you, he's slightly older than your FI. It's really not an issue in any relevant way. I certainly notice it in that he has an established career and I'm just getting going in mine, and our finances are coming from very different places, but I've observed that to be equally the case for couples much closer in age. He gets a little bit of crap from his friends about "robbing the cradle", but nothing major. It probably helps that I've always been a bit mature for my age, and he does look a bit younger than he is, everyone's surprised to find there is a significant gap.
There is only a 5 year gap between SO and myself, which is nothing compared to all you other bees. However, because we are both young, people make a bigger deal about it than if we were older. We don't care though, 10 years from now it wont matter anymore.
It has everything to do with the couple. Age played a big factor in my parents' divorce. They were 14 years apart, and about 22 when she met my dad. She's almost 40 now, but some of her biggest complaints was that she felt like she gave up a lot to be with my dad who was now more of a homebody, etc etc. She had "changed too much" and she was "too young" when they got together. Granted, she didn't marry him until she was like 26, but still.
I think with an age gap like that, the younger person is somehow rolling the dice just a bit. You never know how much you'll change and evolve as a young person to someone in their 30s, 40s and beyond.
You're 27 though, not exactly a child and 9 years is not a devastating age gap.
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