Post # 1
When I was in high school/ college, I would map out when I would like to get married and have children.
Thought I would get married at 23 and have children by 25. Well, for me it’s been pushed back. I got married at 26 and looks like I’ll have children when I’m 28 ish.
Wonder if nowadays, the age to have children has gotten later or earlier.
Post # 3
We’re estimating around 32-34. We’ll be in grad school till 30/31, and we want to wait until FI’s got a tenure-track position and I’ve got some stable employment as well, plus we’ve had some time to actually enjoy being financially stable and out of school without the burden of a baby. It’s so hard because if we push it any further back, I’ll be out of eggs! :X Ugh.
Post # 4
The age has definitely been pushed pack (actually, I wonder where you live?? In NYC it’s been pushed waaay pack).
I’ll be married a month before my 29th bday (we’ll have have been together since college), and plan on children in a couple years, around age 32.
BUT we only want 1, so that could make a difference to someone who wants a cast of many.
Post # 5
Good points. I used to live in Philly but now I live in Seattle.
Also, yeah, the number of children you want will also affect it.
Post # 6
Both my fiance’ and I will be 23 when we tie the knot. After the wedding we will make our big move to Austin and then get jobs and work. Then we will get a puppy…finally!!!!!! and then I will hopefully get pregnant after a year or two…
see, I still have the plan 🙂 haha but i think it will work out pretty well for us…
Post # 7
i had my daughter when i was 20, it was a great surprise but i was really young! at least that is what i think
Post # 8
I had no intention of having kids!! I was 24 when I had my oldest. And I had actually just gotten my foot in the door at a dream job, not kid friendly, when I discovered that I was pregnant. I just didn’t see myself as the Mommy type and I didn’t see the father as someone that I wanted to be with long term as it was a relationship based mostly on physical attraction. I assumed that if I had a child, it would be when I was in my mid thirties, by myself, after I had accomplished some really important things on my own. But it wasn’t important to me. I grew up as one of six children, so as an adult, I was very protective of my independence. The second I found out I was pregnant, my world was me and that baby, who is now my beautiful 8 yr old daughter. I’m now a mostly stay at home mom with two daughters and one on the way. Who knew??!
Post # 9
Growing up, my goal was not to get married or have children any earlier than 25. I wanted to be different than a lot of the girls in my surroundings and family members that chose a different path. And being so young back then, 25 seemed old enough for me. Actually, it seemed old to me, lol but again I was so young. As I got older, I was OK with everything happening at 30.
Well I made it some where in between. I got married at 27 and we will be welcoming our first child while I am 28 1/2 years old.
Post # 10
i’ll be 1 month shy of my 29th birthday when we get married… we still don’t know if we want kids but if we do, i’d say 31 or 32 for our first child. 2 would be the most we’d have so the second shortly after i’d bet.
Post # 11
I’m thinking it’ll be 26-27 for us. We want our first by the time Darling Husband is 30, which puts me at 27. Likely TTC at 26. But with me having endo, it could easily be 28/29. If we hit 28 and I still haven’t conceived, we’ll be doing IVF.
Post # 12
Estimating around 32 or 33.
Post # 13
i had pretty much the same time line as you, graduate from college get married and have kids. but i chose grad school instead. (thank god, my bf at the time was not for me!) so kids will hopefully happen at 27-28.
Post # 14
Where I grew up a lot of people got married young…during undergrad or right after….um, yah…I moved away after HS and didn’t get married until 29. Luckily we got pregnant our first month of trying, so I will be 30 and hubs 32. Sometimes I wish we were a little younger, so I wouldn’t feel as pressured to have ALL of my kids ASAP, but at least now we are financially set and in our career fields, etc, so hopefully that will counterbalance some of the other concerns. I’m 4 mos, and my age hasn’t affected anything so far…everything looks GREAT.
Post # 15
I had my daughter 3 months shy of my 22nd birthday. She is 12 years old now and it’s weird to think abotu starting over. Fiance and I plan to add 2 more kids to the combined 3 we have now. His two kids are grown 19 & 24 so it will be just my daughter and any kids we have together actually in the house.
Post # 16
I’ll be almost 25 when I get married but we probably won’t start trying for kids til I’m around 30. We’re both finishing grad school and after we’ll need some time to get settled into jobs and a new location, etc. Plus, we want that time to spend with just us.