Age

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Why? I feel like such a specific question ought to have some sort of explanation behind it!

Post # 4
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1867 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ll go ahead and ask what will be said numerous times… What’s the rush? 

Post # 5
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1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well I was 18 when I got married! It was just a few weeks before my 19th birthday. we had a very short engagement and a lot of people treated us like crap because of it. 

Im a little bit confused… Are you trying to find a maid of honour on here? If you don’t have anyone you want to ask you don’t have to have a bridal party!

Post # 6
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667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

NicoleStevens1114:  agreed with a pp… why so soon? And what other kind of support system do you have? Are your parents behind this? Going into marriage, especially so young, you’ll need that support on your side. On another note, how can you not have any friends at all? Not trying to sound judgey but you guys should at least have one friend in your life… I find it shocking and concerning that you don’t have any friends aside from one another.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

No jugement here but I do think you’re tossing around the idea of marriage way too early on in your life. However, I don’t think you’ll meet very many people your age here. There may be more specific forums out there for you, I don’t think this is it.<br /><br />I also agree that there is no rush. Marriage is not a race. You have your entire life ahead of you.<br /><br />If I got married at 16, the guy I would have married would’ve been a jerk and I would have been a selfish, immature person. I only realized these things until I was much older.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

NicoleStevens1114:  I’m glad you’re waiting till you’re 19. Honestly I think that is excellent judgment on your part. Can I ask how long you’ve been dating? And I’ll ask again: are your parents behind you in this decision?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

The fact that you’re so young and neither of you have friends is a huge red flag. This is the time in your life to go out and try new things. Go to college if its a goal of yours, establish a career… That absolutely doesn’t mean you two shouldn’t be together, but there’s A LOT of changing that happens between 16 to your early twenties (and even later). If you two are truly right for each other, you’ll weather those changes together, and it will make you stronger as a couple. The fact you come here for some sort of validation of your relationship proves you aren’t ready for marriage. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

May I ask why you are worrying about who is going to be your MOH when you still have 3 years until the wedding?  And may I also ask why you have no friends?  It seems a little odd to not have ANY friends at your age. Also why does it matter if you have a MOH, if it’s only the marriage that matters this is not something to worry about.  I hate to say this but your age is going to throw off a lot of bees, and it should because no 16 year old girl should be worrying about her wedding that is at least 3 years away and honestly may not happen because a lot of highschool relationships don’t make it past the first year in the real world and that is coming from someone who started dating her FI at 16 but we are waiting until next year (age 23) to get married.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

NicoleStevens1114:  Is there a reason neither of you have friends? Do you perhaps spend too much time together and isolate yourselves too much? While it is great to have each other, its also important to have a good network of friend and family support. I too started dating my DH young (at 14) and we got married last year at 25 and 27. But we made sure we each grew as individuals while growing up together. I think it is wise of you two to wait, but just be certain you focus on developing yourself outside of your relationship as well. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

NicoleStevens1114:  There’s a long time until your wedding, and it’s easy to make friends at your age. A MoH doesn’t need 3 years’ notice! So don’t worry about that kind of detail for another couple of years.

Post # 15
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8702 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

The fact that you two only have each other is not a good sign.

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