(Closed) Agh. He hates my shoes.

posted 5 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
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2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Sarahkay_3:  DON’T GUESS.

 

Go to your FI and say, “Hunny, you said that these aren’t wedding shoes, and I have no idea what that means. What do you feel are better shoes? Heels? White? More sparkle? Less decoration?” Also, tell him why you chose them, “I bought these shoes because I wanted something blue, but maybe this is too much blue?”. Sometimes reasons make a difference in opinion.

Post # 4
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Why does it matter? Does he need to approve of everything you wear? It doesn’t seem healthy…

Post # 5
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1808 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

He probably won’t even notice your shoes.  At all.  Hello, you’ll be wearing a wedding gown and marrying him!  BUT if you really feel this is a problem, ask what his definition of a “wedding shoe” really is, and go from there.

Post # 6
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243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MissNumbers:  I think it’s reasonable that both partners have joint decision on the wedding clothing and decorations. Wedding clothing =/= everything you wear.

Post # 7
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@PlumeriaSplash:  +1 my FI and i planned everything together. To the last detail. Maybe ask him exactly what he means by what he said.

Post # 8
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Why does he get an opinion on your shoes?? I would never ask my FI! You’re wearing them!!!!!

 

My FI will be wearing white & black spectators… not my favorite, but they are his feet!

Post # 9
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2451 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

What in the world are “wedding shoes”? I’m scratching my head as well. Do you like them? Then keep them and wear them, no need to show them to your FI for his approval. Unless his name happens to be Jimmy Choo.

Post # 10
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If my FI had to approve what I wear I guess I’d either be naked or he’d be pissed everyday and vice versa.  I don’t understand it the approval thing at all. 

 

Post # 12
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6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I didn’t show my DH (then FI) my wedding shoes, but I did tell him that they were pink and he HATED the idea and tried to veto it many times!

I did not let him veto it and told him too bad my shoes were going to be pink!

I also added pink crinoline under my dress but I didn’t tell him because I thought he would veto that too! LOL

Turns out on the wedding day he loved my pink shoes and my pink crinoline and said it was very me!

Trust me, the last thing your FI will care about on your wedding day is your SHOES!!!!!

Go with what you love! 

Post # 13
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1808 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Sarahkay_3:  I’m so sorry if you thought the rest of us were attacking you or something!  I was just trying to relate what I thought the male perspective would actually be on the wedding day!  My hubby is only a few inches taller than me, so i went for a lower heel that was  somewhat strappy.  If this helps, here is what I wore to my reception:

http://www.dsw.com/shoe/liz+claiborne+massey+sandal?prodId=166795&activeCats=cat10006,dsw12cat1190016

I wore the off-white.  It only has a 2.5″ heel, but still seems like a strappy high heel, and it was so comfortable and I could dance in them!

Post # 14
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500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

What about looking for some elegant sparkly shoe clips to dress your shoes up a bit? I bet that would look great with the blue satin!

Post # 15
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4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m of the camp that he won’t even notice your shoes. (And why did you ask him in the first place?) But I think that if there is a chance he will notice and be upset, then it might be really helpful to ask some of the questions mentinoed above, and then try to find a new pair that he thinks are more “wedding appropriate.”

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