Agonizing about defriending facebook friends.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8476 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@solidarity:  I don’t think this is something worth agonzing about…’s just facebook.

Post # 4
293 posts
Helper bee

@solidarity:  I deleted everyone that wasn’t part of my family, family friends or friend group. I don’t have many people on facebook at all now, but I much prefer it that way.

Post # 6
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Deleting people off facebook is something I do rather often, and when people ask me why I delete so many people the answer is always the same, its my facebook, and I don’t have to be friends with people on facebook to be friends with them in the real world. I think way too many people take facebook way too seriously. If you don’t want her on your friend list then delete her. 

Post # 8
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I use FB for idle chitchat, not for anything important.  When I have big news to share, I use more personal channels to tell the people I care about.  FB was the last to know about my engagement and my pregnancy.

I agree with PP who said that the key is to deprioritize the significance of FB.  “FB friend” is to “true friend” as Snapple is to iced tea: A poor substitute that hardly resembles the real version.

Post # 9
8476 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@solidarity:  If you were formerly close to her, but you no longer are, then it seems like the friendship ended a while ago.  Still doesn’t seem like something to agonize over because you’re not really losing anything you haven’t already lost.

Post # 11
7451 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

don’t stress, it’s just facebook.

many times i have deleted people and hid people from my newsfeed.

Post # 12
2535 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Honestly, I purge my Facebook friends list every 6 months.

Don’t feel bad about it – it’s just Facebook, it’s not like you’re walking up to her and physically slapping her in the face.

Facebook might be a nice way to keep in touch with someone, but the internet does not a friendship make – you can’t depend on Facebook to be a lifeline to a receding friendship (especially with a jerk move like skipping your wedding)

If she gets offended about it, there’s two things:
1. Facebook friends do not equal real friends
2. You won’t know because you’re not Facebook friends! 🙂

Post # 13
2613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@solidarity:  Defriend and stop sweating it. Neither of you seem interested in being actual friends so its no big deal.

Post # 14
6071 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Im a bad person to ask lol I delete people at will. I see something that is slightly annoying from someone who isn’t a major player in my regular life? DELETE. You post one too many inspirational photos when im pms’ing? DELETE. Im trigger happy with that delete button.

the point is, it’s facebook. DELETE. You got this! 🙂

Post # 15
1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Since you’re hesitating about deleting her, why not just unsubscribe from her? It’s basically defriending without the other person ever being aware.

Post # 16
11807 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have a hard time with this too.  I go through the – what if we want to reconnect later and she realizes I unfriended her – thought process.

I need to do a purge, I have way too many people from High School that i haven’t seen in more than a decade on my list and I would not have kept in touch with if it weren’t for facebook.

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