Agreeing on a wedding budget/idea

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Orchid71:  What I did with my fiance was sat down and discussed what we each envisioned for our wedding day. Before getting to budget, I would recommend you sit down and discuss what you see being included for that day. Who you want there. What you want the vibe to be. What elements you would regret not having had 10 or 20 or more years down the line.

Then discuss budget from there. Attach a bare minimum number to essential line items. Rather than having a final figure and distributing it among the different line items, build your budget from the ground up. Once you’re on the same page for vision, it will be a lot easier to determine a budget that is acceptable to the both of you. Certain things just boil down to planning in reality rather than fantasy land – certain things cost a certain amount and it’s only negotiable to a degree. It seems like you’ll be doing a lot more planning but this day is about both of you and you need to find a vision you’re happy with together.

Also, just based on your post, it sounds like you’re a bit resentful about how much time and energy you’ll be putting into planning a wedding which will primarily be for his family. Maybe sit down and discuss inviting people more equitably? Can you put some of his family out to include more people who are important in your life?

I’m not sure how my tone is coming across but I completely get your frustration. I think it boils down to vision though so I would emphasize that for now and then work up to budget.

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