I’m so frustrated! I need a vent!
I’ve written many many posts about the issues with my now MIL and SIL, you can go back and read them but I want to first state, that I am by all means not the kind of person at all that has made my DH disown his family or any of the such, I am deeply rooted to family and believe very strongly it in. We made the discussion together after the events of our wedding, throughout our engagement we tried very hard to make things work them, to the point of almost destroying our relationship due the stress and issues, and the constant abuse his mother was putting me, my family, and then him through. It took my DH awhile for him to realize the extent of what they were doing and now he fully 100% sees it and doesn’t want them ( more so his mother in our life). It still pains both of us very much because it’s very sad that I have no in laws and he has no mother or sister because of pure, out right jealously.
During the last few months of our engagement, my DH told his mother/sister they were not welcome in OUR life if she was not going to respect me and our relationship, she still continued to harass us with non stop phone calls and texts. My DH only had a work cell phone that he was allowed to use for personal ( obviously within reason) At one point, his sister sent him over 100 texts in 2 hours. Thankfully for him, he was handing in his phone since it was his last day at the job and he was moving onto a new job. We agreed that they would not be given his new cell info and they weren’t.
My DH was very select of who he gave out his new work cell phone to, and we then ended up getting him a personal cell as well. However, before that happened, he gave his cousin his work cell number to call when he got into town. Sadly his cousin gave out his cell number to his mother. For awhile she kept calling him on it, and he finally flipped on her telling her she was not permitted to use his work cell ( she has the house number, that she refused to call because of me), well she kept doing it and then finally stopped. Then around New Years she started up again ( calling at 2am, texting) then he starts getting texts from his Aunts TO HIS WORK phone. So he reaches out to all the people who are now calling and tells them not to be using this number, they stop, but his mother kept going, and then finally stops. At this point my DH starts looking into changing his WORK phone number.
He now gets a random text from his mom again on his work phone yet again. And she says this “I don’t know what justification you have made up in your mind but you are wrong, and when you grow up and become a civil adult call me to talk about it”
He responds to her “step back and look at how you’ve acted before you ever accuse me of anything again. You think you’re always right, and you’ll destroy relationships to prove how Right you are to everyone else. As long as you care more about you being right than other people, I will not be calling. This is my work phone, and as I’ve requested before, please don’t text or call”.
We just talked and he is going to follow up with his tech department to work on getting the number changed, but he is super pissed because he works in the field it’s going to be a total PITA if he has to change his number and reach out to all his contacts now. I’m so madeand upset for him and that she puts him through this. I mean you mess with our pesonal life, and that sucks, but for godsake she is messing with her sons professionalism and livelyhood! It’s just so upsetting when she pulls this crap every few months. I mean how a women thinks that she can try and destroy her sons relationship because she wants to be number 1 and then makes her daughter just as crazy as she is, a mother that says she isn’t coming to her sons wedding, then shows up, and shows up with 10 extra people, and then punches my father in law, tries attacking me, calls my mom a whore, my dad a liar ( as she is HANGING, and grabbing all my DH guy friends very inappropriately), went around during the wedding saying that I was the root of all evil, and then on our honeymoon sends us nasty emails and posting on our facebook telling us we are going to die and have bad things happen to us!
GRRR, sorry ladies for the long ranting post. I just needed to vent it out!