- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017
I’ve been having a slightly rough time waiting lately….well, over the last couple months. It seems like EVERYONE is getting engaged (a couple close friends) or finding out they’re pregnant. It’s getting me down a little bit, although I’m sooo excited for them all. It’s so hard sometimes though.
SO lost his job right before Christmas. Hard to explain the details, but pretty much he was working for an internal temp service for a company and got hired through the temp part for “temp to hire” after a probational period (with 7 other guys….5 were going to get hired). His probational period was up and he got offered a job on the 17th of December, went for the physical and whatnot and passed with flying colors. They also did a background check and he was upfront and honest with them and said he had a DUI when he was 21 (a little over 5 years ago). It came up on the background check and they let him go on the 21st of December. He isn’t even required to drive a vehicle (has his license still anyways), just a cart (not even considered a forklift) so it doesn’t really make sense — he never did anything wrong and was hitting above rate for their job every day. They also let two other good guys go…and even the supervisors were saying htey probably planned for too many people to get hired and then when they weren’t as busy as they thought they’d be, they had to come up with some reason to let them go. Anyways, we live together in a townhome (renting) and I can afford to pay it all on my own. I’m doing that for this month for sure while he goes through some training to get a different kind of job while he’s also looking for another job for a temporary time until he can get something more substantial. He is doing things for his mom’s buisness to help her out so that he can get a little money.
We were talking about everything last week and he made the comment “I had a date picked to propose and I hope I can still follow through with it because that’s when I personally want to do it…but now with this whole job thing I don’t know. It makes me stressed and sad.” I know he’s trying…but it’s just very hard to know that sometime in the next few months it was going to happen and it might now be put on hold 🙁 It is especially hard when a couple close friends got engaged and a couple are trying for babies and I want to be where they are so bad. So so bad.
We looked at rings after dating almost 5 months, again at about 8 months, and again a little before he lost his job. It makes it that much harder, going in and seeing those beautiful rings! I had gotten sized after he told me to, and went with a friend first before going with him. I fell in love with a beautiful Verragio ring and wanted it so bad but I know it’s expensive (just the E-ring without the diamond costs more than a nice diamond around 0.75-1ct)….and I said I didn’t NEED that one, as beautiful as it is, and we looked at other rings together and decided on a couple other rings that are just as beautiful but through a different jeweler. When we first went to look, he told me “Whatever you want, to make you feel like a princess on our day, is what you’re going to get. You’re my lady to spoil and I will do so.” but I’ve since convinced him that more expensive and elaborate is not required. I’m 23 and he’s 26, and we’ve been dating a year….we know we’re going to get married and both our families already know it is going to happen. In fact, his mom introduced me to his step-dad’s sister as her future daughter in law. It’s just soooooooooooo hard waiting to at least have the ring.
I guess I need to tell myself to calm down and be patient. Blah. I know financially it is not the best time to get engaged anyways but ughhhhh it’s sooo hard to wait.