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I know exactly how you feel! We had a few people do the same "YAY got the save the date cannot wait!!" but I really didnt want that posted on facebook because I am "friends" with so many people that aren't invited to the wedding. I'd just get on there as soon as possible, delete it, and send her a PM later. I know exactly how you're feeling so don't feel too silly!
Oh no! That's unfortunate!!! Most of the tme, people are just so excited for you that they don't think that they're posting on a semi-public forum. PM her, and she should be able to delete her own comment hopefully before too many people see it!
Yikes! I hadn't even thought of this happening. I think I'd follow HumarockBride's suggestion to just delete it write a way and pm her.
LOL - Ive had the same thing happen to me especially with people's older kids that are on facebook and my friends, but we are sending invites to the parents and no kids allowed. They have asked me about the wedding and obviously Ill tell them but I always mention its a small wedding & adult reception.
My sister recently posted my wedding date in a FB status & there are several people I dont want knowing any info about my wedding whatsoever. Our site is private for that reason - but it's on there - so any stalker people might have come across it to - yet another dilema us brides face in the wake of FB! LOL.
Good luck - just read up all the board post stating how to tell non-invite people they arent invited. I reccently had to go through it in person (a friend asked about the wedding & someone non-invited was at the table) Awkward moment.
Oh no! That sucks! I think all us Facebookers should take note of this and maybe adjust our privacy settings and who can see our wall postings once it's time for the STDs to go out. I sure will because I'll totally be in the same predicament if I don't. Hopefully you deleted it fast enough that nobody saw it.
Thanks for the re-assuring words, Bees! I'm still 3.5 or so hours away from my personal computer, so it's going to stress me out till then!! 
It's not silly! I'm a good ways from sending out SaveTheDates and I already have the same fears! Especially with co-workers I am inviting talking about it at work and making others -unintentionally- feel bad about not getting an invite! I think I'll just be casually mentioning to everyone to not make it a big deal in public that they got an invite....
I'm worried about that too because I want nothing about my wedding on facebook--including pictures. I know that's extreme but that's me. I'll end up telling most of our friends not to post stuff on facebook but the other guests, well I guess there's nothing I can do.
Oh that would totally bug me! Another reason why Facebook drives me nuts.
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Can you call your friend and have her delete her comment?? I am sure she'll understand!
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Well, she's actually FH's friend's SO, so I'm not too too close. But I'll try messaging her! Fingers crossed!
That sucks. I was worried about that happening so I made sure I send them all out at the same time. I hope she deletes her comment.
Phew! Problem solved, Bees! I got my mom to sign onto my facebook account (I'm wondering if she's like: What is this "Facebook" thing?) and with very specific instructions had her delete the post. And I've sent a PM to the poster saying Thanks! (Since she was just excited after all).
Phew!!! Thanks for all your support! But I hope this stressful moment at least showed the possibility that this can happen!
That's troublesome, but honestly, I don't think EVERYONE you are friends with on a social networking site should expect to be invited to these types of things, just like every co-worker shouldn't. So I wouldn't worry too much about it.
If it is really that important to you to keep your wedding off facebook, its probably best to suspend your facebook account ... just sayin'
I agree that really is unfortunate :(
Could you maybe give her a phone call or txt?
Also, maybe have a close friend log into your account to delete it (somebody that wont go through your account and respect your privacy)?
I actually wouldn't want to suspend my facebook account because if there's stuff about my wedding on there (like pics) I would want to know about them.
I currently have my wall turned off for pregnancy related reasons (not all of my fam knows yet and don't want the ones on fb to see before they are told....had this happen when i got engaged, very tragic) SO I would turn off your wall, set it to only you can see posts and it doesn't give anyone the option to post on it....they can still comment on your statusif you put one up andon photos and can send you messages....thats my advice to help you keep it on the DL and keep your fb.
When we sent ours, I just closed the Wall so no one was able to write any comments on it.
That's lame!!! that's the one thing I don’t like about facebook, when we thought about getting married I told one of my friends we were doing the fiancé visa application (We wanted to send the paper before telling EVERYONE) she told me how excited she was over agg -> facebook and half hour later I had about 20 post of congratulations and friends that got sentimental and hurt that I didn’t share the "news" with them.
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So I am at work, where I don't have access to Facebook except for the condensed version on my Blackberry. I just got a notification that one of our guests had posted on my wall - She just received our save the date and thought it was really cute!
That's really sweet - the only issue is that we're keeping our wedding really small and aren't inviting that many people, and furthermore haven't finished sending out all (or most) of our save the dates yet! I don't want the people who we are inviting (but haven't yet received their Save The Dates yet) to feel hurt and think they aren't invited, or are on a B-list. And I don't want people who *aren't* invited, etc. etc - just basically trying to keep things low-key!
AHHH! I tried frantically to delete her wall posting (and I'm going to send her a PM later saying Thanks!) but my blackberry version on facebook doesn't allow me to!
I know it's kinda silly, but this is totally stressing me out!