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Here I am at work, minding my own business, and one of the guys I work with comes up to me and says, "aw, your face is changing...it's cute, you look like a chipmunk!" I must have looked at him like he was a moron because he responded with, "What? You look chipmunk-y...chipmunks are cute!!"
You'd think a guy who's wife has been pregnant 3 times would know better than to comment on the weight I'm supposedly now putting on in my face.
Have you gotten any jackhole comments from people since you've been pregnant?
"You guys ever gonna get married or are you just gonna keep popping out kids?" - my friend's brother.
He did have a point - we had 3 kids before we got married.
@nachos: Ever since I was a child, I've had round cheeks--just the way my face is! I used to hate it when people said I had chipmunk cheeks.
I had one person, when I was pregnant with Moose, who said "but you haven't even bought a house yet." It was really weird, but I have never got anything like that. Maybe once more people find out I'm pregnant again.
Ugh, Not nice at all. Some people need a roll of duct tape.
UGH so one of the agents who i work with the other day was like " you know you aren't getting younger you better start trying to have kids now if you want any, you dont want to be the old lady with a kid" little did he know i'm upset because we have been ttc for 5 months and i am a emotional wreck! ugh!
A lot of people said to me " I can't WAIT until you get fat" I thought that was really mean.
Another favorite of mine...."Are you sure there's only one in there?" Um, yes, thanks for making it known that you think my belly is larger than it should be.
Well I wasn't pregnant, but when I gained a lot of weight back when I was depressed several years ago, I had a lot of people point it out any way they could justify it which I thought was rude. My Gmom said "Wow, you've really gained a lot of weight! I mean, you look good!" Other people made comments about me 'filling out'.. okay.. I was actually overweight and unhealthy so I don't buy the 'compliment' spin.
What I'm really dreading when/if we do decide to get pregnant is people telling me what I can and cannot consume. I think that's SUPER obnoxious too. My sister had a coworker (male) critisize her for eating chocolate during her pregnancy. She almost clocked him. I also plan on still having caffeine and some wine in limited amounts and I know people will crucify me for that.
@moderndaisy: Oh, man, the telling people not to eat stuff is the worst. Though when my mother suspected a good friend of mine was TTC (not for being nosy... my friend was asking her very specific questions that tipped her off), she told her that she had better drink some wine while pregnant because the guidelines were overprotective and assumed women were idiots.
@moderndaisy: I've gotten ignorant comments at work about my morning cup of coffee (which my doc said is 100% ok), and one of my sisters made a comment when I took a sip from my other sister's glass of wine. I was like, a sip? Really? Jeez, I'm not drinking the whole bottle!
On Christmas Eve my grandfather asked me if I was pregnant, which I am 100% not, and when I said his response was "welllllllllll" and stared at my stomach. I seriously wanted to cry.
Ohhhhh so many people keep putting their foot in their mouth when it comes to my pregnancy its ridiculous!
My MIL saw me the day after Christmas and exclaimed how I wasn't showing at all (I'm 24 wks) then when she saw me on NYE she had suddenly decided I had a huge belly and lifted my shirt to show everyone in the room (about 15 people) Ridiculous!
Today I walked into a different center than I normally work at and someone first tells me I look very tired then when she came back into the room she says "I just can't believe how you're wasting away to nothing- I'm not sure you're really pregnant"
I know its strange but I get so tired of people commenting on how I look so much better with the weight I've dropped during pregnancy. This is the one time in my life I'm allowed to have a belly and look pregnant and people keep telling me how thin I look. Strange...
Nachos, I totally missed that you're pregnant. Congrats! And, yes, I went from people telling me how small I was to someone asking me if there were twins and another if I thought I'd make it all the way to my due date--in maybe a week's time. So apparently I had one week of being appropriately-sized. Also? Yeah, if that guy's wife has been pregnant 3 times? He should totally know better. He's lucky to have survived 3 pregnancies/deliveries.
Eeek! The dumb things people say... I think you should only be allowed to say one of three things to a woman:
1- You look damn fine pregnant. (aka Pregnancy suits you.)
2- You look gorgeous/beautiful.
3- You are glowing.
LOL!
I'm not pregnant. But because I just got married I can't be sick or tired without most of the women I work with saying, "Are you sure you have a virus?" or "Are you sure you didn't get enough sleep?" with a smirk on their face. No, there is not a baby growing inside me making me sick and tired. I take my magic yellow pill every morning at the same time. QUIT IT!
I had someone seriously say that they thought I was "just getting fat".
Someone else told me that I was "way to big for only 5 months" and that I was going to have a 16 pound baby.
Both are rediculous since I'm measuring right on track, but I'm also pretty tall and carrying high, so I don't show as much as others do.
@Twista: We JUST got married on Friday, and I am coming down with the flu. It has spread to everyone we know, but for some reason since I have it, I am pregnant. Umm, how about I just have the flu? I have been married for like 5 days, give me a break!!!!!!
@kayakgirl73: haha i love that! i wish wedding bee had a "like" button (ok, yes I spend too much time on facebook, lol).
some people though just seriously do not have any tact.
Yes, people can be ridiculous. Immediately after I had my daughter and my FIs Mom was allowed in the room and found out the weight of our daughter (8lb, 11 oz), the lovely MIL was liek "oh so thats why you gained so much in the last few months!" :S Weight is a really touchy subject with me so that was annoying.
Plus I had a "gem" I worked with at the time who asked me how I felt having a bastard child. Lovely, right? Funny thing is, fast forward 2 yrs after she tells me that and she's getting married at 3 months pregnant! Ha!
Oh goodness, dude should have known better!
Comments from the jackhole who likes to make the most comments to me, it's from a parent at my work: "Wow, you're only 5 months?! Are you sure, you're SO BIG!" And the same person came a few weeks later and said, "Look how big you're getting, is your doctor sure there's only one baby in there?!"
I also got a speech today from my doctor about gaining 22lbs already and I'm only at 24 weeks. :( Other than my bigger belly and boobs the rest of me feels the same, so I wish people would drop the weight thing already! She's like you should only eat for one, blah blah blah...and I have been! My eating habits haven't really changed. So, then she said maybe I should get more active. Sorry, but I've been sick with a cold/flu for the past couple of weeks so it's made it a little hard to get my rear off the couch. She also mentioned that maybe I ate too much during the holidays and I was like, I WISH! I was sick so actually didn't eat much at all.
I have had a lot of people say "Wow, you look GOOD" in a shocked way haha which isn't so bad but I haaate "Oooooo now I see a belly" ...I don't know why, I love my growing bumb but don't need them to say it... I want to be like "yeah yours is nice too" hah
@LoveHappy: Lol I agree with you except that my husband keeps telling me that when people say a pregnant woman is glowing they're just trying to say growing without being mean. LOL
@LoveHappy: I was going to say this exact same thing! Whether it's true or not my favorite comment was 'You look great!'
I really think it's similar to weddings - unless you've planned a wedding you may unknowingly do rude things - like not RSVP right away. Unless you've been pregnant you don't realize how the comments are perceived.
NOTE - Some people really are just IDIOTS and totally out of line!
Also - after having Warren when I'd be out and about with him I loved these conversations:
Stranger - "How old is he?"
Me - "7 weeks"
Stranger - "YOU LOOK GREAT!"
Me - Smile "thanks"
Again I don't care if it's true - but tell all new mothers how GREAT they look :)
@jilian: I don't know, the person who keeps giving me all the dumb comments is a mother of like 4 kids, so she's been in our shoes and apparently still doesn't know better.
@candicemcc: Thanks! Almost at the halfway point now :)
@LoveHappy: Agreed on the fact that no one should say anything to a pregnant woman other than "You look fantastic/beautiful/amazing!"
I also had a girl walk into work one day a few months ago, point to my tummy and yell, "OH MY GOD I CAN SEE IT!" Um, yeah, I can see your ass but I don't declare it to the world, now do I?
@nachos: Ugg my whole freaking office is on "bump-watch" now and I hate it.
One of my co-workers (who I am friends with & invited to the wedding) said today:"Looks like you've gained a few pounds". I got so annoyed I responded "At least I have an excuse, what's yours?" - which was a bitchy thing to say and I felt bad afterwards/
I've always been thin and I'm feeling really self conscious about the weight gain since I've been lucky and never had to deal with it. I'm worried about being able to loose it, plus I'm nervous about gaining too quickly - so I don't need other people to comment on it.
On the plus side my husband has been great about it - he says "You're voluptuous!" I don't think the extra lbs bother him much. But as far as I'm concerned huge boobs=not so cool. Can I have my B/C cup back please?!
@bohemianbailie:OMFG is it ok to smack your grandpa in that situation? I would have started boohooing and possibly smacked him.
I had two weird responses over Christmas. I had on these tight pants and was feeling like crap one evening and my sister comes home, who I haven't seen in a few months, and goes 'oh my gosh your butt is so much bigger'. And then we were at a family party and I hear one of my other sisters start laughing and says 'she's pregnant', apparently one of my parents friends had asked why I'd started gaining weight. I'm 20 weeks so I thought I'd progressed passed the belly looking like a beer belly stage but apparently not.
@troubled: The beer belly stage is the worst. I'm nearly 19 weeks and I feel like I just look fat and lumpy but not pregnant. I think I won't mind as much when it's more obvious, but perhaps a I should just buy one of those message tees.
@camrie: I didnt really "pop" til about 25 -28 weeks or so. The first "belly pic" I have where I look visually pregnant was at 28 weeks.
I hated the beer belly phase!!
Oh man guys I didn't really have anything rude said to me but on Christmas Eve morning I had to run to Walmart to get a few things. Well it was busy and someone just happened to be pulling out of the Expectant mother's parking spot. I was happy that I got a spot so close and the fact that I could actually park there but I was turning at a weird angle so I had to back up and then pull in again to not hit the car next to me. As i'm repulling in some lady that isn't even in the parking lane yet honks at me and I look over at her and she is waving her hands in the air. Then she turns into the lane and drives really slowly behind me until I get out of the car as if to check that I'm really pregnant. LMAO It just cracked me up that she was acting like she was the only one that could park in that spot.
One person said, "you are looking really, um, full". And another said, "Wow! You've put on quite a bit of weight, haven't you." I was like look dude, I have PIH, I feel like shit and you are no skinny minnie either!
@jilian:that's exactly why i always get flustered around pregnant women. i haven't been pregnant, and i'm always worried i'm going to say the wrong thing! now i know, just say "you look great!"
I love this thread!
I get asked all the time "are you sure your even pregnant?" or "you don't look very pregnant for X months".
A good friend of mine who is a larger women said "I can't wait till your fat!"
My favorite comes from my husband. He says all the time "why are you walking like that?" I'm sorry but I'm pregnant and uncomfortable sometimes so if I want to walk like a duck I'll walk like a duck. Thanks babe.
@flamingred A lot of women said that to me too. They acted like it was supposed to be a compliment, but the tone of their voice was pretty mean/jealous. Ew.
People say lots of stupid stuff when you're pregnant and think they're being so funny... They forget that it's not fun to see your body change in ways you don't want it to change!
I had an elderly lady just yesterday at my doctors office ask me when I was due and I said "April 3". And she goes "with you second?" Me: "yes". Lady: "I got pretty big quick with my second too".
We had a conversastion and she was a sweet old lady but I swear all politeness must go away with age!
@camrie: I feel ya on the boobs. I want them to go away NOW. Im 12 weeks today (WOOHOO!!!!!) and Ive lost a few lbs, but my boobs are out. of. control (for my frame.) I despise them
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