Post # 1
Just saw a pic of someone that I know on her wedding day… and low and behold…she’s wearing the same dress that I ordered back in February. I am from a very small town… and although this woman and I aren’t necessarily close friends, we often run into eachother and have a few of the same friends.
I’ve expressed this with my close friends and family, that I’m upset and feel that I wanted to look unique on my day. They tell me I’m worrying too much, that no one will remember, etc. (But it’s my dress! ugh, am I too much of a bridezilla?)
Anywho, need some advice on how I can make my dress look different. I have no sewing talent, and don’t really think I’d like to take it somewhere to get totally revamped. Any suggestions on *small* things that I can do to alter it?
Post # 3
Well, first off, you’re going to look different in your dress because it’ll be *your* dress. And you’ll be wearing different accessories and as we know, accessories can totally make an outfit. How about veil choices? Shoes? Bouquet? I think you’ll look fabulous and unique on your wedding day. And really – how many people are going to remember her dress that closely from last February? They will be focusing on the overall ‘look’ of you and how beautifully bridal you are.
Post # 4
Do you have a picture of it so we can see what might be able to be changed? I do agree with your BM’s though, most people probably wont even notice, especially with differing body shapes and sizes 🙂 Too not to worry about it too much!
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
It will look different on you, PROMISE. Probably no one who is at your wedding (is there much overlap between your guestlist and hers?) will realize it’s the same dress, either. And if you’re not convinced, just make sure your accessories and shoes are different. Don’t change a dress you love just because someone else loved it, too!
Post # 6
Don’t panic! And don’t change your dress. You are going to be unique on your wedding day no matter what. Try searching on “dress twins” on Weddingbee and you’ll see how common it is for people to have the same dress. I know it’s different if it’s someone you know, but really it’s not going to be so bad, I promise. When you look at your photos in 50 years you’ll want to remember yourself looking exactly as you wanted to be, not mostly good but with details changed because some girl you were remotely acquainted with had the same dress six months before your date and you made your dress other than you wanted it for the sake of not looking like her. Make your dress just like you want to make it, no matter what anyone else is doing.
And we would love to see dress pics, if only for their own sake :).
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I’m sure it’ll look different on you! Plus, factor in shoes, jewelry, veil/hair accessories, etc. and you really have a completely new, unique look!
Post # 8
Dont worry – and avoid the bridezilla draw…. its a slipepry slope! 🙂 IF you are set on altering it, I’d say changing (or adding) the straps is the quickest way to make it seem different.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the kind words! It helps reassure me that (hopefully) no one will remember and even I will feel and look completely different in it.
But, if anyone does have any other suggestions for minor tweaks, here’s a pic of the dress.
Post # 10
The dress is beautiful. No one will notice unless you tell them, so don’t vent to too many people. You will look completely different unless she is your clone. Just think about how the dress looks on the model in the ads, and then how it looks on you.
Post # 11
Don’t worry. Like the others have said, you are a different person, and nobody is going to be at the wedding going, OMGosh, that’s the same dress that so and so wore! The focus is going to be on beautiful you! Your hair, headpiece, veil, jewelry will all be different. Personality too!
I worked in the bridal industry for many years. So of course, I saw the same dress on many brides. And no two brides ever looked identical in that dress. We never saw it that way. It is the BRIDE, not the dress that is getting married!
Post # 12
No one will notice. Accessories will be you friend! And, I think you could add a sash if you feel the need to change even a little something about it. However, I think it looks great now.
Post # 13
Krae – You are going to look gorgeous – Your hair will be different – You may have a different hairpiece or veil and you will look amazing. Don’t fret!
The dress is gorgeous by the way!
If changing the look of it is crucial to you – Add a sash of your color scheme or perhaps a gorgeous heirloom rhinestone or pearlesque stone broach at or under the V-neck of the top of your dress.
I just saw another bride the other day- clasp one of those fabulous flower/feather hairpiece on the shoulder of her dress instead of her head!
Post # 14
Don’t worry about it. 2 girls in our close circle of friends got married 2 weeks apart from each other and they (accidentally) got the same dress. But it looked completely different on them, and each looked beautiful in their own right.
Post # 15
That dress is really pretty, and also has clean, classic lines. There’s no particular beading or flower that is going to jar someone’s memory back to that other girls wedding. And honestly, while I always notice that a bride looks great, a year later, I could never describe her dress exactly. You’re going to look great!