(Closed) Ahh.. freak out….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

woah – not cool! You’re right, it’s NONE of his friends’ (or anyone’s!) business.

Not cool at all.

I don’t think you sound like a golddigger at all, and I don’t think you should let rude comments unnerve you do the point where you consider calling off your wedding. Your FI choose you, he wants to be with you, and no matter what anyone else thinks, that means you are exactly on his level.

Did your FI hear the comment? I think he needs to talk to his friend, because you don’t deserve to be spoken to in that way.

Post # 4
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4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That sounds a little extreme to break if off so he can “find someone on his income level”. He loves YOU and asked YOU to marry him, so obviously he wants to be with you. I would sit down and talk with him about this and that it’s bothering you. Have you two talked about finances and how things will be paid for when you’re married? Also wondering why you demanded a prenup if you make about the same amount…I don’t know a lot about prenups and I’m curious.

If your FI heard that comment, he needs to speak up and defend you because that is not okay for his friends to make comments to you like that! It sounds like this is a sensitive issue for you so I would sit down with him and talk to him about it.

Post # 6
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If anything, HE should be the one asking for the prenup, not you, but i don’t think it’s necessarily a bad idea. If he wants to protect his personal assets, then it’s his choice in the end. But i think it’s very considerate of you to bring it up, let him know why you think one is a good idea (common sense/emotional insurance) and just offer to meet with a lawyer and see what one has to say.

Post # 7
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Um why the prenup? I am sure he knows you are not with him for his stuff. If that were the case he wouldn’t want to make you his wife. He would just keep you as a live in girl friend for as long as it lasted.  You seem very independent. Tell everyone else to shove it and mind their own business. Ok maybe a little nicer than that LOL.

Post # 8
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No need to break it off, but there does seem to be a need to punch his ‘friend’ in the face.

 

Post # 9
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348 posts
Helper bee

Are you planning on doing premarital counseling of any kind?  In addition to the prenup, it sounds like you need to have some serious conversations about how you will handle your money and budget for joint expenses, since you have different orientations towards money.  Premarital counseling can be great for figuring out a plan for how to deal with that (and I sympathize – my husband is also much more of a spender than I am) before it becomes an issue!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

hmm.. i would tell that guy to stick it where the sun don’t shine.  =X  the marriage is between you and your FI, and what arrangements  you have is none of anyone else’s business. 

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