- 7 years ago
Hey bees, I’m going to try to keep rant this short… My sister / one of my bridemaids just decided to get married a month after me. When she first told me I wasn’t mad/sad or anything.. I was more indifferent, which built to excitement.. Actually my fiance thought it was pretty messed up and was shocked I wasn’t mad.
Her wedding is much smaller at a small catering hall/restaurant (40 people) and mine is at a more fancy place (100 people). Now as the planning is in motion I started feeling… not indifferent anymore.. She is totally lost in planning and I’ve been helping her look for dresses/other details, which I do not mind- I volunteer and enjoy! Originally I wanted to keep my wedding 75 people but I’m having to invite all the Out of Town 3rd cousins I barely speak to. Now that her’s is a month after mine, no one can afford to come back so quickly and she actually pointed that to me.. Kind of bothers me, I wish I had that choice. I’ve been planning mine for months so of course family I haven’t even met is coming out of the woodwork lol.
Also, my colors were always supposed to be a deep purple, light purple, and silver. They still are, but now we added a 3rd shade for our flowers/bridesmaids dresses(iris, wisteria, lapis). She just chose her colors- dark purple,silver, and ivory.
Also my other sister and Maid/Matron of Honor who planned my Bachelorette party trip with all my friends wants to change it to a dual bachelorette trip.. Before she picked her date she refused to go, but now she is going …
I just feel all these emotions and I can’t really describe it.. I don’t want to seem like a bridezilla nor do I feel like I own the color purple lol but I just feel like everything is happening so soon and I have no control. I almost want to change my colors to keep something more my own but I have everything bought.. I feel like if the weddings were further apart, it wouldn’t give me these feelings.
Are these feelings normal?? Has anyone been through something like this?