- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
3 weeks before the wedding FMIL wants to “add a table of 10” to the guest list. And she hasn’t forked over a DIME.
So I haven’t gotten to know them too well but one thing I do know about them is that they are super stingy ( like incredibly so). My FI always told me that he had to do everything for himself and that his parents have always gotten the cheapest stuff. This is very different from my family who have always been super generious with me and my siblings and everybody else.
long story short, My family is paying for the wedding. Not because of “old fashioned etiquette” or because my parents insist, but because my future in laws haven’t said a peep about offering to help. We have a 180 guest list and they have around 80 people on their side.
My mom and I have done our best to find the best rates and have done a lot of DIY stuff in order to fit within our budget. We our doing our centerpieces and buying charger plates and making programs and menu cards, etc. Everything is almost ready for the big day.
But now FMIL wants to add more people “becuase their feelings would be hurt”. My FI got mad with them and told them that it’s unbelivable that they expect to add more people when they haven’t forked over anything and haven’t even offered any help in the planning. She said that she would be willing to pay for those extra 10 people. Seriously!? is this a charity event where you “buy” a table for your guests? yeah sure pay for 10 extra people when there are 80 other guests from your family too.
It’s not only the question about money but of effort. we know have to get another table with table dressings, buy more vases for the centerpieces, add more flowers to the list, buy more charger plates, more programs, more menu cards.
My FI is really mad and doesn’t want her to keep adding people and MY mom is histerical and furious to the point where she doesn’t even want to have a normal -in laws relationship with them.
Also the only thing they agreed to help with was the honeymoon. She told Mr. Merenguito that they would pay for our cruise (around $1,600) months ago but we had to finish paying off the balance because they never gave him the money on time and they are saying that they will give us only $1,000 for the honeymoon now.
They’re not rich by any means, but they both have jobs, live in a house that has been completely paid for 10 years ago, have cars that have been fully paid, don’t take vacations, don’t even leave their town. I mean, they should have at least a couple of thousand to spare.
ARGH! The only thing I can say is that at least my FI didn’t take after them.