- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I am feeling so relieved, happy, and free at the moment. Without going into a very long story (this has gone on for about that last 6-7 months) I’ll just say that the drama with my Maid of Honor finally came to a head this week over shower planning. My Matron of Honor had emailed the Maid of Honor attempting to arrange to get together to start planning the shower. The Maid of Honor started barking off orders as if she were a general in an Army (by the way most of her orders were completely insane, if she were a bride I’d have called the emails that followed an attack of a Bridezilla). It all blew up with her calling the Matron of Honor, a bridesmaid and myself tacky and classless (because we thought appetizer’s, maybe a cake and punch were plenty for a 2pm shower). Needless to say I let her know that name calling and hurling insults at the other girls was unnaceptable and unnecessary. I asked that she apologize to them, and that she remember I needed her to be supportive and calming. I asked if she thought she’d be able to do these things and continue being my Maid/Matron of Honor (this all happened Monday). By today I’d still gotten no response so I texted her again and asked if she’d thought it over and come to a decision. She said she didn’t think she could co-operate with the other girls, or be supportive of any decisions (my wedding or not) if she didn’t agree. She said she had too much stress going on her life to deal with being my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Hallelujah! In the end she is apologizing if this stresses me out, but actually it stresses me out less. Now I have no worries about who she’s going to attack next and I can focus on planning my wedding. I know that it sounds bad to say, but I think her dropping out actually may have saved any friendship we’d have left!