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I had a very annoying weight comment the other day that I thought I'd share. Here's the deal:
I was in a shop trying on clothes and the skinny little shop girl says to me, "Oh my god, that looks so good on you, you should be a plus sized model!"
Ummm...talk about a back handed compliment? I'm not petit in the least, but I don't consider myself plus sized. I'm 5'10" and wear a size 10 which I think is perfectly reasonable. I think she knew she put her foot in it the moment the words came out of her mouth and I just pretended it didn't phase me... but all I could think was there is NO WAY I'm buying this shirt.
And yes, several years ago when I gained 20 lbs on a really bad semester or two in college I had an aquaintance ask me if I was expecting. Ugh! To be fair though I always gain ALL my weight in the stomach (heart disease risk over here!).
How about you? Have you ever had people stick their foot in it by commenting about your weight?
Yes. I've always been petite 5'2" 100 and something pounds but I always had a little pouch in my stomach. Even when I weighted like 90 something pounds people would ask me if I was preggos. When I got a little older I gained like 25 pounds and people were always asking me if I'm pregnant I was like, "un no, I'm not even married yet" I mean people just need to learn to mind their own business. Like the old saying goes if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it at all.
I was at Wal Mart and the check out lady asked when I was due!
I'm not by any means overweight, I just have a little too much weight in the tummy. Needless to say this made me terribly upset.
I haven't had this happen, but I have to say I don't think it's anyone's business even if gals are preggos. I mean if we wanted you to know the due date, we'd let you know!
Oh gosh, I'm sorry...please don't this bother you for days. It was definitely rude of her to make any mention to your size..whether you are small, big or right in the middle. Sometimes people say things and I don't think they understand what they are saying.
I was at my favorite make-up counter a couple months ago and I asked the woman who was doing my make-up what it took to work there. I was expecting something along the lines of...submit your resume, etc....No, instead she tells me to look at all the girls who work there and says.."well..you have to look like one us."
So, I guess I didn't make the cut..I told this to my mom and all my friends, we all just laughed so hard. I would not trade my looks for any one of the girls there. Just be happy for who you are!! She did say you should be a model!
Im sorry to hear that.. over the weekend I was looking for my dream wedding dress and the consultant kept saying... "We don't carry that in your size". As if I wasn't already bummed that im not what I was before I had my son, she threw this in my face. I dont understand why they act like we are from another planet.
P.S. Didn't buy my dress from that store (DB)
@daniella - don't worry, I'm not crying myself to sleep over it. It was more of an OH SNAP moment than anything else. 
After walking around Manhattan all afternoon in flip flops, I complained that my feet hurt. FFIL reasoned it was because I had to "carry all that weight around all day". The oddest part is that I'm not really overweight (5'7", 128 lbs, pretty solid muscle since I work out almost everyday). He's made other comments and tends to critique what I eat, and I can only deduce that he really does think I'm fat and need to drop a few. FMIL is very petite, half a ft shorter that me and VERY small framed. I sometimes think he sees us next to each other and is afraid I'm going to reach over the crush her.
My cousin who I hadn't seen in a good 8 years or so came to visit us at my Nana's house last year and when I walked in the door he hugged me and said "Oh you've gotten so big!" as in, I've grown up a lot. To which my nana replies "Yeah, and not taller!" Ouch.... from my own nana!
bear in mind that most plus sized models ARE a size 10, or even a size 8. wrap your head around THAT one, ugh.
i've been asked if i was pregnant a few times - once by a child, when i was wearing an apron at work, and once by a border crossing guard, when i was sitting strangely with my hands under my stomach. it doesn't really bug me - i KNOW i'm not skinny, and i figure that i can't justify being offended if i don't fully dedicate myself to losing weight.
Wow, that's a rude comment. Even if plus-size models were all a size 8, it'd still be rude in my mind because she's taking the time to distinguish "plus-size." Totally not her place.
When I worked at a shoe store last year, I was helping a woman find a pair of boots and recommended a certain brand. She looks at me and goes, "yeah, but would they work for me? I mean, your calves are big."
Come on! I ride horses, of course they're going to be muscular. But you don't have to point it out.
Yeah but realistically (i'm 5'10" and about the same size as you; i've heard this before also many times), she meant it as a compliment. And anybody size 6 and up is considered a "plus sized model" anyways. You have to be a 0-4 to be a "regular sized" model. She easily could've left the "plus sized" part out of the "model" compliment though!
Aww sweetie Im sorry! I get the plus sized model comment alot actually. Im actually "very" plus sized compaired to you. Im 5'5 and I wear an 18/20 street size. Im sure she probably thought it as a compliment (although it did not come out that way).
Yes, I don't know what it is about being engaged but some how people just feel like they can comment on your weight! As if becoming engaged means we all have to loose 50 lbs! Since I brought my dress everyone in my office has been telling me I better not gain any weight & commenting on everything I eat!
I'm a bit self conscious about my upper arms and when I tried on a strapless wedding dress my Mother in law said to me 'oh it actually looks really nice, I didn't think you'd suit strapless'. I have quite a big bust too and another thing my Mother in law said was 'I wouldn't go for a sweetheart neck line if I were you, as you might show too much cleavage'. Was not impressed!!!!
Yes, someone thought I was pregnant...
Or how about this.. I was trying on evening gowns in Sak's and the sales woman was helping me fit into a dress and she said:
"You know, you really wouldn't be so bad if you got a boob job."
Yep. That is what she said. Mind you, I am not skinny. I just happen to be curvy and wear a size 12 in a dress, but am an A cup!
((HUGS)) M's cousin yesterday asked me about losing weight yesterday (she was a bit tipsy) she goes "i know a personal trainer you can use to get you right" um i'm wrong lol?! my response was nah i have been working out for about 3 weeks and lost an inch on my waist, hips and bust, but thanks i'll keep that in mind. seriously not everyone is a size 2. and i love my size i think i just need toning.
Ugh. That was a really thoughtless comment, though probably meant well. As crazy as it is, you do sound about the right size for a "plus" model, maybe a little thin. You are tall and not a rail, probably very pretty. Of course the girl should have just said "model", but she certainly wasn't calling you fat, because the standard for a plus model IS NOT FAT! I think size 12-14 and tall is normal.
My extended family seems to forget that I lost some weight, and also that I have a boyfriend.
So when I see then around the holidays, I hear "oh! you're looking good!" (as if I weren't before) "are you trying to snag a man?" (nope, I've got one... why is it that my loss has to be for attracting someone else?)
Someone once asked my mom is I was expecting... awkward, but kinda funny. At least they didn't ask me to my face.
@Surkim - that is simply awful that your family would say that to you! They may have been teasing, but I know that those are comments I wouldn't soon forget!
@ ToasterCat: CHII!!!!! <3
It's alright that they say those things, because then they turn around and ask how I did it... which gets to be even worse.
@domestic_cat thanks! I live off cuteness! and your username reminds me of my cat, who is named SmallCat hee hee!
and Chi is just one of the things that make me go "squeee!"
@ToasterCat, SmallCat, that's too cute :-))) my kitty is called Riva Paw Paws ;-)
In response to those that have had strangers comment on your pregnancy when you're not pregnant, I've definitely learned to shut my mouth, and to only congratulate people on a pregnancy AFTER they tell me they're pregnant! I've embarassed myself and offended someone twice this way!!
I carry ALL of my weight in my upper and lower abdomen. I can't pinch an inch on my arms or legs, and I eat really well and exercise regularly. The thing about belly-heavy body types is that people can always tell if you gain weight. Even a tiny amount. Women who carry all their weight on their hips and legs can camouflage it better because it's not necessarily IN-YOUR-FACE, and it can be easier to hide in photos, etc (this is just what I've observed). My grandmother and great-aunts on my dad's side always criticized me for being fat, even when I was all muscle. I guess it just looked that way to them.
The other day, I was walking through a very slick iced-over patch of sidewalk, and an old man said, "Watch that ice, MOMMY!" Mommy? Perhaps I looked pregnant. When I'm not constantly holding my stomach in, I sort of do. Sigh.
@fabulously engaged - it sounds like we have the same body type! and if that sales lady EVER said that to me...I would like to say I would have cursed her out, but honestly, I'd probably leave crying! I don't get how people think that kind of comment is anywhere near okay to say!!!!!!!
@ducks35 - I also have the same problem! I was in the staff room the other day and one of the other teachers got a home made cake from a student...it was soo moist and chocolaty and she was offering everyone a piece...and another teacher was like, "Oh teacherbride99, don't take a piece of cake, you need to work on fitting into your dress!" all snotty like. I ate some anyways!!!! :P
I once had a conversation with my grandmother where she was criticizing my mom for being too thin (my mom's just a tiny lady, always has been) and then turned to me and said "Well, you've been gaining weight though, I can see it in your face!"
I think I just stared at her aghast until she walked away. I'm 5'6 and at the time I was about 120 lbs, so I have no idea where this comment came from.
When we went to register at target, the woman behind the counter asked if it was a baby registry....
Um, I was working part time at a resto in NYC. I was complaining to a young hostess that I'd gained some weight and felt uncomforable. She then told me that I was just 'big boned'... which doesn't even make sense! Bones are kinda one size fits all, no? I was super annoyed, I think I said something along the lines of, "Ha, and you're just- you need more meals". I know, really witty. And by the way, I was between sizes 6-8... why do we live in a culture where that's chubby? Its sick.
When I went to Mexico MANY years ago some drunk guy called me "the pregnant lady". I was 14 years old and definitely not pregnant. After that I lost about 40lbs.
i used to work at old navy and a woman asked me when i was due(just some random woman shopping there)!!! ugh! i looked at her and said "due for what?" she said oh i am sorry i thought you were someone else. i dont look pregers at all...i am overweight but i am very well porportioned and everything is big not just my belly...ahahaha! i could not believe it...it was awful. what if i had just had a miscarriage or have an eating disorder or was suicidal or something...you just dont ask ppl you dont know stuff like that! it is so rude! awful! i have never asked someone if they are pregnant..if they are and want me to know they will tell me.
"are you pregnant" should NEVER come out of anyones mouth!!!! and "when are you due" should never be said unless you KNOW they are pregers! ugh...sometimes i think ppl have no common sense.
man.....can you tell that touched my buttons :D
i honestly am not self conscious at all about my body (i want to change my weight for health reasons but i think i look great) but a comment like that will make anyone upset.
And then i got upset thinking about how awful she must have felt for saying that...so then i felt bad for her. ugh...i am so empathetic..ugh. i could not even be mad at her :D
Dear bee, if you are 5'10" and a size 10, you do not need to be feeling like you're too big. Sounds like I'm pretty close to you (5'11" and 10/12 depending) and I do know those feelings of insecurity. I've heard things before too and it's hard on the self-esteem. But you are beautiful...and don't let people get you down.
certain people are such IDIOTS!!!!
it sounds to me you are in perfeect shape! im also a size 10 and im 5.7" feet tall.. i should be in a diet :P but FI loves me the way i am, he says im PERFECT!! LOL
LOL sorry, but I keep laughing at the comment about being 0-4 sized! and 6 and up is plus sized...how out of date that is! and on what planet do they think all of us live on?! I could definately lose a few pounds, but you being 5'10 and your size is awesome! I'm sure the bees out there who are 0-4 sized have just as much problems with dress shopping too....
I worked with a woman who was asked by a customer when she was due. To make matters worse, the woman did not give up or act embarrassed. Instead, when my co-worker said she was not pregnant, the woman INSISTED! She says "No, you definately are...you are carrying the same way I did...you better go to a doctor and find out!"
Some people are so damn rude!
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