(Closed) Alas…i need more help!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Go to tonights meeting?
    yes : (1 votes)
    10 %
    no : (0 votes)
    go and say something : (6 votes)
    60 %
    go and say nothing : (3 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Personally, I would go and I would say something.  You are part of this wedding and you are going to be part of this family…if you let things go now, it will be much harder to address issues in the future.  I am speaking only from my experience of my husband and I keeping quiet about issues with his mom during the planning process, and how hard it still is to address issues with her-after the wedding!  She doesnt count my opinion or feelings into any of her actions or words, and I wish now that I had spoken up about things many months ago, just to show her that I do have a backbone!

    At the same time, it sounds like your FI has stood up to his family about you before, and that is WONDERFUL.  So while you may not want to say anything at the meeting tonight (I still think you should go) I think you and your FI should be on the same page with everything so he can do the majority of the speaking if that is what you feel more comfortable with.

    From my experience, being passive to “keep the peace” only seems to mess things up worse in the long run…

    Post # 5
    Member
    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    Being polite doesn’t mean being silent. 

    I’d keep it polite, especially since it’s their money.  Just be open and honest….we are thinking about nixing the quartet because we had to dip into a bank account that we didn’t want to.

    You can even say I’m hurt about being excluded and I would like to use the wedding as a chance to get to know his side of the family but it might not be wise to say I think you guys are freaking A$$holes and how could you think of excluding me, I’m the bride and about to be his freaking wife you self-centered morons.  Plan ahead so the latter doesn’t come out, even if it’s what you’re thinking.

    Post # 6
    Member
    990 posts
    Busy bee

    I would also say something. It is your wedding and you should know all the details, plus you will probably be in suspense all night wondering what was going on, at least this way you can be prepared.

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