Post # 1
So, I am not getting married – in fact, I am not even close to being engaged but I am at that age where going to a wedding every other week is just a matter of course. The wedding season for me kicks off this May with my Boyfriend’s friend’s/coworker’s wedding. (This may be an important fact – the newlyweds are 24 and 25). I have 2 questions in regard to this:
1. My boyfriend and I live together and we got 1 invitation that listed both of our names on it. As far as wedding gifts go, can we give one gift from "us" or do we each have to get separate gifts?
2. My boyfriend is not very happy with the registry that his friend’s fiance put together("I am NOT getting Brian* a blender!") In fact, he wants to get a present that he knows the groom will enjoy (since ALL of the registry was created by the future Mrs. without any input from Brian*). His idea was to get Brian a bottle of Johnny Walker Blue Label. For those of you who don’t know what that is – it’s a $200 bottle of Scotch. To be honest, I’m torn. On the one hand, Brian is our friend and I KNOW he’ll like the gift – his fiance will be getting more than enough of what she wants. On the other hand, a HUGE part of me thinks that alcohol is an inapropriate wedding gift. I don’t know what to do. A little help please?
Post # 3
I don’t know, people give wine/champagne as a wedding gift, so why not this type of alcohol? And it sounds like a really, really nice bottle of scotch, not like a six-pack of beer or really cheap vodka. I think it’s appropriate and nice to think of something the groom would enjoy.
Post # 4
My FI loves scotch, and would be super-duper delighted if someone bought him it for a wedding gift. I say, why not?!
Post # 5
my FI would love it. In fact if he saw this post he would probably invite you to our wedding…. I think it is a great and generous gift. I would totally be ok with some of the gifts we got being things he would enjoy more, he certainly isn’t going to use a double boiler!
Post # 6
My feeling on it is this, for an engagement party, champagne or a nice bottle of wine seems appropriate, but for the wedding, I think you should stick to the registry or give cash. In this case particularly, the couple is fairly young and probably need stuff for their home, so stick to the registry. Also, your boyfriend needs to realize that the issue is not whether HE likes what is on the registry, the couple picked out stuff THEY want or need and I think its best to go by their wishes. That way you know you are getting them something they want. Also, tell your boyfriend that they can use the blender to mix up margaritas! Maybe buy them the blender and some tequila and margarita mix so make it more unique.
Post # 7
What about getting a bit of a cheaper bottle of scotch — and getting them very nice glass ware for their future bar … http://www.crateandbarrel.com/bar-glasses/tabletop/1 … he can still give a gift that the Groom will like, while not totally offending/forgetting about the bride.
Post # 8
Especially the good stuff.
And yes, one present is enough.
Post # 9
I think that’s a great idea! And RIbride, not everything on the registry has to be a couple’s gift!
One of our go-to (budget friendly) presents is a bottle of champagne and a pair or champagne flutes in a pretty basket. I think that as long as you know for sure that the couple drinks, you’re safe.
I also really like the idea of adding complementary glasses or going the blender/tequila route if they’re margarita drinkers.
Post # 10
Although it is a nice gift-very nice gift-I’m not sure it would be appropriate unless BOTH the bride and groom would appreciate it. I know with young couples, they don’t always register for the most exciting (such as the *blender*) but it is something they need and the nice thing is they will always think of it as a wedding gift. I would just suggest to make sure both are happy about a bottle of alcohol..in my personal opinion..I would not like a $200 bottle of any alcohol for our wedding because there are so many other things we need for our new life together other than alcohol.
I guess I’m lucky because my fiance went with me to register at both of our store choices and was very active and openly gave his opinions on what he wanted and thought we needed to start our new life together. He even did research on blenders and all that for the quality, ha! I know many people see the registries as "the bride’s gifts" but in reality the gifts will be used by both for many years to come. =)
Post # 11
Q1: 1 gift…You’re an established couple, that’s how they know you and that’s how you’re going to the wedding.
Q2: Blue Label by itself with a nice note about how you hope they’l savor this slowly over their years together, yada-yada is sounds great! If you want to add something like glasses to go with it, that’s just icing.
I know people will tell you it’s wrong, but if you know the couple well and you know that the off-registry gift is something they will enjoy (especially if it can be enjoyed together), then 100% do it. There are also thing you’re "not allowed" to register for…I would put nice alcohol in that category…but that doesn’t mean you wouldn’t love to receive that kind of item!
Post # 12
Hmmm, it looks like you’re definitely getting answers from both sides of the aisle. A novel thought/addition: If they’re co-workers, maybe your boyfriend could drop a bug in the groom-to-be’s ear, just a little "I was thinking of doing something like this…Do you think that’s something you might enjoy?"
Post # 13
I say one present is absolutely enough.
And I second the idea to get some barware to go along with it if you’re worried about it being all about the groom. I’m glad that has been suggested. But if aren’t concerned about that, the fine scotch is enough. Registries are suggestions, not shopping lists, especially if you have a personal gift in mind!
Post # 14
One present is definitely plenty.
And I agree with Humarock Bride. Get Johnny Walker Red or Black instead of blue and give it with some nice rocks glasses from their registry so the bride and groom both get something they will enjoy!
Liquor is always a good gift!
Post # 15
my FI would love that bottle of scotch, and given that he didn’t contribute to the registry at all (his own fault) I wouldn’t be mad AT ALL if he got a gift for himself like that, especially something he would really love.
Post # 16
One gift is definitely enough.
I know my FI would love the BLUE gift, even though it is not a practical gift and would rather have the cash, so I think it is a great idea.