Post # 1
Quick version: If cost isn’t an issue, should alcohol be served at a bridal shower?
Details: I am throwing a shower this spring for my SIL at a restaurant in a private room. The shower is on a Sunday afternoon, and we are serving assorted pizzas, salad, bread and cake. The per-person cost includes water and soda, but I am wondering if we should have a small amount of alcohol available too (a bowl of spiked punch is one option that the restaurant offered for a reasonable price. Beer is also available at $4 a beer but that is more than I want to spend). We are expecting about 30 guests, including a mix of family, friends and neighbors. I was thinking that alcohol might loosen people up a bit and make it more relaxed, but the other shower host feels like it is uneccessary, especially on a Sunday afternoon.
I have only ever been to my shower (a brunch that served mimosas), so I’m just looking to get an idea of how common it is (or isn’t) to have alcohol at a shower. Will the guests be expecting it?
Post # 3
I went to one shower at a restaurant and I think you could order wine but honestly I can’t even remember. My sister threw my bridal shower at her house and had a couple of bottles of wine out but I think no one even touched them. I wouldn’t worry too much about it unless the people you’re inviting really enjoy their wine/beer.
Post # 4
I do think most showers do have alcohol, but typically it will be champ cocktails, or a spiked punch. Never beer or mixed cocktails (like a jack and coke.)
Its nice to have, but not necessary.
Post # 5
I had a cocktail party shower… so, perhaps I’m not the right one to ask 🙂
I also had champagne at my tea shower.
That said – I don’t think alcohol is ever a ‘must’ but sometimes a nice thing to have. Do you think your SIL would like a glass of wine at her shower? If so, then I’d use that as the gauge.
Post # 6
@oracle: My SIL isn’t a big drinker at all, but Mother-In-Law and I both enjoy having frequent beverages, and Mother-In-Law was supportive of having some kind of spiked punch.
From the invited guests that I know already, I thnk most would enjoy having the option of a drink, but nobody would be upset it if wasn’t there. So I’m just trying to get a vibe on how typical it is.
Thanks for the responses so far!
Post # 7
I think champagne, alcoholic punch or wine is much appreciated by bridal shower guests. First of all, bridal showers can be very boring – the alcohol helps with that. Secondly, if there are people there who wont know anyone else (I was one of those people at a shower a few weekends ago) it is much easier to talk to people you dont know if there is a little alcohol involved.
Post # 7
My bridal shower was a brunch and part of the menu were mimosas and a variety of other brunch cocktails.
Post # 8
@dancewithjoy: are the other hosts just trying to cut costs? vs. thinking it’s inappropriate? …the last shower I went to was a brunch BABY shower and there was red and white wine served. While more ‘inappropriate’ for a baby shower (yet, totally welcome by the guests) I think you and Mother-In-Law are on the right track with the spiked punch idea. It’s festive and celebratory – all the things you are trying to communicate with the shower. It also sounds yummy!
Post # 9
All the showers I went to as well as my own had alcohol available. Typically a vodka strawberry lemonade, wine, sanfria, champagne etc type choices.
Post # 10
We had wine and champagne and my shower, and everyone enjoyed having a glass or two.
Post # 11
Mine will be alcohol-free; it’s an afternoon tea on a Sunday afternoon and my family is really not a big drinking family.
The shower I’m throwing for another bride will have alcohol since the other hosts thought it would be weird not to, so I’m hosting a brunch with drinks…which would be a total weird no-no in my family, but is very much the thing in hers.
I think it has a lot to do with your audience.
Post # 12
@oracle: Cost isn’t an issue (actual Mother-In-Law offered to pay for the punch since the other bridesmaid and I are splitting the entire shower cost). The place can do punch for 35 people for $75, which I think is pretty reasonable.
While she is completely awesome, the other bridesmaid is a bit older (in her 40s), so I think it might be more of an sense of what she feels is appropriate for a Sunday afternoon. I didn’t want to push too hard for alcohol as a frequent-drinking-20something if it wasn’t normal, but it seems pretty common based on the responses so far.
Post # 13
Oh gosh! I retract my vote! I said “no way” but I read the title wrong and thought it said BABY shower! hahaha! Bridal Shower= drink up!! 🙂
Post # 14
Most showers I have been to either dont have any alcohol, or have some type of punch or champagne cocktail. I’m not a big drinker so I dont really care either way. I think its nice to offer, but not really necessary.
Post # 15
You could always just let guests order booze off the main menu (and pay for it themselves), while you do the food as planned. I went to a wedding reception that was set up that way and it worked perfectly.