(Closed) Alcohol at my wedding – does this sound fair?

posted 5 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t find twonie bars unreasonable if that is the custom in your area or in your social circle. I do find it unreasonable and confusing to change the bar situation mid-stream. Perhaps cover the guests’ beer and wine all night and $2 for mixed drinks all night, knowing that many people prefer mixed drinks and will stick with those, hence bringing down your spend on the beer and wine.

 

I do think, though, for those doing a destination wedding to an expensive location, it’s in poor tastes to expect the guests to pay for their own drinks.  Cut costs elsewhere and apply the savings to the bar.

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It is reasonable for a Canadian wedding however you will get a lot of bees on here saying it is unacceptable and against etiquette even if it is the norm for your area. For one thing American bees do not understand how expensive alcohol is in other countries so this is why cash bars are acceptable. Do what you are comfortable with.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve never heard of a twonie bar, but it sound folksy and fun, lol. I think you’ve done well to provide free alcohol during your (very long) cocktail hour (will there also be food?) and dinner. Sometimes events change to cash bar after a certain time, but I’ve not seen this at weddings. If you decide to do it, just try to notify your guests in advance. I’m not sure I would do this (bc I don’t want guests opening their wallets at all), but if I was adamant about saving money, I would probably close the bar at a certain time and serve softdrinks thereafter.

 

Is it possible that this strategy might not actually save you money? Might people just drink up at 8:45 to avoid the price kick-in and cost you as much in consumption as if you had just left the bar open?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

Honestly I think that sounds fair, so long as it’s made super obvious that alcohol isn’t free /all/ night.

 

$2 is super cheap for alcohols as far as I know anyway ^^

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@meetmethere2013:  Just make sure that it’s clear to your guests to avoid any confusion.  I don’t drink at all, so I don’t care whether alcohol is offered or not, but I would imagine most guests would make the most of the cocktail hour.

@Luayne:  I heard that booze in Canada is crazy expensive.  We have a few Canadian guests and they were surprised we were having an open bar (they’re from Calgary).  Honestly I think they’re more excited about the night before (we’re doing kegs of local handcrafted beers), but I just always assumed that Canada and US had similar costs for alcohol.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I dont drink, so I am probably not the best person to answer.  I think that what you are offering is fine.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@meetmethere2013:  ohhhkay, I understand now. But…in that case, how does charging people $2 keep your alcohol from running out? When it’s gone, it’s still gone whether it was free or paid for?

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Luayne:  +1!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@meetmethere2013:  since you pre-bought your alcohol, would you consider doing drink tickets? You can give a lot, maybe 4 or 5 or whatever works since you already know how much you have. That way those don’t drink so much can give their tickets to people who prefer to drink more, all your alcohol is accounted for, none runs out and no one (including you) has paid extra money. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Do it! I’m in Canada myself too, and in our area its quite the norm to have a twoonie bar. Usually, if you show up and the drinks are less than $4 you have a pleasent surpise!

 

Just please do ensure that your venue has an ATM machine or debit at the bar, I recently went to a wedding that had a twoonie bar but no cash machine and there was nothing right next door or anything to get money from. I don’t think the bride thought about it while planning and alot of people were a bit frustrated!

 

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