(Closed) Alcohol at the reception -rant

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It sounds like a nice idea to get a bottle of bourbon in for his friend, but logistically, it’s just going to be an absolute pain in the butt! What will the bar-tender do if someone else comes up to the bar and asks for a glass of bourbon? Do they refuse to serve it to anyone that isn’t your fiance’s friend? How will they know who they’re “allowed” to serve it to?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Milo:  There’s some glitch where the OP can’t see paragraphs, but everyone else can.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

If he asks, just let the guest know that beer and wine will be availabe. If he pushes it and grumbles, tell him he can always BYO if it is that big of deal for him to go without bourbon for one night. But make sure he knows he can only bring the hip flask sized bottle and not the 750ml big sucker and to keep it to himself.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Explain the inherent awkward situations for all of your guests who find out their special likes aren’t being catered to to your fiance.  If he wants to buy his buddy a bottle, fine, but maybe have him give it to him as a present privately for them to enjoy at a different time.  You’re not crazy though.  It’s not a dietary or allergic requirement.  Alcohol is an OPTION and if there is nothing this guy likes tough noogies.  Hope he likes water and pop.  You are not required to cater to each and every person’s likes and dislikes.  For instance I don’t drink beer or wine, but if that was all that was available I would either suck it up and have a glass of white for toasting or whatever, or just drink water or juice.  Tell you FI, with his family present as your back up, and make it explicitly clear why this is going to end poorly.  Hopefully he’ll come around!  Best of luck!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@Milo: Tell your friend “tough”.  I agree with you, why should you make special arrangements for this one person?

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I wouldn’t make special arrangements. If it is that important to your fiancé,just tell the guy “hey this is what our bar includes and if you don’t like it, bring a flask.” That way this guy can be happy and you don’t have to worry about the bartender giving preferential treatment to him and not other guests. I’m assuming that the guy bringing his own wouldn’t be a problem if the venue allows BYOB.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

Yeah, I think it’d be unfair to the other guests. If you made a special arrangement for him what happens when 5 other people reveal that they hate wine and beer as well?

 

He’s an adult, he can live without alcohol for one night, it’s not like he’s deathly allergic to what you are offering.

 

Good luck! x

Post # 12
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Helper bee

How about you make a separate “drink request” card for each guest, and they can each choose their favorite type of drink, and you can get a separate bottle of whatever for every single guest!!

…obviously out of the question. Your fiance is being silly.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think this should be an all or nothing type situation.  Either you provide your guests with spirits or you don’t.  If the friend wants, he can always bring his own personal flask.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Maybe your FI can give his friend the heads up that only beer and wine will be served so the pal can plan ahead and bring a flask 🙂  

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Tell him to bring a flask!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d be super duper pissed off and resentful if I were at a wedding where ONE guest got to have their chosen drink and I had to simply drink the offered beer and wine.

 

I’m a “go with the flow” type person, but when I’m somewhere that certain people get treated special or get preferred treatment and I do not, then I get pissed off and I would certainly hold it against the Bride and Groom for being shitty hosts.

 

I think you should let your groom know that.  Your guests may not TELL you that, but some people are going to be resentful over this if you let this go on— simply have your groom tell his friend the situation and make the “bring a flask” suggestion.

 

 

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