Post # 1
I’ve never been to a wedding before so I don’t know the answer to this question… but I would say it wouldn’t be. I kinda don’t want alcohol at my wedding anyway (not sure why, just a feeling that I don’t want it)I know it would save a lot of money, but would people think I’m cheap? alcholism runs in my gf’s family, so i don’t want to even offer the temptation.
Is there anyway I can get around not having alcohol at my wedding? maybe a morning time wedding around 11am or 12 on a sunday or saturday?
Post # 3
@otto2008: Brunch wedding, but with somewhat diluted MIMMOSA’S!!!! Dry weddings happen, but the majority of people won’t be super thrilled about it. My dad is a full on alcoholic, but I’m definitely having alcohol. Will just make sure he has a comfy room to pass out in at the reception (probably at a private beach house) or make sure he has a DD.
Post # 4
I am having a weekday evening wedding and there will not be a single drop of alcohol at the event. This is not only because I consider it a great waste of money but because a good chunk of FI’s guests either cannot hold their alcohol or don’t know when to stop drinking.
I’ve heard many say you HAVE to have alcohol available but I just see it as an excuse to drink. To me it invites certain guests to create a scene and potentially ruin the reception with their behaviour.
It doesn’t matter what time of day you have it at – if people ask you just say it is a dry event. If they think you are being cheap you should remind them that their dinner and everything else isn’t exactly free and they can get a drink afterwards if they are so concerned about it.
Post # 5
@otto2008: The only thing that is necessary for a wedding is an officiant and a marriage licence. Anything else is just fluff.
That said alcohol is definitely preferrable for many, many guests.
If you don’t want alcohol, then perhaps aim for a time where it won’t even be missed like a brunch or luncheon.
Post # 6
@otto2008: I’d say it depends when is your wedding. I could go without alcohol for a brunch and even lunch, I very rarely drink wine before 3 or 4 pm. Mimosas could be fun. However, whenever there’s a cocktail hour / formal event / dinner (sit down or buffet), IMO there HAS to be alcohol. In my family, social circle and area, it would be extremely offensive not to offer any. I’m not talking about hard alcohol like vodka, but at least a glass or two of wine, or bubbles for the cocktail hour (sparkling cider can do). There are great options for less than 15$ out there. It’s not always ”the more expensive the better”, any wine steward can tell you that.
If you don’t want to pay for alcohol at all, I’d still indicate it’s a BYOW event.
Post # 7
For my family and FI’s family – alcohol is necessary. For YOU, do whatever you’d like. Just a suggestion though, I don’t really drink soda so it might be nice to have something else fun like sparkling cider (non-alcoholic kind) or iced tea. I would think you could get a decent amount of that for not very expensive.
Don’t forget too that you could just have a cash bar or even a cash mimosa bar. That would cut down on how much people would drink and also wouldn’t require you to shell out for it.
Post # 8
Morning or brunch wedding would be the best way to get away without having alcohol.
Your guests CAN do without it in the vening, but they don’t prefer it as most like to celebrate and really tie a few off.
Post # 9
I think I’ve only been to a handful of weddings that served alcohol. Our wedding is going to be dry and no one is offended or cares. FFIL is a recovering alcoholic and lots of people on FH’s side of the family don’t know when to quit drinking. Our wedding is also short, probably not going to last more than 4 hours from ceremony until the end of the reception.
So no, alcohol isn’t necessary at a wedding.
Post # 10
Your wedding is all about making you and you FI happy. So you don’t want it? Tell your guests too bad!
Have the wedding anytime YOU want with or without alcohol.
Post # 11
Not necessary, but so common that a dry reception would not be the norm. What’s worse than having a dry reception is having a cash bar.