Post # 1
I have pretty much picked my venue it is an Art Museum where we live and is absolutely gorgeous when decorated for a reception but I have an issue with the refreshments for the reception…I don’t drink. Like at all, beer makes me extremely sick and I don’t do much better with liquer (I can occasionally drink rum and coke but no more than one in a night). So do I offer alcohol at the reception? Is it weird not to offer it? I just hate to pay for alcohol for everyone at my reception when I don’t drink…
Post # 3
Are your friends drinkers? Your family? Your FI? His family? Could you do something low key? Champagne for a toast, bar with just wine and beer (that you stock yourself).
Post # 4
It is a decision you have to make for yourself, but note that there are many brides that choose to do a dry reception. If you cannot afford it, then I would not have alcohol available. Maybe think about your families and guests and whether they would like alcohol to be served – talk to your FI and families about what they think. Another thing that could influence the decision is the day and time of your reception (morning or lunch vs. a late evening). It really is your decision though, and while so many people seem to expect alcohol to be served at a wedding, it certainly is not necessary if you have enough other selection to offer. Good luck!
Post # 5
You could always do a dry reception–there’s nothing wrong with having one for any reason.
Post # 6
My dad felt this same way, he doesn’t drink at all and was paying for the cost related to the venue. However since our guests do drink and would enjoy a glass of wine or beer at dinner we did have an open bar.
Post # 7
My hubby and I don’t drink, but I know our friends and family do and would want to. So we offered alcohol. It’s really up to you though, if that’s not a priority, save some money!
Post # 8
Serving alcohol or not is completely your choice. One thing you might consider is that, while you personally wouldn’t enjoy alcohol, you might enjoy the difference that alcohol could make in the mood of your guests. Most people are much more interested in dancing when they’ve had a couple of drinks, for example, and some people feel more in the mood to hang around later on into a reception if alcohol is available. That’s just one reason why a person might choose to serve alcohol even if they won’t be drinking it. Again, though, it’s completely up to you. The best way to approach the decision is probably to assess what kind of a reception you want and can afford to have (lots of dancing vs. no dancing, afternoon vs. evening, etc), and then decide whether alcohol should be involved.
As an example, we had root beer available at my wedding even though I can’t stand it, because I knew some people would want it. But, alcohol is a huge expense, so that’s a very different decision.
Post # 9
Keeping in mind that folks on this board are very opinionated where alcohol is concerned (“it must be served or else your guests will be bored” or the opposite “alcohol doesn’t belong at weddings, period” with not much middle ground), this is something that only you can answer. Everyone else here has their own ideas that only apply to them, no one else. You have to decide what works best for you and your guests. What someone else does for their guests will not for you because your social circle is entirely different and you know your guests and what they like and what they don’t, and no one else does.
Regarding your family and friends, do the majority drink in the first place? Don’t have alcohol if you know that only a small fraction will consume any. If so, serve what you can afford that they will enjoy. Don’t charge guests to drink for any reason as that makes you a bad hostess. If your guests don’t drink, obviously don’t serve it. It’s really not that complicated to figure out once you get down to the basics.
If you do serve alcohol, be aware that many people do not drink beer or wine and prefer other drinks instead, and if those two are all that is available, be sure to have a ton of nonalcoholic drinks (sodas, fruit punch, lemonade, iced tea, coffee, etc) in addition. But some people will tell you that beer and wine will please everyone everywhere, which most often is not the case.
Post # 10
I think if you had a more compelling reason to exclude alcohol such as religious preference or a huge family of alcoholics, I’d say skip it.
But…there are lots of things that all of us don’t like. There are many foods that I don’t like, but I’m not going to complain if for example there are olives on an antipasto plate because I don’t eat them. The food and entertainment is there for the guests, so if it’s something you can afford and think your guests would enjoy…then I would highly recommend it.
Depending on the time of day of your wedding, it might be okay (for example, if it’s around lunch time). But for an evening reception? I’d strongly suggest having drinks.
Post # 11
I like alcohol otherwise I will probably be bored but I would never think badly if there was no alcohol. When my friends that did not drink got married I was very surprised that they had an open bar. Alchol is fun but you can keep your guest entertained in other ways.
Post # 12
I do not drink much, but am definately having alcohol at my wedding. It’s what my family likes and expects. I want to make my guests happy.
Post # 13
We had a dry reception and no one seemed to mind. However, it was a Friday evening and some of the younger crowd did leave the reception early so they could go bar-hopping.
Post # 14
Thank you for the input, and as far as doing things for other people this is my wedding and I guess in the end I will do whatever makes me happy. Seeing all the different opinions just reaffirms the fact that I won’t be able to please everyone 🙂
Post # 15
I personally think it’s a very bad idea not to have alcohol. It may be a boring and low atmospheric reception. It’s completely ok for guests not to drink, but why restrict everyone just because it’s not for you..? Surely the people you invite mean a great deal to you?
I think you are sounding a little selfish. How would you feel if you went to a friend’s wedding and they ONLY had alcohol because THEY like alcohol… get it?!
Post # 16
@Pia2010: I have been to many wedding receptions (including my own thankyouverymuch) that were dry and they were not boring or “low atmospheric” – what are you talkign about any way, the mood or a weather report?! Just because something isn’t your taste doesn’t mean you need to judge it or call the OP selfish.