Post # 1
I’m helping a girlfriend of mine plan her wedding for next September.
She seems to be in the same place a lot of brides are when it comes to alcohol.
She’s not having a big wedding (~50people) but is planning on serving a buffet dinner.
Her options (in their budget) are:
-unlimited soda & one champagne toast glass per guest. This option can include a cash bar (cannot afford the hosted bar options) or No alcohol reception after the champagne.
-unlimited soda & alcohol punch bowl (probably enough for every guest to have one alcoholic drink from the punch). Cash bar in addition OR no option of alcohol after.
-unlimited soda, completely dry reception.
Thoughts? I personally wouldn’t care about the cash bar and I told her that. I think as a guest I would rather have the option of buying my own. I have been to weddings where they were open for X amount of time then changed to cash bar and it didn’t bother me at all. Then again, I’m also in the group that thinks cash bars aren’t tacky anyways…. so maybe I’m not the best at giving her advice?
Post # 3
@aquaelle: If you are her friend, and run in similar circles you probably know if your group of friends would be “offended” by a cash bar. If you’re not upset by one, they probably won’t be either.
Post # 5
Cash bars are very typical here, so it wouldn’t bother me a bit. I’d be more annoyed by a dry reception.
Post # 6
There are some regions/social sets where cash bars are OK, and there are some where they’re absolutely not. Only you know which one your friend is in. Either way, I like the champagne toast best.
Post # 7
@aquaelle: I think the first option is best. If you’re not offended by a cash bar, it’s very likely that none of the people invited to the wedding would be either (assuming you two have mutual friends and/or this is common in the area).
I don’t personally care whether or not someone has a cash bar. Many of the weddings I’ve attended have either been open for part of the time and then switched over to cash or cash only. I’ve never been upset by this. I know a lot of the girls on the Bee do get offended by cash bars, but I think it really is a very regional thing.
I agree with @Westwood: … I’d be more annoyed with a dry reception if I knew the bride and groom had no personal issues with alcohol. (I’ve been to a couple of dry receptions, but I knew the couples and their families didn’t really drink so it seemed appropriate in those cases.)
Post # 8
I’m pretty sure there would only be a very small amount of people that would be offended by the cash bar, probably not enough to make it matter really. I mean, if a couple people are offended then seriously– what kind of friends are they right?
I know she is having a small reception for a reason– she just wants the people she really cares about there, when people say that it typically means people who are close with the bride and groom. I’m pretty sure it won’t matter to most of the people, which is why that’s the opinion I gave her.
Post # 9
unlimited soda & one champagne toast glass per guest. Cash bar after.
is what we are doing.
Post # 10
I would do a cash bar when given the option of a dry wedding or cash bar.
I don’t think the punch would be great because 1 drink per guest just isn’t going to cut it.
If she does a cash bar, just be sure to warn her guests – most guests wont bring money unless they KNOW they’ll need it.
Post # 11
Between a champagne toast or a punch bowl, I definitely think a champagne toast is prettier and more celebratory. I generally don’t like cash bars, but if her other option is a completely dry wedding, then I would rather have a cash bar be available if anyone wants it. If this is out of the norm for the area, I would suggest letting guests know ahead of time it’s a cash bar because most people I know (including DH and me) never carry cash, especially to a wedding.