Alcohol vs. No Alcohol

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 3
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@_adrisabel:  This is something you and your FI ned to discuss and come to an agreement on. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

Marriage is full of compromise. Start now.

Post # 4
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We are having a dry wedding. FIs family does not drink and shames those that do while some of my family does. FI doesn’t drink and I do occasionally. It was pretty easy to say no alcohol. 

However, if you do decide on a dry wedding, be prepared to be ridiculed and told how boring your wedding is going to be. No joke. Just be prepared to stick to your guns.

Post # 5
7929 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

This is completely up to you and your FI. You are not obligated to serve alcohol. Beer and wine only might be a good compromise. Another option would be to have a champagne toast and that’s it.

(Also, only some denominations feel that way about alcohol and music/dancing. Mine certainly doesn’t. There’s nothing wrong with belonging to a denomination that does, but your blanket statement isn’t at all correct.)

Post # 6
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@_adrisabel:  I agree that you and your FI should come to an agreement about it this, with your own personal boundaries being paramount to the expectations of others.

If you decide to have a dry wedding, you could avoid the alcohol issue by hosting your reception during the day, when it’s less expected to have alcohol at a party, or in a location where alcohol is not permitted like a public park. Even though your FSIL says she’ll chip in, depending on the size of your guest list and requirements of the venue, alcohol can be really expensive, so your budget might limit what you can serve. 

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