Post # 1
So, I’m trying to figure out if this is rude – it seems rude to me, but let me run it by all of you bees.
First of all, in all likelihood, we’re having a cash bar. It’s quite common in our area, and no one will be offended by that. The important part here is that people are paying for their own drinks for the 7 hour reception.
So, my parents, don’t drink much. They don’t see why anyone should want to, or need to drink more than them. So, they want to have the bartender cut people off after 3 drinks. Now, if they aren’t paying for the drinks, why do they get a say in how much people drink?!? FYI: I drink more than 3 drinks usually!
Also, is it weird to only offer 1 free glass of wine with dinner, rather than put 2 bottles on the table? I thought it was standard to put it on the table, but has anyone else seen it done differently?
Post # 3
No, I don’t think you should cut people off based on quantity alone. It should be because they are not fit to drive. I certainly would never base it off of how much we consume because my ILs never drink, DH is a lightweight, and I can hold my own!
I suppose you can offer one free glass although I feel like that’s a waste. For example, I rarely drink with my meal and DH usually will take one. So rather then give everyone one, I think bottles would be better because then those who want it can get some.
FWIW, we had an open bar. Our caterer wasn’t going to do wine service at dinner. As such, if our guests wanted drinks during dinner, they would have to get up and get it themselves. As such, DH had a conniption and we sprung for extra servers to do drink service with dinner. Offhand, based on my observations, I don’t think that many people drank multiple glasses of alcohol during dinner specifically.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley
You shouldn’t tell people how many drinks they can have, especially if they are paying for them! This would be a pain in the ass for bartenders to track each person’s consumption too.
I think bottles on the table are better than a glass per person since it’s possible that some people won’t drink wine at all.
Post # 5
Definitely don’t cut people off. I don’t know how the bartender would even keep track of it, and it’s weird. Your parents can drink what they want and they should let the guests drink what they want.
Post # 6
We couldn’t have bottles of wine at the tables. The venue insisted on pouring them to avoid people overserving and to prevent minors from drinking.
As for the number of drinks, that just sounds like a hassle! We limited people to 1 drink/hand at a time and no doubles/triples.
Post # 7
Incredibly rude, id be very surprised. It seems v patronising
And hard to enforce too
Post # 8
WHAT?! I don’t mean to offend, but I’d be pissed if I went to a wedding to a cash bar and was cut off after 3! That seems insane to me. Either don’t cut people off (unless they’re unfit to drive) or don’t have a bar at all.