Post # 1
My family is a stereotypical loud, boistrous Irish and Italian Catholic family. They like lots of food and lots of alcohol. My fiance’s family is fairly religious and pretty conservative. They don’t drink…ever.
My fiance and I are moderates. We could take it or leave it. A nice glass of wine or a good martini is nice to have but not necessary.
What do you think about serving drinks at a wedding? Is an absolute necessity or more of a hassle?
Post # 3
I think to be a proper host, you should be providing alcohol. However, this is just how I was raised. I think that you need to have an honest discussion with both sets of parents to see what they think. Maybe you can have a beer and wine bar, or maybe they feel strongly that you should have an open bar, or no bar. It’s really up to the hosts of the event to determine if there should be alcohol.
Post # 4
I’ve been to weddings both with and without alcohol… Honestly I didn’t like not having the option to have a glass of wine at the reception. I’m not a big drinker or anything, but it’s nice to be able to have alcohol at social events.
Post # 5
@abbie017:”I think to be a proper host, you should be providing alcohol.”—Ditto.
Especially since you come from an “Irish and Italian Catholic family.” I know my Irish Catholic family would not appreciate a dry wedding. I actually don’t understand dry weddings. If people don’t drink, or are opposed to drinking…they have the option not to have a drink. If you don’t provide alcohol, you are basically ignoring the comfort of people who do like a cocktail (or few) in a social setting.
Post # 6
Most of our friends are from a campground and the girls enjoy a nice cocktail and the boys love kickin back with some beers so it is a must at our wedding and we wouldn’t have it any other way!!! Can’t wait it will be sooo much fun!
Post # 7
I would provide alcohol. As someone else mentioned, nobody is being forced to drink. For myself, having a Newfoundland wedding with no alcohol… couldn’t even imagine it!
Post # 8
@SweetHoneyBee: I say beer and/or wine is very nice–more than that isn’t necessary, but of coure it’s welcome
although I have to say, if half of the guests are not drinkers you may be wasting a lot of money on an open bar unless the other half drinks enough to make up for it!
Post # 9
I don’t think alcohol is needed to have a fun party. I’ve been to a few dry weddings that were extremely fun!
We served basically unlimited wine (we ended up having 10 bottles left over so it was pretty perfect actually) but had a cash bar if people wanted mixed drinks. Most of our families are not really drinkers and the ones who are only drink wine anyway lol.
Post # 10
Thanks for the input ladies. I’m not going to lie I’m surprised the vast majority say drinks are a must. I don’t know why that surprises me but it does.
I guess my biggest concerns are whether or not we’ll end up with a lot of wasted money because alcohol that hasn’t been consumed. Out of the 175 we’re inviting there are maybe 50-60 people who will actually consume alcohol.
I’m not necessarily against having alcohol I just thought it might be nice to use that money saved and maybe it put it toward the food or entertainment.
But I definitely have a lot to think about. I guess we need to put some feelers out about how his side of the family will react to the alcohol.
Post # 11
Alcohol is never required and many people have a blast without it (and don’t miss it at all). I have only ever been to dry weddings but I don’t have anything against those that serve alcohol. For what it’s worth, I do drink on other occasions so I am not anti-alcohol, which many claim you absolutely must be if you have no issues with dry weddings. At the same time, it’s not true either that it is a must for all weddings or else they won’t be valid and guests will go home immediately out of boredom, as those same folks claim. You can have moderation.
Alcohol is nice to have but is not a dealbreaker if it isn’t there. That said, we’re on the fence about serving it, not because anyone is against it but because I don’t know that we have enough serious drinkers in our crowd to justify the expense.
Post # 12
I’ve been to dry recpetion and honestly spent 30minutes or so trying to work out where the alcohol was being served. I’ve been to other weddings when I’ve not had a drop but it’s my choice not someone elses.
I think it’s expected but if you’re worried about “drunks” I’d provide only wine for the tables and then have a cash bar.
I’d be happy with one glass for the meal and maybe another for toasting. Drinking and getting drunk are two different things.
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s necessary, but I definitly prefer alcohol at a wedding. I don’t get to go out much, or drink very often, so when there’s a fun event like a wedding, I’d like a drink. We’ll definitely have it at ours.
Post # 14
It’s not necessary but be warned your family may not be impressed at a dry wedding. I would suggest having something for them to enjoy – they are there to celebrate after all 🙂
Post # 15
Our situation was almost the same as yours — my husband’s family definitely drinks, and my family is more conservative. My husband and I only drink a little. All of our friends and my parents friends certainly enjoy their alcohol.
We ended up having an open bar as well as a coffee bar, so we figured there was something for everyone. If someone didn’t want a drink, they could have soda or coffee or whatever else they enjoy. 🙂
Post # 16
I think that it can really make or break a wedding- depending on the guests that are there. Maybe as a compromise, you could do just beer and wine and not a full open bar. But it is his family’s choice not to drink, so they don’t have to partake if they don’t want to! At the end of the day, you want everyone to look back at your reception and say “wow that was a great time!”