Post # 1
We are having a destination wedding in the Bahamas in September. 7 months ago, I asked 5 of my closest friends to stand up in the wedding as bridesmaids. They all knew it was a destination wedding and they all agreed to be bridesmaids and seemed excited. Fast forward to now, a month and a half before the wedding. 3 of my bridesmaids announced they couldn’t go because it was too expensive and the other 2 have completely ignored my calls, texts, and messages for the past few weeks so I am just assuming they won’t be coming I guess. Since they aren’t going to be attending the wedding, my friends don’t want anything to do with it anymore. No one has asked about a bridal shower or bachelorette party or offered to help with anything wedding related (let alone ask how plans are going). I understand that the cost of flights and hotel are expensive but I wish they would have told me months ago that they couldn’t go. At this point I have gone from being excited for my wedding and excited to share this special day with my friends to utterly disapointed. Now I have to face the fact that the morning of my wedding I will be alone…Getting my hair and make up done alone, and trying to put on my dress by myself. I feel like no one cares about my fiance and I or our wedding. One of my family members even planned her wedding on the same day as ours so now most of my familiy isn’t even coming to our wedding, they are going to hers. To make matters even more akward, my fiance asked 5 of his close friends/relatives to be groomsmen in our wedding and guess what… all 5 of them ARE coming. So now we have a wedding party with 5 groomsmen and 0 bridesmaids. What am I supposed to do? Have 5 men stand up there? Tell them to sit down? Also, does anyone have any suggestions of how I could make the morning of the wedding less lonely? I was thinking maybe breakfast with my fiance and then getting a massage or something.. I don’t know. 🙁
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
That sucks. Sadly this is one of the major issues with a destination wedding. Everybody gets on board at the beginning but when it’s time to book things and shell out money, they change their mind. Is there any way you could spring for one of the bridemaids to make it?
Get pampered that morning by booking a full mani/pedi, massage and then having them do your hair and makeup.
Post # 4
This sucks and clealy she should have commuicated with you. If you ask anyone who had a destination wedding it’s common to have this happen. People don’t save enough, or end up thinking how much this is going to cost them in addition to money, vacation time.
After having having a destination wedding that is going to cost your guest thousands of dollers expecting them to help with wedding planning is asking a lot I think. They went about bowing out in a crappy way. Hopefully you can speak to them and get an explantion for their behavior. Have your mother and other female friends come get ready with you day of so it isn’t lonely.
Perhaps have a nice dinner or get together to celebrate your wedding for family who couldn’t make it. i think when you have a destination wedding you have to expect these things, the distance and money make it harder on people. Look on the positive side and enjoy the people who can afford to go to your wedding. Goodluck!
Post # 5
I agree with PP. Maybe you could help out your MOH so she can at least come?
There is nothing rong with having 5 groomsmen only, by the way. Lots of people have uneven wedding parties, and this could still work even without any bm’s.
The morning of I would maybe bring a cousin or maybe your mother in law out to breakfast or to get mani/pedi’s with you. There has to be someone there that can hang out with you, but I would let your FI hang out with his gm that day.
Good luck. Everything will work out, and in the end you will be married to fabulous man who loves you. 🙂
Post # 6
Sorry you are having to deal with this so close to your wedding day. Shame on your friends for ignoring your calls!!
We just got married in Jamaica and we didnt have a bridal party so we could avoid things like this happening. Our day was perfect – I wouldnt have changed a thing….and to answer your question of what to do before the ceremony….my then-FI and I ordered room service for breakfast with a bottle of champagne. We met our guests outside on the beach for a bit before we went to the spa. Although he wont admit, my other half got a pedicure while I was getting my hair and make-up done and then afterwards we went back to the room til relax before he had to leave! Before we knew it, it was time to say “I DO”.
Are your parents or any other family going to be joining you? Are you close to any of the groomsmen’s wifes/gf that you could hang out with them or go to the spa with them??
No matter what you decide to do – you are getting married in the Bahamas and it will be a special day for your and your future husband to remember for a lifetime, regardless of who comes or doesnt come. Best wishes 🙂
Post # 7
Aw! I am so sorry. This is beyond devastating, but the important thing is that you are marrying the man of your dreams somewhere gorgeous!
I’m with kristie…are there any females relatives or otherwise you are close with that you could invite to get ready with you? Or if the groomsmen have wives or gfs, even if you aren’t close to them, you could do a girls thing or even ask them to stand up with you as bridesmaids. It could turn into a really great party! Otherwise, be funny with the groomsmen…take lots of pics of them holding you, vying for your attention or whatever else!
I’m sorry this happened, but honestly in 10 years all that will matter is your DH and the people that did show up to celebrate with you!