Post # 1
i just want it to be over already! MAY 12, 2012…THATS EXACTLY A MONTH AWAY.
im not nervous at all but stressing on things i might not even have control of. i keep thinking if everything is going to turn out as planned. if people are going to have fun. if theres enough food. i dont know why im stressing over food when we did get a catering service for 200 guests and we also got extra food so it can be served later on in the evening for the people that will be a bit tipsy.
i dont know if any of you had arguments and fights through out the planning because i know i sure did. oh my and why is it sooooooo hard to find a “first dance” song and a wedding party introduction song and bride and groom introduction song. why do we need music for introduction? is it necessary? first dance songs are suppose to be what? slow, fast…..I DONT KNOW!!!! songs we both like i feel are not appropriate but songs he likes i dont like and songs i like he doesnt like. the only songs we do like may not be appropriate and besides that, we dont even know how to dance to them. for example there is “STARLIGHT” BY MUSE and there is “SMILE” BY UNCLE CRACKER. those are songs we both like but are they appropriate and if they are, how do you dance to them? it is just so hard. i like other really nice songs from the civil wars bryan adams, sister hazel but he thinks that they are boring or he just doesnt like them. but he wants me to walk down the isle to bruno mars “rain” are u kidding me!? let me just make a note to our guests and say “if you have some morphine lying around at home, please be sure to bring a dose or two just in case our marriage fails the groom will have some to ease his pain. thank you” grrrrrrrrr…..
im sorry, im venting here. i just need a first dance song an i cant find one and when i bring the subject up to him all he says is just pick whatever you like. he doesnt care what song we will dance to at our wedding. thats how i see it and it frustrates me. hes always involved and gives his comments and opinions even when they are not needed or asked for. why cant he do that now?
bees….if you have any songs please shoot them my way.
Post # 3
I have always thought that “I have and always will” by Dave Barnes would be an amazing first dance song. It is rather short but it is a beautiful song
Post # 4
@grouch29: I think step one is to pick whether you want a slow and sentimental first dance, where you’re both just swaying around and your head is on his shoulder and while you guys are loving it, your audience is, well, kind of bored … OR, do you want a faster song that is more celebratory where you can smile and laugh through it but maybe don’t quite get the same newlywed slow-dance pictures?
Once you pick which way you want to go with it, there are millions of lists online of ideas for song choices that fall into either category. Fi and I decided we’d rather do a faster, more fun first dance song because that’s the kind of people we are. I don’t think I could stomach spending four straight minutes slow-dancing while everyone stared! So we decided on “Can’t take my eyes off of you”, because I just think that song is so ridiculous that it suits us perfectly! If you dig a little deeper, you’ll realize that somewhere along the line, you’ve caught yourselves singing something to each other that will be ideal for your first dance. It doesn’t have to be a song other people would pick, or it can be a song that ‘everyone’ picks but you still want to use!
And it’s totally okay to go with something ridiculous 🙂 At least I sure think so!
Post # 5
My first dance song was “Oh It Is Love” by Hellogoodbye and we just swayed to it. We got a lot of compliments from friends about how it was original/ unexpected but somehow worked. The only negative feedback I received from it was from my MIL but that’s an entirely different thread. Our DJ wanted us to pick introduction songs for the wedding party but I was at a loss and the DJ and I got on rather well so I left that particular song choice up to him and I wasn’t disappointed. He chose the Black Eyed Peas “I Gotta Feeling”
Post # 6
I understand your stress. My wedding day is May 25th, and I’m having exactly the same issues as you. Right now, I’m planning on using Sister Hazel’s This kind of love. Some other songs I like are Acoustic version of Everlong, Tangled up in you by Stained, ect. What type of song are you looking for specifically?
I’d say pick something you like, that has meaning to you. You don’t have to be a good dancer, just sway back and forth. Nothing wrong with the choices you have.
I know this doesn’t help. And considering I can’t choose my own music, I know it’s easier to say, “go with something you like.” to someone else. I hope some bees will help you pick a song that is just right for you.
Post # 7
I am walking down the aisle to “Stolen” by Dashboard Confessionals, I just picked it, he had no say so.
The first dance I figured we should both pick and we both could not decide on one. So we are going with Elvis “Cant help falling in love” Yeah its not very unique but its a sweet song.
Recessional is Uptown Girl by Me First and the Gimme Gimmes. Because we are that kind of couple…
I chose Vitamin String Quartet for Prelude and bridesmaids. They have pretty much every song you can think of as an instrumental. Everything else is up to the DJ.
Try not to sweat the small things so much! It will drive you crazy!
Post # 8
Us Against the World by Coldplay
Post # 9
thank you so much bees. it does make me feel a lot better. sorry for the venting. you all really helped out a lot
Post # 10
Well, our first music will be “Secret”, by Seal :-). I know..even though they splited!
My entrance music – Only Time, Enya
Ceremony music – “Turning page” – twillight wedding scene (haunting!! i em even using the lyrics in the card that shows people where they sit)
I am starting to freak out myself, alhough i have a little more time than you, but for other reasons..
Hugs! In the end it’s not the little things that maybe didn’t turn out quite like we planned..in the end what it matters is how happy we will feel and what it means
Post # 11
I am having the same issues, I have done everything else, but the music is the hardest part. I chose lana del raysvideo games for the processional, and we are having cold chisels “all for you” (a bit of Aussie Rock) for the first dance. The easiest thing we did was choose a band that we both LOVE and then choose a song from there. It actually came really easy (for the first dance song) once we had the band! But… That’s where the easy-ness ended 🙂 I’m now not sure whether I can have instrumental music for the bridesmaids since I am having an actual song.
Post # 12
I HAVE A SONG!!!! ACTUALLY, I HAVE TWOOOOO!!!!
no more stressing over our first dance song. we decided on a song from Staind, All I want. I love that song and i just love Staind. Hes not a fan at all but he really liked the song. Sooooo even though we agreed on that song, I sort of changed it to Starlight from Muse. He thinks its the song from Stained but nope! I decided on Starlight because i know for a fact he really truly loves that song as i love it as well and he has mentioned in several occassions that the song Starlight reminds him of me, of us when he hears it. I had to go with that song and although we have no clue how to dance to that song im sure we will figure it out. as for the “pictures” of a slow dance, i will have those too. were both hispanic and we both have big families so he thought about doing a spanish song for the first dance as well. He picked a really good song from Pedro Infante ” Tu vida es mi vida” meaning your life is my life.
thank you all so much for help. i truly appreciate it