All brides who've had a long engagement…

posted 3 years ago in Decor
Post # 2
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Stanley Historic Space, Lee's Summit, MO

We’ve just set our wedding date for June 18, 2016 (pending venue, which we can’t even book this far out–they’re making us wait ’til next June!). But I’m already finding centerpiece books and making book-page flowers for our rustic kind-of-book-themed nerdy barn wedding! I can’t make myself wait! 🙂

Post # 3
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1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

FutureMrsJohnson_:  Our engagement will be 20 months by the time our wedding comes around – I’ve really only just started to seriously look at the smaller details (we’re just over 9 months out now). I really think you can start whenever you like, so long as you know you won’t change your mind! If you find a great deal on something you LOVE I think its fine to get in early.

There are lots of pro’s to being super organised – plus the more you do early on the less stressful the lead up to the wedding will be! 🙂

Post # 4
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1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Anything that you can do ahead of time, DO IT ASAP!! 🙂

We had a 1.5 year engagement, and I thought I’d wait till a year out to start everything… but it was a LOT, and was overwhelming.  Our pocketfold invitations were crazy tough to get done quickly (they weren’t HARD to do, just time-consuming!).  Some things can’t be done ahead of time (for example, we did coffee bean favors, but had the coffee FRESH roasted for us a few days before the wedding… couldn’t do that until just before!), but get started ASAP and work on everything you can, to get it out of the way!  You’ll be surprised how many last minute things there will be!!

Get ideas for tablescapes, centerpieces, etc… invitations.. favors.. general decorations.. bridal party gifts.. guest book.. seating cards/seating chart.. choose songs for the ceremony, special dances, cake-cutting, it’s never too early!! 🙂

Post # 5
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2162 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We had a two and a half year engagement. I started buying things about two years out. I originally planned on using paper flowers, so I made a ton, and then I changed my mind and had wasted around $40 in materials and hours of time. I don’t really regret that, because it was fun and if I hadn’t tried I would always wonder, but I just wasn’t that good at making the flowers. Anyway, I think it’s smart to start as soon as you can but try to be sure about what you are spending money on. If you aren’t sure, just put it off a little while and see what you think a few months down the road.

We booked our venue a year and three months before the wedding, and when we called they said they already had an event for that day. We were really bummed but since it was so far in advance they were able to work something out so we could still have the date we wanted.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

FutureMrsJohnson_:  we had a 19 month engagement and i pretty much started working on stuff as soon as we got engaged! the more you do now, the less  you have to worry about later! within 3 months of our engagment we had all of our major vendors booked and i started working on details of what i wanted! 

Post # 8
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My two cents from a 19 month engagement with 4 months left- be careful of wedding burnout.  I did a lot of stuff early on, spent too much time focusing on wedding items and after a solid 15 months of that, I could now not care less and we didn’t even have the wedding yet.  I looked at too many crafts, spent too much time thinking about bouquets and hairpieces and little details and it was overload.  I wish I had just done the big stuff a year out, and then waited until 6 months out for everything else.  I can’t look at another flower girl basket, or cake cutter without getting a headache.

A long engagement is a marathon, not a 5k.  You can’t expend all your energy up front especially on little things, or by the halfway point, you’ll be exhausted.  Make sure to spread it out, and savor it.  I’m definitely missing out on some 4 months out excitement now because I peaked too early.

Post # 9
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2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had a 18 month engagement, I would advise u start gathering ideas and begin planning now, but not buy until the 4-6 month out mark. I was so glad I waited to purchase because I grew to hate all of my original ideas. I changed color themes twice and changed ideas on centerpieces. I changed my decision on my bouquet, favors, guest book, welcome bags, and added last minute things. My final product was sooo much better than what I started out with after I was able to really sink my teeth into the visualization and planning part. I was planning the tackiest wedding! So I had plenty of time to change my mind without wasting any dollars by buying too soon.

I know how hard it is to go from the excitement of setting the date and reserving the super important things like venue, photog, caterer etc. But between that first part and the actual finalizing and purchasing was a loooong uneventful yet stressful12 months. It’s unexpected to have such a long down period with a long engagement, but that is just the way goes. 

Post # 10
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1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m 5 months in on an 18 month engagement. I keep a pinterest board or two for things I want to try, but beyond that I’m not willing to commit to or start any projects until I’m a few months away. It would seem like a waste of $$ and space if I started all these crazy projects. I figure all those little DIY stuff isn’t important. First we have to pay for and secure all the big ticket items. 

Post # 11
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9226 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

Our wedding will probably be in May 2017 (got engaged January 2012, originally going to have a July 2015 wedding but pushed back) and we haven’t started booking things yet, but I know what you mean about wanting to start with the DIY. I really want to start practising with the DIY so I know I can get it done when it needs to actually get done. I am hoping we can DIY all the paper products – invitations, menus, programs, escort cards, but haven’t started yet, got so much else going on and the wedding is so far away! However I did buy my garter in the first year of our engagement, so have started with buying things but not much.

Post # 12
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1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

2 years and three months total here… Take your time, but do what you can when you can. Time flies by… I am glad that I did things in advance, because there are only small things left! All the extra time allows you to change your mind and tweak your ideas until you are satisfied. Good luck to you!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

FutureMrsJohnson_:  I have been engaged since May 2009, getting married in Dec and I am just now starting to do things.

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