Post # 1
So I’m getting married in my FIs country. Where we both live at the moment. My friends (best friends… like sisters) said they could make it out here for it. Then this last sunday they all at the same time, via facebook, dropped out due to cost. I understand its expensive to fly out but im sooo upset.
It caused me to question if i wanted to marry Fiance, which I now know is just cause i was sooo upset, I really want to marry him. Hes the one. Even said he would talk to the girls. Offer some money for flights etc…. but I can’t face them rejecting again so don’t think its a good idea. It will hurt too much and i want to remain friends with these girls…. Three of them were to be bridesmaids….
I’m just sooo bummed…. I cant even get excited about the wedding at the mo, everytime i try i get a lump in my throat. They should be here for it :(. My family are coming which is great and my sister will be Maid/Matron of Honor. Fiance also cut his groomsmen down to just his brother. Just sooo sad… we planned to have a bachelorette party and now they aren’t coming…. How do i get past this? We are going to do something in my country next year so i will get to celebrate it with them and said they will take me out for bachelorette party then….. but they aren’t coming for this one….
I want to marry him when we planned, this is the day, plus my family and his are already coming, they booked the flights… I can’t cancel just because of my friends. They wouldn’t want me to either….. but I’m soooo bummed…… 🙁
Post # 3
Unfortunately that is the risk you take when you get married in one country and your friends and family are in another. Sorry your sad, but at least you will get to see them and celebrate with them when you go back to your country! At least your family will be there. 🙂
Post # 3
Why not have two weddings? One at home and one back home.
Post # 4
HUGS to you. Chin up. I know its hard. but like Heather25 said, why not have two weddings. or tleast have a party when you get back, that way you can celebrate with your girlies.
Everything will be okay. Don’t worry and dont stress!
Post # 5
Why are you getting married there if all of your friends and family are where you are? If Fiance has lived in the same country as you are it seems to me that you would get married where you live?
Post # 6
Sometimes when we are carried away with the excitement of wedding planning we lose touch with reality. Even our BF’s get carried away when asked to be in the wedding party.
Most people are lucky to be employed in this economy, much less flying across the world to attend a wedding. It is just not possible for many people. It doesn’t mean they love you any less.
I deplore this trend to communicate via facebook. People shoud at least have the courtesy to speak to you over the phone- not email- to deliver news like that. You should be able to receive that news in private and ahead of your “friends”.
Post # 7
hm, that is a little weird they all declined at the same time via facebook…i’d be a little ticked off not that they can’t come, but the way they did it. do you think they all spoke about this beforehand? seems kinda fishy to me somehow…
Post # 8
I think they did all talk about it. We are a group of friends. So I’m sure they talked, looked at the flight prices and realised its just not possible. I do understand and we will do something back home next year. A phone call would of been nice, but its prob not worth losing friends over. I guess they just knew I would be heartbroken. I am trying to come round, as this is an important day for us. Just feel sad, and feel sad when i see people’s pictures of them getting ready with their girls etc…
@ms smitten, We don’t live in are home countries, I’m from the UK, hes from japan and we both live in the states. This is where we met, hes lived here 15+ years and me its almost 2 years. So he has stronger ties here. Plus we may decide to stay in the states so getting married here makes sense.
Post # 9
Why would you think twice about marrying him just b/c your friends couldn’t be in your wedding because of cost?
Post # 10
Not ever just on that date, I want to marry him…. I guess I just imagined it a certain way and its hard to imagine not having these people there.