Post # 1
i have 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, my first Bm is the only one helping me with things and looking around for things and she live in Michigan and i live in Louisiana. IDk how this is working,but its a shame the the other Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor lives here in LA and does even call me or anything. I have already picked the dresses out for them and and everything. I called them b4 i did this and they all agreed that they would love to be in the wedding and would have no problem buying their dresses. Now i cant get ahold of them and really starting to think they just dont care. Im stressing here, planning this wedding and trying to buy our house is killing me. Finacee works off all the time so its really just me doing this. What do i do? Should i find other girls to be in my wedding? Should i not give up on them.. My wedding is in May,2011. I really need advise.
Post # 3
I think you are a little too far out to expect them to do too much. Their main responsibilty is to get the dress and show up on time. A shower/bachelorette party is often usually planned. Beyond that they are not help. It is not their job to help you research things or do misc. crafts, unless they care to do it.
Once you get closer to the wedding they be offering to help more too. Mine checked in here and there to make sure i didn’t need help, but just now got really involved in things.
Post # 4
We have the same wedding date and I don’t expect my Bms to do anything yet. We’ve started talking bachelorette party but I think its pretty early to expect them to be involved.
Post # 5
I think everyone has different expectations of their bridesmaids and it’s important to communicate yours to them. At this point you’re quite a ways out, so I’m sure they’ll step up later if you give them specific things you need help with. I personally wouldn’t like it if somebody was just like… keep an eye out for stuff for my wedding. But, if somebody was like… hey, come over and we’ll drink wine and stuff my invites, I’m in.
Post # 6
Oh please, my friend’s wedding date was in May of 2010. By July of 2009, she was a HUGE PAIN IN THE ASS because she was stressing all of us for dress and shoes and make up and stuff. I’m not saying you are doing the same thing, but I was getting about 10 emails a day for a wedding that was almost a year away. I know it’s hard, but your wedding is more important to you than your bridesmaids. Do what you can, delegate if you can, endure the rest.
Post # 7
@chelle4381c: I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. I understand exactly what you’re going through. I feel the exact same way w/ my girls. Unfortunately, I did not let them know a year ago what I expected of them down the road and it came back to bite me on the ass. You do have a few months to go, and like Sapphire said hopefully they’ll start standing up to the plate as time goes on. If there are certain things you expect of them you need to let them know now. It’s hard to understand why others may not be as excited about your wedding as you are, but you don’t need people stressing you out either. I would politely ask again if they’re still up for the task of Bridesmaid or Best Man, that you would like to know so you can get your ducks in a row as far as dresses, etc. & go from there. You should give them a couple months and see if they come around.
Post # 8
@CaraMia10: im not saying as if they have to help me. Its the fact they seem to care less about anything. I was talking to one Bridesmaid or Best Man and she is like well idk if ill have the money to get it and asked me to get it for her. I have stopped evenlooking for things for my wedding cause i have to much going on with buying a house and caring for my son. Im a single mom and my finacee works off alot. So im literlly doig it all by myself. Just say
Post # 9
I have 4 BMs and one of them is doing the bare minimum (getting her dress and shoes). She may be late to the rehearsal and hasn’t helped the other girls out with the shower and bachlorette party they planned. While it hurts a bit, I’m just trying to remember that some people are able to be more involved than others and I’m thankful for the girls who are putting out so much effort!
Post # 10
im not asking for a bach. party cause all my girls are co workers with me for our company called slumber parties. We are a all womens company who are romance enchament specialist. Yes its just ike FUN parties but way better. I dont drink so we are not going clubbing or nothing. Just chill out at home and get rest..