(Closed) All His Friends are Asking me…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@kmsw:  Before my Fiance proposed (almost a year before) his coworkers (firemen! lol) would make comments like “I know a good wedding planner” etc to me.

Post # 4
141 posts
Blushing bee

Perhaps they know or suspect something.

A lot of men will tell their buddies that they think their SO is the marrying type (and mean it too, or else they wouldn’t tell their friends), but never say anything more than that in terms of specifics like the when and how. This may be what has prompted his friends to ask you, and it’s definetly a good sign.

If it is a close friend of his asking I usually respond with “well, he wants to surprise me with it, but I know he trusts you and would let you in on it if you asked him”. This I figure boosts up the friends ego enough to ask direct questions like “when are you doing it buddy?” in order to get the man thinking about direct answers.

The way I see it –

Trusted friend asks direct question = SO needs to think about direct answers and direct action, as opposed to vague questions with vague answers and no action.

Post # 5
2164 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

All my SO’s friends do this too!! I told them to direct their questions toward him 😉

Post # 6
1077 posts
Bumble bee

I always tell them that that’s an excellent question and that they should ask the SO and report back to me! 🙂

Post # 7
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Well, you can definately take that as a damn good sign that his friends like and approve of you!

Post # 8
162 posts
Blushing bee

My friend had been with her bf for a few years when his friends started asking him questions about when he was going to propose. He laughed along like a good sport, then dumped her because he had no intention of marrying her and was tired of being pressured to do something he didn’t want to.

I guess you could say it was lucky that it happened before she wasted any more time with him. She was obviously good enough to wash his socks but not good enough to marry. But she still feels like those jokey comments from friends resulted in her relationship ending. Such comments are only helpful if the guy in question DOES actually intend to marry you soon!

Post # 9
3786 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

His aunt, who I’d never met before, asked this.  Creeped me out because I knew nothing about her.

Post # 10
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Lol my guys friends have said that if he doesn’t marry me, that one of them will do it. one of his friends asked him in front of my why he’s waiting so long, and that I must be really patient to wait this long. Lol!

Post # 11
1448 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Fiberoptic:  Aw!  That’s so sad! Very obviously that guy wasn’t mature enough for a real relationship.  I hope she found an awesome guy to get married to after that!

Post # 12
60 posts
Worker bee

HAHA! My SO’s mother asked me this the other day. I was like well maybe you should ask him, what I wanted to say was maybe if he didnt have to get your approval on every little aspect of his life then he would have sorted it by now.

On the note of SO’s telling their friends, I knew about my friends engagement before she did because her SO had told my SO. I was so excited for her and struggled to keep it quiet. Turned out the whole of our fri3ndship group new before he actually did the deed in the end, although we all pretended it was a massive surprise!



Post # 13
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have heard this question so much that it irritates me now…lol  They should be asking him.  One of his buddies asked me to marry him since my SO hasn’t done it yet.  That was funny!  He was drunk when he did it and that was a year ago.

I don’t mind my close friends asking, but it does bother me when people he works with that I hardly know feel its ok to ask me these questions.  All I have is a timeline, not a date.  I try to steer clear of these questions as best I can because it’s something I ask myself everyday.

Post # 14
812 posts
Busy bee

@kmsw:  Lol actually I get the opposite – one of my SO’s female friends always says (in front of us both) ‘please don’t make it soon, give us a couple years without a wedding!’ – there’s been loads of peeps getting engaged lately lol

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