(Closed) All I want to do is cry and hide.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel like something is missing here. Why do YOU feel like you need to hide? It doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong… I mean, you guys were up for a LONG time and she never came back, so how were you supposed to know what she was up to? Sounds like she just overreacted and misunderstood the situation. 

Post # 5
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3887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You have a right to be mad at how she handled things, but you also have to look at it from her side of things: especially if there was alcohol involved, it’s really distressing to feel like you’ve gotten lost from your group, might not have anywhere to sleep, can’t get anyone on the phone… it’s definitely upsetting, and while a calm person might use the hotel house phone to call the room directly or retrace her steps back to the room, someone who’s been wandering around a hotel for an hour at 1 in the morning is probably not going to be calm.  It doesn’t excuse her name-calling, but it does at least give you some perspective that might make it easier for everyone to get over it. 

I’d say something like “I know you were really upset when you couldn’t get in touch with us, and I’m sorry for not thinking ahead on that, and I hope you’re sorry for calling us shitty friends because I don’t think you meant that,” and offer to kiss and make up.

Post # 7
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45378 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There are a number of possible explanations for her behavior:

-had she been drinking?

-is it  possible that she was embarssed that she couldn’t remember the room and instead of picking up a house phone and asking the front desk to put her through to your room so she could get the room #, she wandered the halls, somehow thinking your door would look different from the others?

All reasons aside, it’s not something to break off a friendship for. If we all were dropped by our friends every time one of us did something stupid, none of us would have any friends.

ETA You said she was sober. I’m guessing she was embarassed that she didn’t think to contact the hotel and lashed out. To some people the best defense is a good offense.

Post # 8
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wait… I’m sorry you have not done anything wrong here at all. She needs to hide! She could have.gone down to the front and asked for the room number or bad someone call the room phone and tell y’all she was back. -_-. You have a right to be mad because she was acting up for no reason.

Post # 9
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5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Soooo, she wanders around a hotel for an hour fuming?  What the hell is the front desk for?  Derp!  

Post # 10
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I know that when I CALL and CALL and CALL and TEXT and TEXT people that I KNOW have their phones, I get cranky. Add to the fact that she was lost, that just added to her irritation. She probably didn’t know they were dead, so she probably assumed ya’ll were having too much fun to care where she went or if she was okay.

If it were me, I’d be irritated too. But I’d also get it over it pretty quickly. So I’d say give her a couple of days, and she’ll be fine. I’d apologize just to clear things up, and then let it go. She should be fine.
 
ETA: I’m not saying apologize because I think you did anything wrong, but that’s probably what would make her forget about it. Like, “I’m sorry that I didn’t answer my phone and you felt ignored. Still friends?” type deal.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I may be missing something but I don’t understand why she didn’t go ask the front desk what room it was and for an escort if she couldn’t find it? You did nothing wrong. 

Post # 12
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2290 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

She could have asked the hotel staff to help her find your room. Sounds like she way over reacted. You have nothing to apologize for here.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

“Pieces of craps?” Wow. Some friend. Can’t even insult you with good grammar.

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