All my (single) friends do is talk about Tinder!

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I was under the impression that Tinder was for younger people… like up to 21 years old.

Friends do tend to divert from one another as certain ones move on with their lives, whether through marriage, children, real jobs, etc.  It’s just the way of life.  Just stay in contact, but realize you won’t be able to bond about everything right now.  One day you’ll be back on the same page.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

The connections you have with different friends will come and go. I don’t think you can fix this problem. You can try hanging out again and try contributing/diverting the conversation but if they want to talk about things that aren’t relevant to you it is what it is.  You might have to branch out to friends that share your same interests and values. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

whitemochi622:  I go through the same thing with my PhD program.  Most people are young (well, I’m young too) and want to drink every weekend, and 5 months into my program I started dating a guy with a 5 year old and it was over.  I’m now in mommy-mode and planning a wedding.  No one can relate!  So I’ve learned to keep my personal life to myself and let my colleagues discuss their sexual references to everything and how hungover they are.  It happens.  lol

Post # 6
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Busy bee

 

damarajade:  I don’t know, I see a fair amount of late 20 somethings in NY on tinder. Everyone tells me it’s more fun that okcupid and you don’t have to go through the trouble of writing the profile. I think my friends are evenly divided between okc and tinder.

I met my SO on okc so I’m still interested to hear peoples online dating stories. I really like my okc experience and I love hearing peoples success stories. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Even though I haven’t been single for 7 years, I absolutely love hearing about all my single friends’ adventures. I actually much prefer that to hanging out with my non-single friends. I find that the non-single friends tend to talk about things like mortgages and babies and I’m just like:

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Also, I should add that it irks me when non-single/married people have this “better than thou” attitude and think that some of the things single people may be doing are so “immature and juvenile.” It comes off as very condescending to me. Being engaged/married/TTC etc. doesn’t give you some golden ticket and doesn’t elevate your life choices over anyone else’s.

It’s one thing to think “our priorities are different” but it’s another to think “their prorities are dumb, mine are obviously more important” (which is how this comes off to me).

If the majority of your friends are single and want to talk about Tinder, I think it’s a bit selfish to think that they should all instead focus on the more “mature” things that you and your DH would prefer.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

TheGridMonster:  I fully agree. I specifically love hearing about Tinder. I think the whole swipe left or right based solely on a picture is so interesting (and problematic).. Especially when my single male friends tell me that girls are on there looking for serious committments. Which seems completely counter- productive.

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

whitemochi622:  Sometimes married/ dating people are boring. In some cases, incredibly so..

I’ll admit I shared that my husband and I were going to vaccuum pack our summer clothing on Saturday and our friends looked at us and said “So, marriage is.. marriage, eh?”. We can be boring to other people, but we were excited and as a group we were talking about our weekends.

Hearing the tales of dating/ hooking up/ falling in love is exciting.. My husband and I enjoy hanging out with our single friends and hearing about their lives. Ours is fun to us but, its not as exciting as someone who is actively dating.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

whitemochi622:  Well.. That’s different! That sounds malicious and hurtful.

Married people may be ‘boring’ when they talk about going to Home Depot and Bed, Bath, and Beyond to look at curtains but.. They can still contribute to conversations and not lull everyone to sleep. How rude.. This behavior sounds very high school.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

princesslettuce14:  I met my SO on plenty of fish.  I hated it!!! Luckily we hit it off right away, because I deleted my profile as soon as I could. The volume of messages was insane… just in the first hour. I only ended up responding to 5 guys out of 80 – and those were the only ones that said something about my profile.  The rest were derogatory comments or a simple “hi.”

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