Post # 1
Lets keep this thread filled with peace, folks. Now before I continue (seeing my history on Bee thusfar)
THIS IS NOT MEANT TO OFFEND ANYONE!!!! Just making some convo and getting a feel for other brides POSITIVE perspectives.
Ok, so after sitting down with my male friends – we gets the talking. Boy they hate that “W” word. They don’t even want to think of it! They’re not even in relationships and they’re just cringing at the tought. The money and time involved! NO MORE XBOX! So we gets talking about rings.
One friend says 3 months salary should be placed to the side for an engagement ring. One female friend who was there slapped us all in the face with a wooping $74632124124, tax included.
I’m personally ok with something small and inexpensive (don’t get me wrong. Slap a $5k ring on my finger and watch me go!).My engagement ring looks pretty inexpensive (I dare not ask but I swear I saw the shit in Target one day).
What do you think should be the price for an engagement ring? Would you be happy with something small or something large? Expensive or inexpensive?
Post # 3
*goes to get popcorn*
EDIT: I will add though, that I think a ring should cost however much the man can and feels llike spending.
Post # 5
@Joctradamus: Not trying to start drama, honestly. But 5k is NOT an inexpensive ring
I think a couple should spend however much they feel comfortable with. Whether that’s $300 or $30,000.
Post # 6
Personally i did not care what size or how much my ring cost. It was the gesture that really gets me. When i look at it i know my fiance gave it to me with the best intentions and all the love he could give.
Post # 7
@cyndistar3: LOL! Girl stop playin!
Post # 8
I don’t think the price of the ring matters at all.
The 3 month “rule” was created by DeBeers to get people to spend more on diamonds.
It doesn’t matter whether your ring cost $0 or $1,000,000 (or if you even have a ring at all).
What matters is that you are marrying the love of your life.
I don’t think it’s “bad” to not spend much on a ring and I also don’t think it’s bad to spend a lot on a ring.
The important part is living within your means and not going deep into debt for one piece of jewelry when the most important part of the jewelry is what it represents (not what it cost).
Post # 9
When we were first talking engagement rings, I had also heard it was suppose to be 3 months salary. Well if that’s true, my ring would have been $20,000. Sweet!! Ya no way FI would buy me a car to wear on my finger.
I don’t really know what a ring SHOULD cost, but I’m happy with my ring!
EDIT: My terrible math skills have failed me again. It would have been a $40,000 ring. So TWO cars!
Post # 10
@Gingersnap: Hey ginger! I know, no need to even open up with that. I’m all about the peace!
Post # 11
@Joctradamus: lol I’m not playin… ring threads are fun to watch 🙂
Post # 12
@Joctradamus: She is right.
There was a poll recently about how much peoples’ rings cost.
49% of the 400 bees who answered had rings under $5,000.
Post # 13
When we went looking for rings I told him I wanted something small. We are broke college students so I didn’t want something worth a lot of money–that wouldn’t make me happy because I know we couldn’t afford it and honestly, I would rather that money go into moving out of the country or getting done with school first. My ring is personal to me because it is the dream ring I fell in love with, the one that he proposed to me with, and the one that I wanted because it was smaller than a lot of the ones we had seen.
I love my man, I don’t need something that is worth more than my car to prove that.
Note: for those of you who have larger, more expensive rings, there is nothing wrong with that at all, this is just my personal opinion as to what works for US.
Post # 14
My FI definitely spent more than I wanted him to spend on it. Although, I wouldn’t make him take it back either! If that’s what he wanted to spend, by all means, no complaints from this girl.
Otherwise, I would have been happy with a cracker jack ring!
Post # 15
@KatNYC2011: I totally agree with you on this.
I think so many of my male friends are scared to make that jump is because they just see dollar signs. These guys were truly reluctant to even talk about marriage because of that and that only.
They feel like it’s their obligation to dish out $$ for bling! I don’t think it should be about that.
But again, give me a $5k ring and watch me go. I’d be a liar if I denied that.
Post # 16
@Joctradamus: Dude, everytime we even speak about how much my engagement and wedding band cost my fiancee looks like he’s taking a dump. Face gets all distored like he’s got constipation. But he decided on those costs himself, so ts.
But seriously, its whatever each couple can handle I think. As long as theres love behind it.