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While i'm not AA my grandaughter is and my daughter uses Pantene Pro V leave in conditioner for women of color. I'm Puerto Rican and don't have "curly" hair but i have really thick hair and i've used it too love it.
@judya64:Oh wow! Thanks hun. Doesn't sound too expensive. Leave in conditioners are sooooo important!!
BEST SHAMPOO - I use Pantene's Shampoo for relaxed and natural hair. It makes my hair soft (prior to the locking process) and easier to manage. My daughter's hair is natural and I use it on her hair as well. My back-up is the Olive Oil brand.
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER- same thing..Pantene or Olive Oil
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER - I don't use leave in conditioner on my hair or my daughters. I find that the leave in conditioner usually makes my daughter's hair puffier so I stick to regular shampoo and conditioner.
BEST CREAMS- Soft Sheens Light pink oil moisturizer. I like it b/c it soaks right into the hair. The regular kind is too thick for my daughter's spongy hair. Our hair texture is like cotton...really soft and spongy but very thick so I stick with light moisturizer. I also like the Olive Oil moisturizer as well.
BEST DETANGLERS - don't use
BEST COMBS, BRUSHES, NIGHTCAPS, PILLOWCASES - I am locking so no combs or brushes for me. I have two different caps...a silk cap and a kind of tight skull cap. My daughter is old school and still uses a head scarf or stocking cap. We both use regular pillows. For her hair. I always use a wide tooth comb with rounded teeth. Anything else will have her in agony. I also use a paddle/wig brush for her hair for the same reason. I have a small tooth comb that I use when I am braiding her hair to part it, but I don't actually comb with that. I also have a regular brush that I use for her edges.
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC. I use the same technique for detangling and combing. I use the wide tooth comb and I separate the hair in little sections combing it through until I can get the comb through easily. I comb from the ends of the hair towards the root a little at a time so it won't hurt. I put a rubber band in that section then move on to the next until it's all combed. For curl defining, I use Olive Oil's hair putty to two-strand twist my daughter's hair. Once it air dries, I seperate the twists with my fingers and let her wear it like that.
Sharing is caring!!! LOL!!!!!
BEST SHAMPOO: Miss Jessie's (super slick or something)
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER: Herbal Essensce Totally Twisted
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER: Miss Jessie's Baby Buttercreme or any other Miss Jessie's product
BEST CREAMS: What do you mean?
BEST DETANGLERS: Don't use a detangler.
BEST COMBS, BRUSHES, NIGHTCAPS, PILLOWCASES: I only use a wide tooth comb in the shower. I don't use a brush. I have a stretchy self-tie head scarf that I bought in South Africa... I REALLY need a new one but can't find the same material anywhere here. I use a regular pillowcase.
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC.: I was told to only detangle when you have conditioner in, and your hair must be pretty wet. Comb from the bottom to the root to get tangles out (but I actually go from root to botton). I fingerstyle my hair and only use a comb in the shower. I don't use any curl defining products that I know of, my curls stand out the best when I fingerstyle and I comb about twice a week... which means I wash my hair about twice a week.
Yay for all the natural girls! :)
**Note, I have very tight curls, that are similar to "Z"s and my hair is about 1.5 inches long when you stretch it out. But without stretching it, it's pretty short :)
@JamaicaBride:Fine tooth comb = yowza!!! I made that mistake only once and she just about hit the ceiling fan! Ha!! Plus, it frizzes out her curl definition so your are right about just using them when parting the hair and that is it!!!
@kperry3: Re: "BEST CREAMS: What do you mean?". Just that some women use oil moisturizers and some of the different butters and call them creams. Can I get "Miss Jessie's" products anywhere? They sound pretty interesting....
@katieebee: Oh, well I probably wear creams then... not leave-in conditioner. I dunno. Miss Jessie's is SO good I love her products! Warning, they are expensive, but they are worth it and tend to last long in my opinion. My Target now sells them (thank the LORD) but beforehand I bought them online. I bet they will have them somewhere in Houston though. I buy mine from www.urbanbella.com They are a natural hair salon in Atlanta and sell all kinds of products for natural hair, including Curls (which are good products as well). You can also go to www.missjessies.com to see where they sell all their products. Gosh I love them :)
I use Miss Jessie's Curly Pudding to do my two strand twists!
Miss Jessie's products are found at Target, but are pricey and do not necessarily contain the best ingredients. Target also has a very good selection of products for curly/natural hair.
BEST SHAMPOO I really like "Yes To Carrots"
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER "Yes To Cucumbers"
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER "Giovanni Direct Leave-In" or "Carol's Daughter Black Vanilla"
BEST CREAMS Carol's Daughter has some products that work well in my hair and don't leave an awful greasy look, but I prefer to use Tea Tree Oil or Coconut Oil (Trader Joes/any grocery store)
BEST DETANGLERS I use my fingers to detangle and a wide-tooth comb under the shower with conditioner in my hair
BEST COMBS, BRUSHES, NIGHTCAPS, PILLOWCASES Brushing curly/kinky curly hair can be a bad idea. I know some people who do it, but I remember my hair being brushed as a kid...total nightmare.
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC.
Good luck!
This is really cool. So glad to be getting so many responses and so many suggestions!!!
I haven't found a shampoo or conditioner that I would consider the "best". Right now I use Main and Tail Shampoo and Conditioner.
I think:
Miss Jessie's Curly Meringue is good for two strand twists and Miss Jessie's Baby Butter Creme is great for moisturizers. I think creamy moisterizers work best for my hair.
I think Organix Coconut conditioner is great for making my hair soft.
I don't use products that contain sodium laurel sulfate or sodium laureth sulfate (sulfates). Most shampoos contain these ingredients, which are also found in laundry detergent & dish soap. Way too harsh for hair (IMO).
I also don't use any products that contain Mineral Oil (liquid petroleum jelly) as it coats the hair and attracts dust and dirt. It also makes it more difficult for air and moisture to penetrate the hair and requires harsh detergents (sulfates) to wash it out (thus stripping the hair).
I also stay away from silicones (I will use water-soluble ones occasionally) as they will smooth the hair and make it feel soft and silky at first, but then over time, feel more dry and coarse.
BEST SHAMPOO -
I'm not a fan of shampoo, so I only use it maybe once every other week or so & in between, I wash my hair with conditioner. But when I do use shampoo, it's always Jane Carter Solution Hydrating Invigorating Shampoo. It has no sulfates to strip the hair and leaves it clean & moisturized
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER
Aubrey Organics Honeysuckle Rose or Rosa Mosqueta Conditioner (Whole Foods, Vitamin Shoppe) or Bioinfusion Hydrating Conditioning Balm (Walgreen's) are great for a deep conditioner for use on dry hair. I applt either one BEFORE washing my hair and let it sit with a plastic cap (heat is great too for extra conditioning) for about 30 minutes, then wash & condition as usual.
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER
Tresemme Naturals Nurishing Moisture Conditioner (supermarkets & drugstores)- a little goes a long way and leaves my curls soft, shiny & defined without any feeling of crunch or build-up.
BEST CREAMS
Jane Carter Solution Curl Defining Cream (online only) - don't add more product, just a little bit of water to redefine the curls.
All natural ingredients and only takes a little bit to define my curls AND reactivates with water so the next day, I don't add more product, just a little bit of water to redefine the curls.
BEST DETANGLERS
Whichever conditioner I am usubg works as a detangler for me
BEST COMBS, BRUSHES, NIGHTCAPS, PILLOWCASES
Wide-tooth combs, Denman (or Denman type) brushes with padded base & smooth plast bristles WITHOUT ball on the end.
No nightcaps
Satin or silk pilowcase
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC.
@tootietoo2:More good info!!!! Thanks for sharing! So how are you wearing your hair for the wedding?
(BTW) My little sister's nickname is Tootie!
@katieebee: Sadly, I gave in to peer pressure and wore my hair straight in a half up-half down style for our wedding. Halfway through the night, my hair was a bit frizzy from all of the dancing (and because it was humid during the day),
I usually wear my hair curly, but everyone seemed to think this is a "special event & you should wear it straight" so I did. Ironically, the night of our wedding my mom told me, "your hair would've looked lovely in your curls." She was the "straight hair ringleader!!"
I say "be yourself." I do have a bit of regret when I look at the wedding photos because I don't feel that I look "like me" with the straight hair. Just be comfortable and make sure you feel good about whatever style you choose.
@tootietoo2: Oh, and LOL @ the "Tootie" nickname. Mine actually has nothing to do with the Kim Fields character or my real name, it was a nickname given to me by an old boyfriend & really just between us, but it works great for online & I needed an avatar, so the "Tootie" photo just made sense :-)
Miss Jessie's: Swoon but so expensive.
I use everything by RUSK that is moisturizing. Plus Garnier serum and spray gel.
I've had locks twice (a little over 3 years with this set) but in between I was a loose natural.
BEST SHAMPOO: I did the no-poo method because I found shampoos really dried my hair. When I did use shampoo I would use Mane & Tail or diluted Tea Tree Oil Shampoo from Dr. Bronner's.
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER: I can't recommend a brand--but one of the best things for me (and I still use with my locks) is an ACV (apple cider vinegar) rinse. Put a little of that in a spray bottle with water and it not only cleans your hair of any build up, it also makes it softer and more manageable.
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER: I love Carol's Daughter Black Vanilla--I still use it on my locks.
BEST DETANGLERS: Just used diluted conditioner in a spray bottle.
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC.: The best tip I used for detangling was to make 4-6 braids or twists in my hair before getting in the shower to wash my hair. I shampooed with the braids in and then conditioned each braid separately, unbraiding or untwisting it and detangling with the conditioner and then retwisting/rebraiding. It takes a long time the first few times until you get the hang of it--but it helps prevent breakage and retain length.
I have extra curly, somwhere between kinks and spirals, mixed hair. It's taken me awhile to get it to where it is, and while my particular recommendations might not work for everyone, you'll probably see a few similarities. Also, I believe in spending money on high-end products if they work for you; I find cheap products = cheap ingredients. Not across the board, but nothing by Garnier does anything for me! It's worth it to me to spend a little extra, and put in the extra time and effort to keep my hair healthy. So here are my best recs:
BEST SHAMPOO I don't use shampoo. Ever. But because I use a good amount of product on my hair, I need something that really deep cleans my scalp without stripping my hair. I love Devchaun's No Poo, and I try to cleanse every other week if I can manage it.
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER Tough one, because I don't really use what some might consider a daily moisturizing conditioner. I use both a protein conditioner and moisturizing deep conditioner. I find that curls, particularly the kinkier they are, need both. Until about a few months ago, I was condition-washing (basically coating the mid-shaft to ends of the hair with conditioner and using cleanser or shampoo only on the roots), but I have been doing weekly pre-wash treatments so I don't really need to do the conditioning part anymore. I second the Apple Cider Vinegar rinse, which I usually do after the cleansing. You can even add a few drops of some essential oils (rosemary and/or lavender are good) to cut the smell and add softness. If my hair is feeling particularly dry, I won't rinse out the ACV. Then I use a protein-based conditioner (I currently alternate between Aphogee 2 min Keratin Treatment and Organix Instant Repair Cocoa Butter conditioners) for just a few mins and rinse. Then I deep condition with Mixed Chicks deep conditioner for the rest of my shower (usually 5-8 mins) and rinse with lukewarm to cool-ish water.
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER
Hands down, Phyto Organics Luxxe Tresss by Nexxus. It's a really rich spray leave-in that does wonders for my hair. I often follow it with Mixed Chicks Leave-in Conditioner, which is creamier.
BEST CREAMS
I love Curls Curly Q's Curly Custard, even though it's *technically* for the youngins. I love that it knocks out my frizz, and I use that in the winter when my hair is drier. And then the best hold without drying or getting crunchy is the Ouidad Climate Control gel. I also find that Alterna's Hemp Straightening Balm (oddly enough) atually gets rid of frizz, so I usually mix a little bit of that in too!
BEST DETANGLERS
I just use the leave-in(s) above.
BEST COMBS, BRUSHES, NIGHTCAPS, PILLOWCASES
I rarely ever use any of these. My hands are generally good enough to do a good detangling, and my hair gets SUPER knotty. I find combs just ruin my curl pattern and actually cause frizz. Brushes are generally a big no-no, though I use a boar bristle brush when I'm putting my hair up to tame the frizz and make it smooth. And I just started sleeping on a satin pillowcase, which I recommend to help stop breakage and keeps the frizzies away.
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC. Only manipulate curls when they are wet - otherwise you get frizz and tangles and a hot mess! lol. I generally leave in a little bit of conditioner. I spray my whole head down with the Luxx Tress, and I then I section off my hair - 4 - 10 sections depending on what I'm going to do next. Then I mix my styling products (curl creme, anti-frizz, gel, etc.) and apply them to each section. I either do a two strand twist, taking 1-2" sections of hair, split them in half and twist together from the root down, leave in overnight, and untwist and fluff a little in the AM. OR I rake the product through smaller sections of hair, twist any unruly pieces around my fingers, and go! Then I use Twisted Sista's 30 second curl spray every day to moisturize and refresh my curls, and to re-curl any majorly frizzy bits.
Whew! That's alot! But as I said, I probably put more time and effort into maintaining my hair than most, but the results are worth it! I hope this was helpful!
I've been natural for about 2.5yrs... but have only been wearing my hair out for 1.5 of that... still figuring some stuff out, but here's my .02:
BEST SHAMPOO
Don't really like to use shampoo because it's drying to my hair. I only use it once or twice a month. When I do I use Carol's Daughter Tui Shampoo. Smells heavenly & doesn't dry me out.
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER
I love Yes to Cucumbers & Yes to Tomatoes. Also Jessicurl weekly deep treatment. Oh and if you don't have a steamer, it's a good investment. I really notice a difference.
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER
Ehh... I usually just add water to one of my good conditioners so that it's not as thick & use it as a leave in. That's all most leave -ins are anyway... watered down versions of the regular conditioner..
BEST CREAMS
I recently tried Carol's Daughter Hair Milk curl definer & I love it. I spray my hair with water +Aloe every morning then put the Hair milk on... makes my hair very soft & moisturized without being greasy.
BEST DETANGLERS
I use Aussie Moist conditioner in the shower with a wide tooth comb.. best thing ever! It's cheap too... you can get a ginormous 33oz bottle with a pump at Walgreens for like 7 bucks or less.
I have locs as well and a ACV (apple cider vinegar) rinse is the truth. My hair gets a nice sheen cause it takes away the product build up.
BEST SHAMPOO
I love ORS Aloe.
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER
I deep condition after every wash with Aubrey Organics Honeysuckle Rose mixed with a tad of coconut oil. I LOVE this stuff.
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER
I love Lacio Lacio and I also spray in some Aphogee green tea keratin spray.
BEST CREAMS
If I need extra moisture I use Jane Carter's Nourish and Shine. A pea sized amount. A little goes a LONG way.
BEST DETANGLERS
BEST COMBS, BRUSHES, NIGHTCAPS, PILLOWCASES
I use the Jibere shower comb to detangle in the shower and a denman brush to detangle every now and then. Satin pillowcase
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC.
I make sure to detangle with hair full of condish. I don't comb except for detangling in the shower under running water.
Just for reference purposes, my hair texture is 4B with some 4A sections.
BEST SHAMPOO
Because I have dermatitis on my scalp, I HAVE to use shampoo and shampoo my hair every 5 - 7 days. If you find shampoo too drying for your hair, you probably should switch to one without sulfates. The only shampoos that I use are the ones on the Organix product line or Trader Joe's shampoos.
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER
Again, anything on the Organix line, also Hello Hydration by Herbal Essences. You didn't ask for Deep Conditioners which I use heavily and can help with moisture. I use Lustrasilk Shea Moisture as a deep conditioner.
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER
The leave in conditioner I use is Infusium 23
BEST CREAMS
I use Hawaiian Silky 14-n-1
BEST DETANGLERS
A wide tooth comb in the shower
BEST COMBS, BRUSHES, NIGHTCAPS, PILLOWCASES
A wide tooth comb in the shower. Covering your hair with a silk/satin cap while you sleep.
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC.
My staple look is a 2-strand twistout. I've been natural for almost 4 years and have noticed my hair texture change from an all 4B to 50% 4B and 50% 4A. When my hair was all 4B, I could do a twistout with NO product whatsoever. But since it's changed, I have to apply Hawaiian Silky 14-n-1 and Curl Activator Gel just to get my twists to maintain their definition.
I think the most important thing is listening to what your hair wants and needs to make it act the way you want it to.
BEST SHAMPOO: Deva No-Poo
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER: Deva Heaven in hair (great deep conditioner), Ouidad curl quencher is AMAZING, and a GREAT detangler
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER: Giovanni, and I also use Kinky Curly
BEST COMBS, BRUSHES, NIGHTCAPS, PILLOWCASES: Denman brush is the best for sure,
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC.
I find co-washing once a week, and washing with the no poo and deep conditioner seems to be working well. I then brush through my hair with a leave-into small sections and use the shingling method. I put the kinky curly gel over it to hodl it in place,
Alright, here are my favorite products:
BEST SHAMPOO
I pretty much have sworn off sulfates, so I use HairOne. It's Sally's knockoff of WEN hair products. But lately, I have just been using what I have around the house - Suave Humectant, Garnier Fructis.
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER
I like Aussie Moist, Suave Humectant, Herbal Essences Hello Hydration, Garnier Fructis, even V05. But I believe deeply in DEEP CONDITIONERS and I alternate between a protein one and a moisture one. My favorites are: Lustrasilk, Organic Root Stiumlator's Replensihing Conditioner, and Organic Root Stimulator's Hair Mayonnaise. LOVE THEM!
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER
I like Garnier Fructis and lately I've been using Cantu Shea Butter leave-in when I do my twists. It doesn't work well with gels, so keep that in mind. But it's a find moisturizer if you use a little oil with it.
BEST CREAMS
I don't use a lot of cream based moisturizers, but I've had good experience with Cantu Shea Butter leave-in, Organic Shea Butter. I use water-based moisturizers like S-Curl and now that I'm twisting my hair Wave Nouveau Finishing Lotion (again, something I had left over from my relaxed days that I'm trying to use up).
BEST DETANGLERS
I don't really use a formal detangler, but S-Curl works well! Also just throwing in some conditioner when you detangle.
BEST COMBS, BRUSHES, NIGHTCAPS, PILLOWCASES
I like the Tangle Teaser! But I try not to use it often. I use a Wide-tooth comb and a regular boar brush for when I'm trying to slick it back. But again, I try not to do this often. I sleep in a satin bonnet. And I have a satin pillowcase, but I rarely use it because of the bonnet.
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC.
Curl defining really depends on the product and grade of hair, but I swear by using a protein conditioner (my curls POP after I use one), a good leave-in conditioner, and using gel. You could also define/create curls through styling, by doing a braid-out, bantu knot-out, a twist-out, rod set, straw set, etc. Check out Youtube for tutorials or LongHairCareForum.com for tutorials and more information. These two sites have been sooooo invaluable to me in my hair journey.
Dentangling, I would look up tutorials, too. But I use my wide-tooth comb and a Tangle Teaser. I only detangle on wet hair with conditioner in it.
Combing, I don't comb my hair very often, but I try to do it on damp (not wet), moisturized hair. I never use a small-tooth comb, but I plan on doing so when I do a roller set in a couple weeks.
Really, the key is moisture! And not manipulating the hair too much. Hope this helps :)
BEST SHAMPOO
I haven’t found one I love yet, I usually only shampoo once or twice a month. I Co wash about once a week
BEST MOISTURIZING CONDITIONER
Mayo mixed with one egg –gross but my mom used to use it on me as a kid and I find that it makes my hair really soft and shiny.
BEST LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER
Kinky Curly Knot today
BEST CREAMS
I mix my own. My favorites are shea, mango, sweet almond butters and coconut, olive, grapeseed, sweet almond oil, tea tree, and vitamin e oil.
BEST DETANGLERS
Kinky Curly Knot today
BEST COMBS, BRUSHES, NIGHTCAPS, PILLOWCASES
A wide tooth comb, I use a boor bristle brush when I wear a pony tail or bun. I keep meaning to switch to a satin or silk pillow case but haven’t made the transition yet.
BEST TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR DETANGLING, COMBING, CURL DEFINING, ETC
I only comb my hair when it soaking wet with conditioner or Knot today. I use a spray bottle when I put my hair up in a ponytail or bun and a brush.
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1. I have no problem with relaxed hair. **MY** hair is relaxed. My 13 yr old DAUGHTER'S hair is natural. Although we are mother and daughter, we have 2 very different hair textures. LOL. We are trying to get it in it's best curl and best condition before we start trials for styles for her hair for the wedding.
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