Post # 1
Ok so long story short, 3 of his close friends are getting married another 2 just got engaged.
3 of my friends got married and another one is getting engaged in 1 month (i secretly know this since her bf told me =0)
Lately MY Boyfriend or Best Friend has been asking me questions such as…. how much did they pay for their rings, what sizes did they get … and that he plans on spending such and such amount of $ for a ring…. ahhhh i wanna know why is he asking this…. we have been together for 1.5 yrs and i knew him 3 years ago also… he has also mentioned hints that at this age we shouldnt waste time he is 29 im 28
Im so tempted to suggest browsing for rings one day but dont wanna push the envelope!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 3
Maybe he is tryng to get a ballpark figure of how much he needs to save IF he hasnt already bought a ring. Maybe you could bring up the topic in a non-pushy way.
Post # 4
im going through the same thing… wait a little bit (e.g. dont push the envelope). he’s talking about it with you so its not like he’s running the other way from the idea of engagement/marriage, so let him get there on his own terms. If a lot of time passes and you feel you’re not making ‘progress’ towards marriage and thats what you want in terms of committment, then you should bring it up. theres an undefined, intangible balance between pushing too much and not voicing what you awnt out of a relationship (it isnt 1900, you can be vocal ).
The best advice: Focus on enjoying your relationship in the present, he will ask when he’s ready, and you don’t want him before he’s ready 🙂
Post # 5
I didn’t want to pressure him into going ring shopping when we first started talking about marriage, but I really wanted him to know my taste. So, I brought it up to him in that way… learning my taste in jewelry for future reference… ta da… magic!!
So, I went e-ring shopping by myself! I went to a few of the popular jewelry sites and found 5-6 rings in the style that I loved and tried on at the mall without Boyfriend or Best Friend to make sure that I liked them.
I sent him an email (that he knew was coming… I wouldn’t advise sending one unannounced!!) with the pictures of each ring. I told him what I liked about each ring, how much it was, and the website where he could go look at it.
Then… I hit send… and dropped the issue!!! It worked well, I got to try on rings, and Boyfriend or Best Friend didn’t feel too pressured too soon.
Eventually (read: a year and a half later… dang it all haha), he asked me to go look at rings, and I ended up choosing the one that I wanted (and am still waiting for… sigh), but for us, this worked really well to bring up the subject without being overly pushy. 🙂