(Closed) All or nothing – my mom’s aunts and uncles

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

this would make them your great aunt & uncles???  i became a great aunt in March and i would be very hurt if in 20 odd years time from now if my brother was invited to our great nephews wedding but i wasnt so my vote is that you invite them all to keep the family peace

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I’m a bit torn on this situation. I too have some family I’d like to invite and others I would rather not pay for. However, in order to keep the peace, I am inviting all of my aunts and uncles as well as some of the cousins. My mom actually told me not to bother inviting them. But well my grandparents would be hurt and disapointed and I could never do that to them. And since we can afford it, well why not.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m in a similar situation.  At first I refused to have anyone there that I’d never met or don’t know that well at all.  But somehow family makes that change.  If I were in your situation, I’d decide, is it better to hurt some people feelings that you don’t know well (and remember, with regard to weddings, SOMEONE’s feelings always end up hurt at some point), or save a lil extra money and have just the people you’re closest with.  But, to be honest, I’ve tended to go toward the avoiding hurt feelings and HOPING they don’t show up anyway.  Good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think you need to invite all people of equal relationship. I would love to pick and choose which cousins I invite… but too much drama.

Post # 7
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1111 posts
Bumble bee

I’d go for all/none.  My family is in a similar situation, everyone is near and info travels pretty fast.  It would stir up all sorts of ridiculous drama and pettiness, and blah.  

I would guess that you could invite them and hope that they do not show.  

Post # 8
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4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would have to agree with the other posters, it really is all or none. unfortunately i think i will have a similar problem and haven’t yet made a decision!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would invite them. In 10 years I would look back and feel guilty about not including them, so I would bite the bullet and send them invites.

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