- Gwen von D
- 8 years ago
I’m a long time lurker, first time poster! I find this bored to be great for lady’s in waiting like myself. I’ve read through some of the posts and found that I have so much in common with so many of you. Here is a little background on me:
I dated a guy for 6 years when I was 22 years old. He proposed and I was ecstatic! As I started to plan the wedding he was planning the break-up. Meaning… He vented to friends about how he did not want to get married, and even said extremely harsh things to me so that I would break up with HIM, just so that he wouldn’t feel guilty about dumping me. With all of this going on and me having no clue, he still managed to come with me to check out venues, etc. Finally he had the b*lls to dump me. I was devastated. Got terrible ill, and extremely depressed.
Fast forward to present day: I am a happy 29 year old (I’ll be 30 in one month) and I have been dating a wonderful man for 3 years (well, our 3 yr. anniversary will be on Aug. 18th), and have been living together for one year on August 1st. I was dead against living together before marriage, but he promised that things would progress fairly quickly with respect to our relationship because he was brought up with the same traditions and values as myself. Unfortunately after one month of living together he got laid off. That was a big hit for us and we struggled financially for 4 months. However, just before Christmas last year he found a great job and has been there ever since. Things were going smoothly until… BAM! He got into a car accident. He was ok, but the car was a complete write-off. On the bright side though, he got $4300 for his car and a cheque for $1300 from his insurance company is in the mail.
…Obviously I’m a little tempted to find out what he’s going to do with all that money! We have never been the type of couple to have nice things just ‘handed’ to us, or be lucky enough to have things just ‘fall into our laps’, and we joke about that sometimes. So when he received all that money, I told him that perhaps we should use the money wisely… Put some of our words into action! We’ve discussed marriage, kids, etc. many many times and we’re ready. But as you can see, there have been a lot of set-backs. For example: Last year he was walking up to my dad to ask for permission to marry me, when suddenly my brother jumped into the convo and said: “Did you happen to notice what’s on my girlfriends finger?? We’re engaged!!”
Anyhoo… Sorry for the long post, lol. Any advice on how to wait patiently?? Or get my mind off of the subject? I’ve read Mr. Bee’s Back-up Plan and I’m starting that this week. *fingers crossed that it works*.