All the little things that went wrong

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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873 posts
Busy bee

Wow, I say this with intended kindness and gentleness but sweety you need to find a way to get over these things. Yes I can see being disapointed or annoyed with the things that happened but they are not worthy of constantly crying over 2 weeks later. If it was done to your parents and they thought it funny enough to do again then it obviously didn’t effect them the way it did you, unless they are known for being purposely cruel.

This is a very special time in the life of newlyweds, try your best to just enjoy being married and in love. try to focus on the things that went right in your day. can share any of the highlights of the day with us?

Post # 4
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1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Why are you harping on what went wrong instead of thinking about what went right?  You can’t change what went wrong, so why dwell on that stuff? 

Post # 7
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873 posts
Busy bee

I am glad making that list was helpful. Try to just remember these things as much as possible, over time this will get easier

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

What about getting ready with your girls?  Walking down the aisle?  Saying “I do” and kissing your husband for the first time he’s your official husband? Taking your wedding photos, your first meal as a couple, cutting the cake, dancing with your girls? 

And, seriously, why did your father (or anyone for that matter) not remove your mother from the dance floor? 

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

First, *hugs* You have the right to be upset, especially about the first dance. That was really inconsiderate and rude.

Our wedding day is supposedly the “best day of our lives,” but I do not think that that is true, nor should it be. The days to come with your new hubby are the ones that will be the best ones. You married him for a lifetime, not just a wedding day.

Try and find within yourself exactly WHY these things stuck out as being really upsetting to you. Go into the minutest details. This helps me get over things because it helps me understand why I am feeling a certain way.

Another thing my mother always taught me was “Ten, ten, ten” Go through with yourself how these upsetting things will affect you in ten days, ten weeks, and ten years. It realy puts things in perspective.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Young-Rodriguez:  I can understand being annoyed by all this. But try to continue focusing on the positive. Also – this is something that happened to your parents? So try to keep that in mind, this is now a “tradition” and eventually you’ll think it’s funny (and maybe do it to your own daughter hahaha). If you want to have romantic momets, whick your husband away to a romantic hotel for a night. Or have a photographer do a “romance” shoot w u and ur FI all dressed up in your wedding attire. 

Post # 12
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m genuinely sorry that these things that went wrong have upset you so much. I say this, though, with the nicest possible intentions behind it–if you are constantly crying for two weeks after the fact over these things, then it’s going to be very difficult for you when life hits you with some real obstacles. If you can’t let this go and if it’s affecting you like this, it might be best for you to talk to someone who can help you develop some coping skills and techniques. 

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