Post # 1
My fiance’s grandfather who I was very close with passed away a week before his birthday (which happened to fall on Thanksgiving) from cancer. This was very unexpected since he was diagnosed on Monday and passed away Wednesday morning.
Well, I was going through the guest list to do invitations and I came across his grandparents names and it brought up a lot of emotions. I remember from the first time that I met him he wanted me to marry his grandson, every day I saw him he was asking about grandbabies and was always telling us that we needed to hurry up and get married and have his great grandchildren before he died (always joking of course). We sat up some nights talking about how he knew what he was going to say to certain family members and even had an outfit picked out. Its hard to come to terms with the fact that he is not going to be able to be there on our wedding way.
I want to do something in his honor at the wedding but since the wedding is in June, I don’t want everyone crying because he is not there. I know that he will be there watching over us. I would still like some way for him to be there. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Post # 3
Maybe something in the program? Like a separate page… Or a separate small table with a photo and a candle? Or, you could reserve a chair and keep it empty, unless you think it would be too distracting during the ceremony.
My aunt passed away a couple years ago, and I find that small visual displays have been a really good way to memorialize her and remember her, while not having an overflow of emotions. It’s possible, since you don’t want everyone crying (and I totally understand), that if you were to verbally recognize him, that could bring on the waterworks.
Good luck, and I’m sorry for your loss. It’s never easy, no matter how much time goes by.
Post # 4
So sorry for your loss. Why don’t you put a framed wedding photo (or other photo) of your fiance’s grandfather and grandmother somewhere in the venue, like next to the guest book?
Or you could incorporate something he liked during the day, for example if he had a favourite drink you could have that as your signature drink or play his favourite song for your first dance.
Post # 5
Thank you guys for the ideas. These are really good ways to make him a part of the day without it being too overwhelming.