- 6 years ago
So I know that I’ve been posting a lot lately, and I must say I think these boards have really been helping me work through my anxiety.
Anyways, if you read any of my last few posts you will know that SO and I revisited the marriage talk after 2 years a few weeks ago. While we have differences in feelings of how a legal marriage will make us feel or how it will change our relationship, we do both agree that we are going to get married and that the courthouse is where we will do it. (I know this may sound like I’m not waiting anymore, but until he proposes or we at least agree on a date to make a trip to the courthouse, I’m going to stay here)
I digress…Tuesday is our 7 year anniversary, which also happens to be SO’s one day off a week. I joked with him Monday night about going to the courthouse on [next] Tuesday and getting married. I told him I could play hooky and we could spend the day together. He didn’t object, but he didn’t agree either. I knew he wouldn’t jump all over the opportunity but still thought I’d test the waters. Well, I asked him about it again last night and he said that we could go on Tuesday, but it wouldn’t leave much time for a party. I was kind of taken back thinking that we could just have a party in the first or second week of September with our families. And then he goes on to tell me that he wanted it to be more like – we go to the courthouse, come home and have a party within a few days of it, just before we head off for a honeymoon.
A honeymoon?! I was floored! Here I had taken his nonchalant feelings towards getting married to be that he thought all the hooplah wasn’t really worth it, when it turns out he just doesn’t care how we get married, and since the courthouse is the most efficient and least expensive, that’s what makes sense to him. He said he still wants to do all the fun parts of getting married though. So now I feel dumb about the bitterness I’ve been feeling because here I had chalked up in my head that we would just saunter one day into the courthouse to be married, and then back to work the next day like it never happened. SO wants a honeymoon! I’m seriously over the moon 🙂