- 7 years ago
I recently wrote a post “make it or break it time”, about the BF who is not sure if I am “the one” and just absent from the relationship. Ever since then, the arguing never stopped, only became worse. I feel like I have totally given up on even trying to communicate and try to make things better. I know I need to move out, but just haven’t gotten the courage to do so just yet. I told him that I feel like I am trying to change everything about him by telling him how to think, what to say, what I want, how to feel, etc. I told him I want someone who all the things I want just come naturally. I know that it’s not fair to expect all this change out of one person, but it’s also not fair to expect myself to stay with someone like this. I feel like we are both just so different and need to be with someone who will fit with us both.
To add to the situation, I am probably going to get a new job which requires me to move six hours away from him. He’s not so keen about the idea and made it pretty clear that that he does not want to leave our current city and eventually move with me. He words are “I am going to be ready to settle down soon and I didn’t sign up to follow you all around the US until you find out exactly what it is you want to do.”
Weird this is, just over the past three days, I see him doing everything that I want him to do. Almost like he’s completely kissing by butt! We went to this wine festival (he does not care for wine at all) and did not complain not one time. He’s saying all these sweet things, cleaning/vacuuming, dishes. He’s even texting me again just to say that he loves me. Terrible thing about it is that I’m not even interested!! I wish he would just be an ass because then it would be easier to just move out!! I feel kinda bad thinking that it is just too late and and not giving him another chance, but I’m not too sure that I want to. PLUS, there has been nothing else mentioned about my potential job opportunity.