Post # 1
I can’t believe the amount of people involved in our wedding as ceremony participants or as attendees telling me that I’m doing it wrong compared to every other wedding they have supposedly been involved with. Its really driving me quite mad…
– So apparently you’ve NEVER been involved with a wedding where the significant others of the wedding party have also been invited to the rehearsal dinner? Well, guess what – I’m not telling my bridesmaid’s husband that flew in from D.C. that he has to sit in the hotel while we are off having dinner.
– So you’ve NEVER EVER EVER SEEN in your life a wedding processional that is just the bridesmaids while the groomsmen are at the front of the church waiting with the Groom? Well, guess what – most of the weddings I have been to have the bridesmaids walk up individually and then walk back down the aisle with their respective groomsman at the end. And that’s what aesthetically I like so that’s what we are doing.
– So you’ve never been to a wedding that had just a flowergirl and not a ringbearer? Well, guess what? We wouldn’t be having any kids in the wedding at all but my niece that I’ve waited years for was born last year and she is the flower girl. Picking a ringbearer would’ve caused division in the family so we left that out.
– So you’ve never been to a Friday afternoon wedding and think that if we have it on a Friday that we should have planned it for 6 pm instead of 3:30 pm? Well, guess what – if we had it at 6 pm, you all would’ve been driving in rush hour traffic to get there. This way you can check into the hotel, change, take the shuttle over and enjoy the afternoon.
– So you’re the girlfriend of a groomsman and you tell the Best Man that if your boyfriend walks down the aisle with a “pretty girl” there is going to be Hell to pay? Well, guess what – then don’t come to our wedding. I’m having them walk down the aisle at the end of the ceremony, not giving them a hotel key and telling them to consummate a friendship.
Sorry to rant, but I’m so tired of people telling me what they think I should do/not do. Anyone else going through anything like this?
Post # 3
I’m sorry people are crappy 🙁 I haven’t experienced them but I imagine it’s because I would probably respond with “well looks like you WON’T have to worry about seeing the difference, because you won’t be joining us!”
Post # 4
I had my bridesmaids walk alone down the aisle before me while the groomsmen waited with my now Darling Husband. screw tradition honestly! I’m all for it! 😛
Post # 5
that’s rough. people have opinions about everything and weddings just bring out the crazy in everyone!! just smile and say “that’s nice. this is how we are doing it”.
Post # 6
We didn’t get any criticism about any of these things, but if it makes you feel better…
The significant others of our wedding party were invited to all of our wedding events.
Our bridesmaids walked down the aisle alone. The groomsmen were already up front.
We had just a ring bearer, no flower girl.
Post # 7
Other than the Friday afternoon wedding time, most of those things are pretty much standard. Maybe it’s been a long time since any of the commenters have been to a wedding!
Post # 8
I like the pretty girl threat… Maybe you could have a line-up and let the girlfriend pick out which one of your friends is ugly enough to walk down with her boyfriend.
She sounds like a gem!
Post # 9
People are just rude. There’s no way to do your own wedding wrong. The fact that they’ve never been to a wedding with any of these things (and they clearly don’t get out much) just means that your wedding will be a more special and unique experience then.
We are also inviting SO’s to the rehearsal, as well as an uncle and aunt who are flying in early and aren’t even in the wedding. Our groomsmen are waiting at the front, and we’re not even having any kids at our wedding. At all.
Post # 10
Unfortunately, that is exactly the reason why I do not talk to most people about our wedding plans. Although it is very tempting, after a few “well why don’t you do this” or “you should do this” I was already done and stopped telling everyone our plans. It is difficult, but too many opinions can equal you have someone else’s wedding and not your own. Now I just look at it as offering an element of surprise and it’s easier to dodge questions with general answers.
Post # 12
Omg. Everything you’ve listed, I’ve seen done at weddings!
Why wouldn’t SO be invited to the rehearsal dinner? It would be rude not to.
Our best man’s gf was a seriously piece of work too. Immature, rude..sounds like you have a fun one too! Hang in there!!
Post # 13
I’m surprised people even care about details so small as what you’ve listed. Wow.
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
This post made me laugh-not at you, at the other people. We did #1 and #2- whoever’s giving you crap about #1 needs to get an etiquette lesson from Emily Post:
“The guest list at a rehearsal dinner should include the members of the wedding party and their spouses…”
#4- Our wedding was a Friday at 6pm, and if I could go back and change one thing, I probably would have made it an hour earlier, so we could have had another hour at the reception.
#5- Love it. Dear Lord, I hope that groomsman doesn’t ever put a ring on it- that Girlfriend sounds like a piece of work. “not giving them a hotel key and telling them to consummate a friendship.” LOL!
The good thing is, it sounds like you’re maintaining a sense of humor about this. Keep calm and plan on! 🙂
Post # 15
OMG! Can’t believe what people are saying! First off, number 1 and 2 are the ONLY way I have ever seen things done! And that crazy gf can stay the heck home – it’s not like the groomsman is doing the deciding on who he walks down the aisle with! What a B!
Post # 16
We did almost ALL of those things! PLUS we had one extra Bridesmaid or Best Man, so one of the groomsmen had a girl on both arms!! WHOA!! STOP THE PRESSES!!!!
People need to get over it and realize that it is not their wedding. Do whatever you want the way YOU want it!! 🙂