(Closed) "All weddings I'VE ever been to…" Need to vent

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’m sorry people are crappy πŸ™ I haven’t experienced them but I imagine it’s because I would probably respond with “well looks like you WON’T have to worry about seeing the difference, because you won’t be joining us!”

Post # 4
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had my bridesmaids walk alone down the aisle before me while the groomsmen waited with my now Darling Husband. screw tradition honestly! I’m all for it! πŸ˜›

Post # 5
717 posts
Busy bee

that’s rough.  people have opinions about everything and weddings just bring out the crazy in everyone!!  just smile and say “that’s nice.  this is how we are doing it”.

Post # 6
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

We didn’t get any criticism about any of these things, but if it makes you feel better…

The significant others of our wedding party were invited to all of our wedding events.

Our bridesmaids walked down the aisle alone. The groomsmen were already up front.

We had just a ring bearer, no flower girl.


Post # 7
5758 posts
Bee Keeper

Other than the Friday afternoon wedding time, most of those things are pretty much standard. Maybe it’s been a long time since any of the commenters have been to a wedding!

Post # 8
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I like the pretty girl threat… Maybe you could have a line-up and let the girlfriend pick out which one of your friends is ugly enough to walk down with her boyfriend.


She sounds like a gem!

Post # 9
1358 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

People are just rude. There’s no way to do your own wedding wrong. The fact that they’ve never been to a wedding with any of these things (and they clearly don’t get out much) just means that your wedding will be a more special and unique experience then.

We are also inviting SO’s to the rehearsal, as well as an uncle and aunt who are flying in early and aren’t even in the wedding. Our groomsmen are waiting at the front, and we’re not even having any kids at our wedding. At all.

Post # 10
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Unfortunately, that is exactly the reason why I do not talk to most people about our wedding plans. Although it is very tempting, after a few “well why don’t you do this” or “you should do this” I was already done and stopped telling everyone our plans. It is difficult, but too many opinions can equal you have someone else’s wedding and not your own. Now I just look at it as offering an element of surprise and it’s easier to dodge questions with general answers.

Post # 11
4 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013


Post # 12
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Omg. Everything you’ve listed, I’ve seen done at weddings!

Why wouldn’t SO be invited to the rehearsal dinner? It would be rude not to.

Our best man’s gf was a seriously piece of work too. Immature, rude..sounds like you have a fun one too! Hang in there!!

Post # 13
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m surprised people even care about details so small as what you’ve listed. Wow.

Post # 14
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

This post made me laugh-not at you, at the other people. We did #1 and #2- whoever’s giving you crap about #1 needs to get an etiquette lesson from Emily Post:

“The guest list at a rehearsal dinner should include the members of the wedding party and their spouses…”


#4- Our wedding was a Friday at 6pm, and if I could go back and change one thing, I probably would have made it an hour earlier, so we could have had another hour at the reception.

#5- Love it. Dear Lord, I hope that groomsman doesn’t ever put a ring on it- that Girlfriend sounds like a piece of work. “not giving them a hotel key and telling them to consummate a friendship.” LOL!

The good thing is, it sounds like you’re maintaining a sense of humor about this. Keep calm and plan on! πŸ™‚

Post # 15
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

OMG! Can’t believe what people are saying!  First off, number 1 and 2 are the ONLY way I have ever seen things done!  And that crazy gf can stay the heck home – it’s not like the groomsman is doing the deciding on who he walks down the aisle with! What a B!

Post # 16
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We did almost ALL of those things! PLUS we had one extra Bridesmaid or Best Man, so one of the groomsmen had a girl on both arms!! WHOA!! STOP THE PRESSES!!!!

People need to get over it and realize that it is not their wedding. Do whatever you want the way YOU want it!! πŸ™‚

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