Allaying boyfriend's anxieties about ring/ceremony/everything else

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Busy bee

About his lack of close guy friends, would it be possible to have no wedding party or even just a really small one, just a MOH and Best Man? I’ve seen other bees that don’t have a wedding party and it seems to work out well for them. He might really appreciate you taking that pressure off him, so maybe throw it out there as an option. (Plus it will be easier for you too and avoid bridesmaid drama, win-win!)

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Suggest eloping?

Post # 4
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Busy bee

You don’t need a bridal party, or if he has one person then you can have one each. There is also nothing wrong with him having a best friend who is a woman stand up with him as long as you’re comfortable with that. Bridal parties don’t have to be split on gender lines. You also don’t have to have equal numbers on each side of the bridal party, but I know that some people don’t like that.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

andreanb:  I agree with other PPs re: small/no bridal party. Both FI and I have tons of people we can ask to be in a wedding party but few that we actually want. To avoid picking and choosing and possibly offending someone, we’re just each picking one person MOH/Best Man and having them as our witnesses.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think you need to be considerate of his feelings. If he doesn’t have any close guy friends it may be best to have a very small bridal party or none at all. I think it would make him feel bad if you had 6 or seven brides mades and he was all by himself.

Also, a lot of people “upgrade” their stone so that’s not a big concern. Have you looked into moissanite? Try not to push him too much if he has anxiety issues

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

andreanb:  Get a plain gold band (white or yellow) for the engagement, and then upgrade if you want later. My FI doesn’t have too many guy friends, so we are not having a bridal party, just a best man/maid of honor! Figure out what works for you, these are small issues that should not halt things. Also, talk to him, not us. We cannot really give any advice on what is a unique situation with two different individuals.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

You don’t need a fancy ring or fancy weddig! Plenty of people on this site have smal, simple weddings for 5k or under. Some get married at city hall and have a potluck at home for just a few hundred. That doesn’t make you any less married to the love of your life. You can get nice rings like moissanite or gemstones for under 1k or a small diamond solitaire (.25 carat maybe) set for under 1k from sites like James Allen 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

holy iPhone typos in my last post

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

My MOH was best man for her brother last year. Your bf doesn’t have to have men to have a best man or groomsmen if he happens to have more female friends. 

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