Post # 1
I got engaged at Christmas and have been struggling to wear my ring ever since. I have never had a problem with rose gold or sterling jewellery before but this white gold engagement ring causes my finger to go red and sore, then when I switch my ring to my other hand to give it some air it scabs over with dry skin and leaves visible scarring.
I went back to the jewellers who heat treated it which has now made it a yukky peach colour metal and now I can wear it for a fortnight before it starts causing me problems but I can’t keep switching it from one finger to the other for the rest of my life.
Is there anything else that can be done to the ring to help?
Also any advice on how to deal with my FI who is feeling a bit hurt and deflated by causing me pain and discomfort?
Post # 2
Eeks this sounds awful. Can you switch to platinum or palladium? Those are hypoallergenic from what I know. I would rather pay for a new setting than deal with sad scabby fingers. 🙁
Post # 3
I think I’ve read that you can put a clear coat of polish on just the inside part that touchea your finger ever so often, but I don’t know. Is there something the jeweler could dip it in, maybe?
Post # 4
Yea clear nail polish will work as a temp fix, but im not sure i would be willing to do that for the rest of my life eather it will wear off in a few weeks.
Post # 5
You’re most likely allergic to the nickel unfortunately. The only thing I can suggest besides resetting it would maybe be painting the inside with clear nails polish, or having it dipped in rhodium. Both would have to be done quite frequently though. :/
Post # 6
I’d be willing to bet that your white gold ring uses an alloy with nickel in it. Nickel allergies are really common. As others said, there are temporary fixes that may work, but your best bet in the long run is to have the ring reset in platinum, palladium, or yellow gold.
Post # 7
Your best bet is probably going to be having the ring remade in a metal that doesn’t give you an allergic reaction, like rose gold, platinum, or palladium. In the alternative (if you really wanted white gold), you could possibly see if the jeweler will remix the gold with palladium or platinum as the “white” metal. I believe a lot of white gold uses nickel in the mix, which is something that quite a few people react to.
I have read in other threads on here where ladies put clear polish on the inside of their rings to stop the reaction. For me, this wouldn’t be a good fix, as it’s not permanent. You would have to coat it again and again, as the polish will wear off. I don’t know if there’s any coating the jeweler can put onto the metal or not.
Having a metal allergy is hard! Not only is it painful, but it’s something that (often) you won’t find out about until someone gives you a really nice and expensive piece of jewelry that you want to wear all the time. That puts a huge amount of emotional pain into the mix, too. If it’s any consolation to your FI, this is not an uncommon thing. A lot of people have metal allergies to one thing or another. I have one, and I used to feel so weird and isolated because of it — until I came onto the Bee and discovered I definitely wasn’t alone!
Post # 8
Some shops also put nickle in their platinum so make sure you ask about that if you do plan to re-set.
Post # 9
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
B2BMay2015: I have a nickel allergy, you probably do too. Some white gold uses nickel to make the alloy (metal mixture) white. Many places don’t use nickel because it is such a common allergy, but unfortunately that’s what this sounds like. If you want the same look, your best be is to reset in a white gold that uses another white metal in the alloy (such as palladium).
Post # 10
As others have said, it is probably a nickel allergy. Sadly it is probably best in the long term to get a new setting, and make sure that it is nickel-free. I was amazed when I was shopping that in many big jewelry stores, 100% of their white gold rings had nickel in them. I am also allergic to nickel so I ended up getting mine in platinum, and have never had a single issue. Palladium is also good, but harder to find (a lot of jewelers don’t work with it).
Post # 11
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
B2BMay2015: I should add that my engagement ring is white gold, but it’s from a good independent jeweller and nickel isn’t used often in white gold alloys where I live. In fact I hadn’t heard of this issue until I came on here! I’ve only ever reacted to costume stuff (that came from the US!). So what I am saying is white gold is not out of reach, but you’ll need to deal with people who know what is in their rings.
Post # 12
Taiki: I was about to suggest having the ring reset on nickle free white gold too! My engagement ring is made with a nickel free white gold alloy too, as I’m quite allergic to nickle. Like you, I seem to have had a fairly easy time of finding nickle free white gold, as I think there’s been a a move towards nickle free jewellery across Europe over the recent years.
Post # 13
Thanks everyone, will be heading to the jewellers today to suss out the options.
Post # 14
I am highly allergic to nickel, and will have reactions within a few hours. My ring is platinum, and I’ve worn it nonstop for over three months with no issues.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Like others said sounds like nickel allergies, I made sure my white gold rings were nickel free (mine are made with palladium) and haven’t had any issues.