Allergic to heirloom ring and sad

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

If you are allergic to the metal, and they don’t want the ring reset, you don’t have any choice.  You have to start looking at other alternatives.  I mean, who would want a ring that they couldn’t wear?  

Post # 5
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

@Cordellia:  I completely understand how you feel.  Heirloom rings have history and the feelings attached are sentimental and I would definitely respect his fathers wish to keep the ring “intact”.   However, I would definitely make your feelings known to your future FIL, that while you may not be able to wear the ring, because of allergies, you would still love to have the ring so that you can pass it down to future generations.  Especially if your FI’s grandmother wanted him to have this ring.    

Post # 6
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldnt want my grandmothers rings “reset” then its not the ring is it, its just the stone. Not really the same.


Is there no way to have the whitegold sealed with another metal?

Post # 7
532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Is there a way a jeweler can test the metal? Or is it stamped with a gold hallmark?

Post # 8
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Cordellia:  Could you take it to a jeweler that specializes in older jewelry? I know little to nothing about rings but could you maybe have it “redipped” or plated with gold?


Post # 9
2071 posts
Buzzing bee

Redipping sounds like a good idea, but that would take an expert to answer that question n I ain’t no expert.

I can undestand how you would feel sad over it, but its not your fault. If you are alergic then well, you are alergic. Its not like you said “THAT RINGI IS UGLY” and threw it across the room.

I can also see how they wouldnt want to reset the ring.

Perhaps, if you are going to have chidlren, you could give it to your daughter at a later time to keep it in the family?

Post # 10
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have this problem with an heirloom ring that I did not want reset – I had it redipped, and then the jeweler (because I was too afraid to) to painted the bits that bugged me with clear nail polish. Not a joke.  I don’t wear it every day but now I can wear it. The nail polish doesn’t show. I wouldn’t have done that myself though!

Newer white gold rings don’t bother me, but old ones do.

Post # 11
2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Would it be possible for you to wear it around for a day to see if it irritates your skin? That’s what I would do.


The PP suggestions of having a jeweler look at it are good ideas as well.


Post # 12
7730 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Some jewelers do have a white gold plating that is nickel free, I believe it uses palladium instead. However, I would assume the nickel would start to bother you again whenever the plating started to wear off. Sorry I’m allergic to nickel too and it sucks!

Post # 13
7405 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Cordellia:  keep the ring, maybe you can pass it down to your children and they won’t be allergic.



Post # 14
765 posts
Busy bee

Actually antique white gold didnt have nickel in it so you’d probably be ok.  I have the same allergy 

Post # 16
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I feel your pain! I wore a cheap costume jewelry chain the other day and broke out in a rash on my neck and chest. So not pretty. When my FI proposed with an heirloom ring that had all the hallmarks worn away, I was so afraid that it would be white gold for this very reason! I’ve tried on a lot of antique rings (I can’t resist estate jewelry stores), and some white golds bother me and some don’t.

Can you wear the ring for a day and see? I think it would be worth the rash just to check. There is something so special about heirloom rings, knowing that they have history, and knowing their story. I love it when people ask me where my ring came from, and I have a great story to tell. This ring sounds so special, I think it would be worth wearing it around the house, and taking it to a skilled jeweler to see what could be done. It’s what I would have done if my ring had turned out to be white gold. 

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