Post # 1
So we are a few day out from the wedding (yay!) and now it seems like people are coming out of the woodwork with last minute problems/requests/changes, and I am so ready to snap!!
People have been giving us their food preferences disguised as allergies, and as a person with genuine, serious food ALLERGIES, this is driving me crazy. People have been messaging/calling and saying things like, “Could you let the kitchen know I don’t eat chicken?” (We are serving both chicken and beef on one plate – so if you just don’t eat it, why can’t you eat around it? Why do you need a special meal? Ahhhhhhh!)
We have a few people with actual food allergies, and then there are these other people. Seriously, you can’t just deal with it for one meal?
Truthfully though, I’m just making the changes. I’m at the point now where I just can’t be bothered. I just want to get through these next few days without flipping out haha I’m not usually the short-tempered type, but I don’t get why people can’t get it together!
Post # 3
@chercee: The gluten allergy has become a trend and people often use allergies to just be picky and annoying. I feel you. It sucks. They are stupid.
You will have an amazing wedding anyway 🙂
Post # 4
@MrsPanda99: Thanks! As someone with an actual gluten problem and a dairy problem (I will be seriously, seriously ill), I get annoyed when people use “allergies” to mean “I’m picky and don’t eat _________.” It’s really irritating, and I also worry sometimes that all this nonsense will draw attention away from those of us with legitimate food allergies. People are such babies. I have sat through my share of steak dinners (I don’t like red meat) and guess what? I haven’t starved to death. Pfft.
Post # 5
@chercee: Wow that sounds incredibly annoying. I have actual food allergies (peanuts, almonds, etc), which is why I usually prefer buffets, however I really don’t complain too much over a free meal no matter how it’s served.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
That’s why we chose to serve a buffet. Put what you want on your plate and shut up!
Post # 7
To be honest I don’t like buffets at weddings, and there is no space at our venue for one anyway. We figured by doing chicken, beef, and jumbo shrimp on everyone’s plate (minus legit allergies of course), there would be something everyone liked even if they didn’t like everything. (And we got a crazy good deal on the price, too!)
I think this really goes to show that no matter what, people are going to be picky and complain. I bet if we had done a buffet, people would still have found something to complain about. Ugh.
Post # 8
Well you’re a better person than I am! I’m not sure I would have made all these changes this close to the wedding. TBH I don’t know that my caterer would have allowed me to make changes!
Post # 9
@chercee: Something I learned about wedding planning: people love to complain. If it’s not about the food, it’s the centerpieces, or the chairs or drinks. The people that like to complain will always complain no matter what, so you just have to do what makes you happy and learn to ignore them.
Post # 10
I feel you on the fake allergy thing. I’ve got a food allergy and an intolerance (bananas and fish respectively). I hate that picky eaters make people so cavalier about something that can kill us.
Post # 11
@MrsBeck: We had to confirm Friday, so thankfully we got all the “last minuters” sorted out. If anyone comes forward at this point, we won’t be able to help them. I would hope, seriously, that people with legit allergies would have talked to us anyway. It’s not my responsibility to ask you if something will make you sick or die. When someone invites me to something, usually the first thing out of my mouth is, “I’d love to come, but since I have such severe allergies, I’ll bring my own food so you don’t have to worry about me.” It’s not hard.
@housebee: So completely true. People love any excuse to criticize this or that. It’s so ridiculous. Can’t we all just relax and have a good time?! Eat what you like, don’t eat what you don’t like, and don’t complain to the bride about it!
@Eckle: That’s exactly it. Now because gluten-free is “fashionable,” everyone assumes I’m just living this extra-healthy lifestyle, (“just like Gwenyth Paltrow!”) when in fact I’m trying not to be stuck in the loo for three days being sick out of both ends, thank you very much. :s Big difference.
Post # 12
How annoying for you! One of our guests who I have on facebook is doing the paleo diet for a month right now, which irks me because it looks like she’s just doing it for the attention of putting it on her blog and social media feeds. She didn’t mention the diet to me though, so she is getting a regular meal.
I was once out for dinner with a coworker who ordered a burger in a restaurant and asked for no tomato or lettuce and then said “allergies”. I asked him about it afterwards because I didn’t know you could be allergic to that stuff, and he told me he isn’t, just doesn’t like veggies. If you are going to be a super picky eater, at least be honest about it!
Post # 13
@chercee: Those people drive me CRAZY!
Pretend/fad gluten allergies is why we had to talk to our venue lady for like 40 minutes before she understood that one of our GM has EXTREMELY severe Celiac’s, and ANY touching of gluten to his food would cause him extreme illness.
She was like “Don’t worry! He can just take the bread off his plate! That’s what most gluten fee guests do”
And we were like “…No. His plate needs to be prepared seperately by someone wearing fresh gloves. This guy can’t eat oatmeal because it’s rotated with wheat when grown in fields. THAT little exposure will make him violently ill.”
Post # 14
@Little_Nut88: No offense to your co-worker, but that’s a seriously jerk move. Faking an allergy is like faking an illness – it makes life more difficult for real sufferers. In a restaurant, there’s no problem saying, “Hold the tomato” – they just won’t bring it. Yeesh. And again, if you don’t like it, EAT AROUND IT. For me with my gluten issue, eating around it isn’t possible because of cross-contamination. If that’s not the case, then seriously stop already.
I don’t get people wanting attention about their special diets. I hate having to tell people about it, dealing with restaurants – I always get so embarrassed and uncomfortable.
I’m surprised your paleo friend didn’t get in touch with you. The few paleos I know are pretty rabid about that.
Post # 15
@BrandNewBride: Oh wow, your poor GM! He and I sound very similar. It is so scary when people just think it’s a preference. I had someone offer to pick out my croutons once instead of making me a fresh salad. Um… no thanks.
Fad restrictions have made the allergy world so much harder to navigate – like it wasn’t hard enough already! I hope your venue lady finally got it figured out. If not, maybe your GM would like to pack his cooler instead! Scary!
Post # 16
The fake allergies drive me crazy, as does this stupid gluten free trend that’s going around. I was raised to appreciate what I’m given, and if I genuinely don’t like it, shut my pie hole and eat around it. I cannot imagine making such a big fuss over FOOD unless there was a legitimate reason for it (i.e. I will go into anaphylactic shock and die).